Calling all TNs

16676686706726731198

Comments

  • InspiredbyDolce
    InspiredbyDolce Member Posts: 1,181
    edited April 2014

    Teresa,

    One more thing (I just re-read your post).  I totally agree that you should start chemo immediately.  You can still get expansions during the chemo.  I had my expansions during chemo, and my plastic surgeon timed it so that I would not be uncomfortable from the chemo to have them.  He went slow and did my expansions about every 2 weeks.

    Your nipple can be reconstructed, with relative ease according to my plastic surgeon.  He does it right there in his office.  However, I had such excellent results and was so pleased, that I didn't even get my nipple done.  I just look like a mannequin now.  :o)

    Everything you posted sounds so positive - and chemo is very doable these days.  Hang in there, and you'll be able to get your implant surgery finalized as soon as chemo is wrapped up.  

    Wishing you all the best!

  • InspiredbyDolce
    InspiredbyDolce Member Posts: 1,181
    edited April 2014

    Lisa, 

    There is a 26-year TNBC survivor on here, that I posted a link to her profile a few days ago.  

    I read online that "generally" the recurrence of TNBC "of those who have a recurrence" about half were recurrent between 3 and 12 months, and the other half at the 2-3 year timeframe.  

    I too, have the thoughts.  When I do, I click on this ladies profile and it makes me realize I can make it like she did.

    I mimic what Titan said.  I would think if you were dcis/stage 0, that your risk would be extremely minimal.

    Try not to worry too much - it sounds like you are doing great!

  • teresa008
    teresa008 Member Posts: 55
    edited February 2013

    Thank you so much for the information!! What is bothering my hubby and I is that my oncologist explained none of this to me. She was just very set on talking me into chemo and I wasn't even arguing with her. After reading these boards for the last few days I was really set on knowing the score that the onco came up with and I think I offended her when I asked her right away what the score was. She wanted to talk about the different kinds of chemo and hormone therapies. I just wanted to know the number. She never explained, or even said, that the score and test didn't apply to me because of the negative findings. I think she was hoping that the high number would scare me enough that I would just jump into the chemo, at least that's what it felt like to me. Even after showing us the estrogen negative findings she continued to use the graphs, charts and percentages on the onco to persuade me to do chemo. I didn't notice the bold, black boxes until I got home and had a chance to really read through the report and realized that none of it applied to me. She is not inspiring my confidence right now, that's for sure. I am rethinking the second opinion thing, though. I don't know if I want to take the time and cost to go somewhere else, at this point. However, when I see her towards the end of next week we're going to have to have a talk about honesty. If she wants me to be honest with her it's gonna have to work both ways. Undecided 

    Thank you again so much for your time and answers! I truly do appreciate everyone's time and thoughts. I wish every one of you the best of luck and hope that you all are doing as well as we can do with this intruder amongst us.

  • russell33
    russell33 Member Posts: 48
    edited February 2013

    Hi ladies, I noticed my 2013 February link was deleted some how. i can't remember how to get it back.  Help.  Thanks.  Hope everyone has a good day:)  Anne

  • SherylB
    SherylB Member Posts: 450
    edited February 2013

    teresa008,

    I am so sorry for the confusion. This stuff is hard enough without having to question the results of the pathology. I am TN and actually glad that I had to have chemo. I want everything done to kill any little cells that think they are hiding successfully. You have to get the answers from your MO as they are the one trained to interpret the results. IMO the first thing is that you have to find out the pathology of what you are dealing with before you can decide what the path of treatment is.

    Hang tough, Sheryl

  • teresa008
    teresa008 Member Posts: 55
    edited February 2013

    Hi SherylB,

    Thank you for responding. I am definitely going to go with chemo but I would like to ask that a couple of tests be done to try to narrow down the sub-type of TNBC I do have. I don't want to put my body through a lot of very nasty stuff that it doesn't absolutely need. Working through all this stuff in your head can sure do you in, can't it? I was ready to pack up my dogs and my car and take off for parts unknown last Friday, I was so frustrated. Just like all of us, my world was turned upside down a couple of months ago and sometimes I feel like I'm on a speeding train that I did not agree to board!!

