My sister invited me to "Survivor" Day - why am I so irritated?
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As so many others have said, way better than I ever could, I'm not a survivor. You can survive a plane crash. How to avoid a reoccurance ? Never fly again.
Yeah, I did chemo, surgery, almost finished with rads. 10 more years of Amiridex. But when your MO says you are high risk for reoccurance , how does that make you feel? I'm not pushing up daisies today, but with that hanging over my head, no, I'm not a survivor.
And I don't want any part of Pinktober. Even though my DD did the 60 mile walk. -
Elizabeth, yes! Although, I have to say that my uncle, who lost a testicle to cancer 20 years ago, was fond of introducing himself with "Hi, I am John, and I only have one ball" for AGES. He stopped short of colorful boxers though, thankfully.
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This morning I'm feeling very empowered to change my future. I'm going to chose to be a size six. I'm going to wish for a new breast to magically grow back without surgery. I'm definitely going to wish to die like the other Elizabeth when I'm 90 years old after a perfectly lovely, long life, free of suffering. While I'm at it, I'm imagining that I win the lottery.
Oh you mean wishing doesn't make my dreams come true? What if I wear a tutu and a sparkling tiara?
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Elizabeth...I am currently wishing that I am right next you you and walking with your wishes. Just for good measure, I am wearing a pink TuTu. Ya all can just enjoy that incredible image...hee hee (heavy on the lottery winnings...BTW)
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I'm stage II (they debate IIb) but thank you for allowing to read what you ladies wrote. I read alot of things that helped me, and things that describe exactly how I feel about cancer.
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46andSingle...I think there are more of us out there that feel this way and just haven't been able to let it out yet. I know, for me, it was almost painful to explain my stance to my husband...and then again to my cherished PS...but, I drew a line in the sand not so long ago...whoever crosses it gets a schooling. LOL
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sbelizabeth...thank you for the wonderful laugh...what a wonderful way to go...on the pool table...my poor husband has a prude for a wife so no pool table for me, but I'll take the 90 something together thing!!! You go girl!!!
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Thanks, hopefour, I'm glad you enjoyed that mental image!
We're pretty frank with everything in our house, and once, when our son was a medical student, my husband and I were kidding around and mentioned that's how we'd like to go out.
He rolled his eyes. "Great, thanks, Mom and Dad," he said, "I'll probably find you like that and have to pry apart your clammy corpses."
Yet another mental image...
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You're most welcome, hopefour...here's to many, many years before the pool table event!
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Yes, prayfully lots of years ahead!! I am sure your family loves all the laughter you bring them as we do here!!!
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I am glad to find someone else who does NOT want to celebrate being a survivor. I am almost 5 years out and have no view of myself this way. I would have to lie. I am happy for those who see the cup half full. I wish you all the joy of having hope for a future. I am not afraid, and not being pessimistic. Just real for me. I don't feel I am a survivor.
But I usually keep this quiet in order not to upset the standard optimism. Sorry, but glad to find someone a tiny bit like me!
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