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  • liefie
    liefie Member Posts: 2,440
    edited February 2013

    Hi Benny,

    You sound positively upbeat - so very glad you are feeling so much better, and can enjoy food again! Yes, you will still feel weak for a while, but the good times will come again. Strength training will be good, and horseriding will also be very good for those thigh muscles. Speaking of sitting on the exercise ball, I've been considering getting one myself.

    Carla, happy birthday to you! Have yourself a wonderful day!

    Traii, thanks for keeping us updated. As you know, we become anxious if we dont hear what's going on, and start imagining all kinds of scenarios. Stay safe!

    Websister, I'm sure your mom had a very enjoyable day with her family, and as far as the 'diva', she's just flexing her 'muscles' a little to let you guys know that she is still Mom - so endearing actually!Enjoy the PJ day!

    Dakota, that not so DH really sucks as a husband and as a father. You are an adult, and can handle it when he hurts you, but to hurt/neglect your own children? That's on a whole new level. Good riddance I say. Can't help to wonder what kind of teacher he is if this is his attitude towards his own precious kids.

    Edi, I sometimes also quickly close the laptop, get up and look very busy when I hear DH coming - why have an unnecessary argument over nonsense if it can be avoided, right? When you hug your son again, give him an extra hug from me. It just saddens me that he has to live like this. My oldest son, 28, had had only one girlfriend who then broke his heart. That was 4 years ago, and he does not really seem interested. He will take one out now and then, but he is just too scared to commit, and get hurt again. The last one he took out was an accomplished choir conductor. Where did he choose to take her? To an ice-hockey game . . . oh my goodness. The younger one, 26, was a player, and always had a string of girls on his tail. Got his heart broken a few times, but just couldn't live without them. He is married now to a beautiful girl whom we've known since the day she was born. The two of them had already been eyeing each other from their strollers as babies . . . so cute. We love her, and she is like our own child. So we got lucky there. There's a saying; You're only as happy as your unhappiest child. So true.

    My eye and cheek now has a yellow hue, but it is fine. The water now actually comes out of my nose like it should, and not from the eye anymore. So mission accomplished. Went to the gym for a light workout this morning, but DH strictly forbade me to go to the Aquafit in the pool for at least two more weeks. Still have stitches, and he says it will only take one drop of tainted pool water to give me an infection, and undo all the good work. Will just take the dog for a walk every day, and be good.

    Everybody that I missed, best wishes to you all!

  • Dakota212
    Dakota212 Member Posts: 1,153
    edited February 2013

    Benny - love hearing from u!!!!

    Edi- don't apologize for the truth he us a cockroach. Plus ur gives me incentive to keep going on my mission. It's woukd be so easy to slip back into the abyss. Not this time!!!!

    Traii- hope u are safe !!!!

  • liefie
    liefie Member Posts: 2,440
    edited February 2013

    Edi, so glad you're getting that new bathroom. Seems like it is going to be done soon too. Enjoy it to the max! Isn't it weird that something has to happen first before things get done around the house? I find that when we get people coming to stay over, DH goes into overdrive to fix whatever needs fixing or painting or whatever. So as long as I regularly invite overnight guests, my house stays in good condition - lol.

    Scottiee, I had the same feeling for a while that I did not want to go anywhere, and just felt comfortable/safe in my own home. During and after chemo I did not have the confidence to drive my car, because I did not feel strong enough physically as well as mentally. It took a few months to get over that, and I had to force myself a little to get out more, and become part of the normal world again. For a long time I felt like an outsider - the bald head did not exactly help me blend in! As time went by, it became much better, and I don't have those issues any more. Hope it helps a little.

  • Traii
    Traii Member Posts: 1,138
    edited February 2013

    All good ladies so far. I got to work this morning, very long alternative route but I'm here.  Devestating seeing the aftermarth of the burn't out areas, horrific. Animals lay on side of road. We are all just hoping that the horses made it out safely as there was a pony farm and the news showed them all on the freeway. Kangaroos hopping around everywhere (DH was lucky to avoid a collision with one of them!) .