    Thanks so much for your thoughts.

  • Hopex3
    Hopex3 Member Posts: 397
    edited February 2013

    Teresa...I notice you are from Vancouver, WA...So Am I.  Im wondering if we have the same oncloogist.  Sometimes I feel like I have to be the one to find out all the information and then ask questions.  She doesn't seem to be very forthcoming on treatments that I could have been  trying. Everything I learn is from here.  I never had the Oncotype test as I was diagnosed with TN right out of the shoot.  I was so numb at the time that I just went with what they said. But I have to tell you that it worked as the chemo just gobbled it all up. Best of luck to you!

  • teresa008
    teresa008 Member Posts: 55
    edited February 2013

    Hope, I sent you a private message. Smile

  • Paintingmywaythru
    Paintingmywaythru Member Posts: 317
    edited February 2013

    So much to catch up on since I was last here. This was my lifeline during active treatment and I want to thank Titan for starting this thread and everyone who has been here along the way. I was diagnosed May 26th, 2011 so I am almost 2 years out and I am thrilled. Still scary moments and times waiting for test results can be crazy but life is returning to normal.

    Does anyone know what the recommendation for follow up by the radiation oncologist is?

    Mine left and said to me it was up to me whether I wanted to come back and see someone annually....well duh...I don't know what to think.

    Any thoughts?

    The mention of Suze 35 remined me of all the lovely ladies here that I miss. Suze and I had lunch a few times and my was she a spitfire.

  • Wrenwood47
    Wrenwood47 Member Posts: 73
    edited February 2013

    Painting and Teresa 008-Chk your inbox for PMs. Thanks

  • InspiredbyDolce
    InspiredbyDolce Member Posts: 1,181
    edited February 2013

    Hey Ladies,

    Do you all know you can ask a question to the team of doctors at John Hopkins Breast Center? I've done it 3 times, and they are very good and extremely fast on responses.

    Here is the link.  You can select what type of question from the choices, i.e:  Pathology/Treamtent/etc.

    http://www.hopkinsbreastcenter.org/services/ask_expert/

  • OBXK
    OBXK Member Posts: 791
    edited February 2013

    Susan - I think I only followed up once with my RO. I don't really see the need.

    So glad you are almost at the 2 year mark!

    Continue to be well - I miss Suzy too :( Big hugs to you...

  • gillyone
    gillyone Member Posts: 1,727
    edited February 2013

    painting - i haven't seen the RO since finishing rads! Not sure why I would have seen him.

  • Cocker_Spaniel
    Cocker_Spaniel Member Posts: 1,204
    edited February 2013
  • sweetpickle
    sweetpickle Member Posts: 749
    edited February 2013

    LOL that is awesome, thanks for posting :-)

  • NavyMom
    NavyMom Member Posts: 1,099
    edited February 2013
  • Hopex3
    Hopex3 Member Posts: 397
    edited February 2013

    Love it Cocker!

  • melissa119
    melissa119 Member Posts: 172
    edited February 2013

    Morning ladies. Just want to say how thankful I am that I had and have these boards to come to for guidance and support. It was 1 year ago today that I got the dreaded phone call to come to see the BS the next day. She had my biopsy results. I wasn't officially told til the next day but I knew. And looking back a year ago I never thought I would get thru what I did in this passed year. And here I am stronger for it. Thank you for always being there and answering my questions and comforting my fears. This journey will never be over as you all know all too well but I can honestly say that today I am in such a better place the I imagined I could be 1 year ago and it is largely because of YOU! Xoxo

    Melissa

  • InspiredbyDolce
    InspiredbyDolce Member Posts: 1,181
    edited February 2013

    Oh Melissa, that is so nice!  And I also want to say that as well.  I don't know if I posted a message on my 1-year healthy victory on January 4th, but it's the way I feel as well.  So many of you cheering me on. Thank you as well everyone.  

  • Hopex3
    Hopex3 Member Posts: 397
    edited February 2013

    Mellissa and Inspired...

