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Lily55
Lily55 Member Posts: 3,534
edited June 2014 in Mental Health: Because Cancer Doesn't Just Affect Your Breasts

Had a reasonable few weeks despite some test and things going on but now I am just sooo low, nothing has changed, my results were good but I am a tearful hopeless wreck again just feeling no good at anything and really hating the way I am physically.......exhausted by myself and failing at going for a daily walk which I keep promising myself...and want to do.............

I´ve read books, I knows its a process but I just want oblivion right now

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  • dlb823
    dlb823 Member Posts: 9,430
    edited March 2013

    Hi, Lily ~ So sorry to hear what you're going through, but as you said, it really is a process.  It took me a year to get to the point that bc wasn't an all-consuming negative in my life, and another year to begin to believe I might ever be really happy again.  And I think marking off those "cancerversaries" -- which you're coming up on #1 -- really helps.

    Other things that helped me, especially during those first two years, was putting on music to lift my spirits, walking outdoors (I eventually worked up to 5+ miles a day, which did wonders for my body and my mood), and changing the scene with little getaways whenever I could, to be around new people who didn't know me or anything about my bc.  One thing that got me walking was a motivational thread we had here on BCO for awhile.  Many days the gals in that group were the reason I put on my sneakers and got out of the house, so I know that kind of support can make a big difference.  There are probably one or more exercise threads here on BCO, or you're welcome to join the one we have going on FB.  (PM me for more info if you're interested.)

    Also, have you talked to anyone?  PTSD after bc is very real, and if you don't feel you're making enough progress on your own, a psychologist who is familiar with bc's emotional aftermath could be a big help.   (((Hugs))),   Deanna

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  • wenweb
    wenweb Member Posts: 1,107
    edited March 2013

    Hi Lily,

    You were so kind to me last week when you offered cuddles and hugs to me from your dogs.  I really did think of them (you) when I climbed into bed that night!!  I am so sorry that you are not in a good place :(  Have you considered trying yoga to help calm your mind and put your head in a better place?  It can be very helpful even if it takes you away for the hour or so that you are practicing.  It can also give you skills to help yourself to relax.  All my best xoxox

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  • lemon68
    lemon68 Member Posts: 684
    edited March 2013

    Lily- I am so sorry you feel so alone. ((HUGS)) my friend. You have helped me so much on the other thread. Hate to see you feeling like this, wish I could change it for you. If I were closer (at least in the same country!) I would come and walk with you as I need to do it also and dont. Hope tomorrow is a better day for you. All of us on the other thread LOVE you...

    much love to you- Kim

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