    We are safe and that is the main thing, smell of smoke in the air today and very smoky...rained a little this morning, just hoping now that no lightening to trigger it off and bring the wind direction back to us!

     Lifie, that's why I try to post as often when I know you girls would worry if you didn't hear from one of your sisters :) xx

    Edi, LOL at the plumber peeing more than you...must be that tea....lol Glad your renovation is all coming together :)

    Dakota , you will accomplish your mission, one mission chemo TICK , next mission to spray that cockroach away!! you can do it girl, you are a strong women and no one deserves to be treated the way you do by him!

    Benny, good to hear from you.

    Websister, hope your day being a diva turned out the way you wanted it to and was pampered by your DH and DSs!!

    Hope you are all well, I'm at work so can't read everything at the moment.

    Love to you all, thanks for caring xxxx

  • nihahi
    nihahi Member Posts: 3,841
    edited February 2013

    OK, so the sun is now shining, Benny's back, Traii is doing OK, Dakota's got her eyes firmly planted on the future, keemo is on skis, Liefie is draining from the anatomically correct orifices.......surely I'm not the only one who's thinking Edi spent the day planted next to the sunroom loo so she can monitor the buttcrack on the plumbers! (or am I?) ;).

  • nihahi
    nihahi Member Posts: 3,841
    edited February 2013

    Benny....don't even think about starting to do strengthening type exercises until you are able to consistently maintain your protein and other nutrient intake. You wouldn't be accomplishing anything other than taxing your already depleted muscles!!!!!

    Sitting on a balance ball is an EXCELLENT core strengthener....used to do it at an office job I once had. Amazing how it works your hips, abs and back!

  • liefie
    liefie Member Posts: 2,440
    edited February 2013

    Nihahi, re Edi and the loo - too funny! How old are those plumbers? Do you think she feeds them all that tea with an underlying motive? LOL! Good advice to Benny too. One has to start slowly, and build it up. Just decided I'm getting one of those balls.

    Traii, thanks so much! Good to know things have settled down there. Too bad about the animals; it is just sad. I watch OASIS channel here all the time, an animal/wildlife channel, and it never fails to lift my spirit. They have so much to teach us humans.

  • nihahi
    nihahi Member Posts: 3,841
    edited February 2013

    Heads up everybody.......Liefie is on the hunt for balls! You all know how THAT topic went!!!!!!

  • liefie
    liefie Member Posts: 2,440
    edited February 2013

    Nihahi, a balance ball is probably a way better idea than a mooseball . . . enough said!

  • Scottiee1
    Scottiee1 Member Posts: 2,329
    edited February 2013

    Benny....so glad to hear from you...please take it slowly with exercising... Build up your immune system first..❤



    Trail.....so sad to read about the animals.....happy you guys are fine though.



    Nihahi and Edi.....you guys are too funny...you always lift my spirits.



    Dakota.....stay strong.



    Going for my six month MO check up tomorrow.....the hospital,is near where my BF lives

    so will have a visit with her.



  • liefie
    liefie Member Posts: 2,440
    edited February 2013

    Scottiee, good luck with the check up tomorrow, and enjoy the visit with BF. Those people are so special in our lives. Glad you are getting out, and doing something nice!

  • Scottiee1
    Scottiee1 Member Posts: 2,329
    edited February 2013

    Thank you Liefie..❤

  • Traii
    Traii Member Posts: 1,138
    edited February 2013

    Scottie...have fun at bf's house....bf's are good to have.

    Good luck with the check up.



    Nihahi...plumbers crack...well he does have his nephew as his off sider so maybe youngish...edi set us straight!! Lol



    Mooseballs, excercise balls makes me want some...ummm....rum balls!! Lol

  • scouser47
    scouser47 Member Posts: 963
    edited February 2013

    Middle of the night Frown been wide awake since three am.
    Sofa bed  comfy but my darling road drill giving it 100 decibells.
    Have plugged kettle into hall socket as it makes the most awful noise when it is heating up.Kitchen right by " sun room " Tea must be made and TV catch up, bliss.