    So glad to hear you both are doing so well.  It is not a fun journey to be on but I too am so thankful for everyone here.  I don't feel so alone.  No one gets the fears with this BC especially TN.  They all just say, Now you are all done, your cancer free.  And you have perky new boobs.  Well, I would rather have my sagging old ones and not have these fears that I try and suppress to the back of my head.  My life has changed because of this and some of it being a good thing.  I do feel more stronger and positive each day and that is just how I need to continue on.  I certainly couldn't be going forward like I am without all of you!  You all have been such a blessing in my life and hopefully I will come back to the boards when I am one, two etc years out to give positive vibes to those just starting this journey.

  • OBXK
    OBXK Member Posts: 791
    edited February 2013

    Melissa and Inspired - so glad you are celebrating your one year anniversaries.



    Hopex3 -- Keep looking forward and don't let fear, rob you of your joy. It will lessen with time.



    Annie - good one!



    Today, the sun came out! We have had a lot of rain. Hope it's sunny, where you are.

  • InspiredbyDolce
    InspiredbyDolce Member Posts: 1,181
    edited April 2014

    Thank you OBXK.  I put my husband's thick long robe on (with my bathing suit underneath) and sat out on the patio.  I stay warm this way, but can dangle my legs out for a little sun!  Trying to keep my D3 levels up!

  • mags20487
    mags20487 Member Posts: 1,591
    edited February 2013

    Melissa and Inspired...remember that you also made it through this yr because of YOU...you are strong women and you did it!!  Congrats to you both...

    Got the call from NOLA today for my financial responsibility for my retry surgery on Tuesday and it is a whopping $219.00  I am so excited!! and Scared and nervous and........this time the flap recon is going to work because it HAS to. My rightie is lonely without leftie 

    Maggie

  • InspiredbyDolce
    InspiredbyDolce Member Posts: 1,181
    edited April 2014

    Hi Mags,

    Thank you!  I do feel like I've worked hard at it.  LOL When I'm not in the kitchen steaming veggies, I'm working out.  When I'm not working out, or steaming veggies, I'm on myfitnesspal.com figuring out my fat grams and remaining allowances on everything for the day.  :o)

    Yes, this time it will work, no doubt! Last time maybe just your body was still healing from the mastectomy.

    That is awesome about your out-of-pocket being that!  Our insurance starts over April 1, and so I'm trying to also get in last minute updates, as I've reached the $3400 out-of-pocket max for the plan year.  I can totally relate when someone talks about the financial responsibility!!

    Have a nice evening ladies!

    - track nutrition

  • onvacation
    onvacation Member Posts: 1,344
    edited February 2013

    Hi ladies, wow skip a couple weeks and miss a lot!  I hope everyone is hanging in there - sending hugs to those who need it!

  • GuyGirl
    GuyGirl Member Posts: 182
    edited February 2013

    Ugh!  Thought I had lucked out, but went to the doctor and she confirmed that I have Lymphedema.  On Monday I have to go learn how to take care of myself and learn to live with this new side effect.  I guess I will be hanging out in the Lymphedema boards now as well as here.  I will celebrate 3 years NED in May.

  • InspiredbyDolce
    InspiredbyDolce Member Posts: 1,181
    edited February 2013

    Hi Ellen,

    Hang in there!   What were your lymphedema symptoms?  Did they appear recently?  Wishing you all the best and congrats on the upcoming May celebration!  :o)

  • natL12
    natL12 Member Posts: 135
    edited February 2013

    Hi TN friends - i've been gone for a couple of weeks.  The forum has been very active during that time. Some things I want to add are probably quite out-of-date, but I'll do it anyway.

    Ranae64 - re birth control pills. I did those for a short time. But what I did for a long time was Hormone replacement therapy. The medical community thought those were great...would decrease our risk of heart attack. would decrease our risk of osteoporosis (which I don't know how to spell), and etc.  Then in about  2002 they discovered that HRT increased our chance of BC!!!! So I stopped.  And I don't lay a guilt trip on myself about doing HRT, for the advice was there.  But when my primary care physician mentioned that drinking wine (any amount...and I limit mine to one glass an evening) can increase the chances of BC, I certainly reminded him of the HRT link...and told him NO MORE GUILT TRIPS!  Hope he remembers, so I don't have to shout at him.

    luvBrgGma - My MO also wanted to leave the chemo port in for awhile. I asked him if he was expecting to have to do chemo again real soon.  (He prefers to take a positive approach.)  So he said it could be removed. I'm glad to be rid of it...the bump was just a reminder of what I'd been through.  If I do get more BC, it'll just have to go in again.

    Guygirl - I noticed the lymphedema symptoms right after I finished chemo. The BS sent me to a lymphedema trained therapist (check the lymphdema board to find out how to make sure your OT is trained) and the massage, exercises, bandaging, and compression garments really helped.  The affected arm is only a bit larger than the other.  The hand is being more stubborn.  I may have to revisit the therapist sometime about that.

    Russell33 - I also had "chemo eyes" after the 3rd treatment.  I often had to reassure folks that they really hadn't made me cry by something they'd said.  Now, 5 months later, they are much better.  It just takes so long for the SE's to abate. 

    I'm feeling much stronger and regaining my energy level now that I've finished surgery, chemo, and radiation.

    Nat

  • Spica16
    Spica16 Member Posts: 130
    edited February 2013

    Hello - my turn to chime in and thank Titan for starting this thread, and thank all of you wonderful gals for your support, prayers, and much needed humor!

    I had my 1-year post-chemo (actually today is 13mos) check with my MO yesterday. Everything's looking good!!! He only does a chest xray and general labs - doesn't order other scans or tests unless symptoms warrant them. That's okay with me. I'm feeling good!

    The onc docs use dx date as the starting point for recurrence/survival stats. I personally like to use my surgery date. Anyhow, I am 1.5 years out, and if 3 years is the peak for TNBC recurrence...I'm half-way through!!! My doc told me that he's seeing most recurrences within 3 years. I asked him if he was seeing a lot of TNs - he was, and had just started another TN-gal on chemo the day before. Where is this nasty beast coming from??? 

    With all that we gals at my treatment center have been through - surgery, chemo, rads - we talk about our hair! All of us. Even the nurses.  My male onc just smiled and shook his head. Too funny, but I think it is part of the process of becoming "normal" again. It sure is nice having hair again, but we all agreed that bald was easier! BC is so 24/7. Comparing our new 'dos was alot more fun, for sure.

    So, now it's checks with MO and RO every 4 mos, an annual mammogram for lonely non-BC girl, and of course, VIGILANCE on my part. I am having my "dog ear" - that side poof  - removed by my BS with scar revision in two weeks. He left the extra tissue there in case I wanted recon. I don't, but that dang thing has got to go...it keeps popping out of my bra! 

    Has anyone gotten back the feeling in their underarm after axillary dissection? Mine's still numb, but the back of my arm is coming back slowly. It's still weird to only have to shave half of that armpit! And it's nice to be able to laugh about these trivial problems, now.

    I hope all those currently going through treatment will have minimal SEs, that all the newbies will find comfort and confidence from the wonderful ladies of BCO, and that we "oldies" will jump back into life with joy and fearlessness.

    Take Care ~ Shar

    Titan ~ from one 'dinosauer' (36+ for us!) to another, belated anniversary wishes!

    Navy Mom ~ Hang in there, Mom. My Mom went through the same worries when I enlisted in the Navy, many moons ago (Vietnam Era Vet). Women didn't serve on ships then, but I was stationed a long way away from home and family. My future hubby was on a ship, and he told me that they kept him so busy that he didn't have much time to ponder homesickness...work-eat-sleep. Your son is probably finding the same, but know in your heart that he is thinking about you. Gotta love those sailor-boys!

    Hope60, old PM-buddy, how are you?

  • lisagwa
    lisagwa Member Posts: 232
    edited February 2013

    Spica16- you made me laugh when i read what you said about the hair conversations. please explain exactly what you mean by dog ear, side poof? I have heard dog ear term used in past. Thanks.

Categories