    Liefie, Your sons sound adorable, sorry about eldest ones broken heart. Hope he finds a princess soon. Youngest sons girl has made me green with envy. Would have loved that kind of realtionship.
    Thrilled op worked, being good Does work.DH is correct keep away from pool. My little GD ended up in hospital a few years ago after swallowing some of the pool water. Too full of germs.
    People coming and jobs getting done, that is priceless ! mine is just the same, he mows the grass, polishes windows etc and makes sure everything works so like you invite people when standards slipping Laughing

    Dakota, can't believe your not DH's job. They obviously don't realise what a cockroach he is.
    Take care of yourself.

    Traii, Glad you are ok and it has rained a little.How frightening for the animals too.
    Another day of tea and pee, sound like a red indian lol.

    Nihahi, I need my Tena lady pads thanks to you and Liefie !
    You are a pair of nutty ladies. Balls and butt cracks, won't be able to keep a straight face today.
    The older plumber is ancient and sooo wrinkly, doubt his butt crack even exists.The younger one has better bladder control ha ha.
    Love you both and wish we could meet for coffee and cakes but we would probably be thrown out for being naughty.Wink

    Benny, please take on board the words of wisdom on here from the ladies who have been there.
    You MUST get lots of good food and build up that body, THEN exercise. You will just end up back at square one otherwise.
    Visit Di and enjoy every minute, she needs her Mom back, but fit and healthy.

    Scottie, Good luck with MO check. Enjoy visit with BF, they are such a tonic.

    LOVE TO ALL X

  • Traii
    Traii Member Posts: 1,138
    edited February 2013

    Edi are you catching my insomnia!!



  • scouser47
    scouser47 Member Posts: 963
    edited February 2013

    Traii, you bet ya. Wide awake but soooo tired.  4 pm there by my calculations. Don't know if I will last until that here.
    DH finally stopped the snoring but know the minute I get back into that bed he will start again.
    How are the fires today ?
    Was DS at Kindy, he looks so cute in his uniform, love the hat !
    Promis ed myself some retail therapy today, if I can pluck up courage to leave my safe haven.
    DH wants to stay here, the plumbers are doomed lol.
    Going to look for all the lovely bits and pieces to finish off the various rooms.
    Bingo tomorrow night again, saves my sanity and again gets me out to another place of safety. All the girls understand if Edi gets a panic on and are very calming.
    When the bedrooms finally sorted we are having GD overnight while her Daddy takes her Mum out for a bit of a romantic meal.She is so excited.So are we.

  • nihahi
    nihahi Member Posts: 3,841
    edited February 2013

    Scottiee.....so glad to hear you will get some girlfriend time tomorrow. So important to our emotional health. I would be a basketcase without my true friends. In your pockets tomorrow for the checkup too.

    Traii...has the danger mostly passed for you now? Sure hope so. Scary times and so hard for the people and animals who didn't  make it through unharmed. Cannot imagine what it would be like to have to rush away from your home and all you own, then return to nothing but ash. 

    Edi...you never know, maybe one day we will connect...and I would LOVE it. I suppose I could blame the alien for the "risque" comments, but then how will I be explaining things after it's gone?! Nope, guess I just have to admit to being a bit "cracked". Sorry for the late night "road noise", I know how frustrating it is. You love him, but you just want to shake him at the same time. Hope you get some rest. 

    I'm off to bed, shhh....don't want to wake the alien!

  • nihahi
    nihahi Member Posts: 3,841
    edited February 2013

    Edi....messages crossed in cyberspace. Had hoped maybe you had drifted off to sleep. So sorry you're still up. But I guess your day is about to start over there. 

    I sure envy you the time spent with grand daughters. I actually have 2. My son was less than careful with his choice of partners, unfortunately. First girl, he had only known for a few months. Her family was less than thrilled when she became pregnant, so they moved in with us for about 2 months. 2 months of hell for us, and before the baby came, she made up with her parents and took herself off to the other side of Canada. We have only a few photos, from several years ago. No other contact. I'm sure we will never see that child. Second GD, even worse choice of partner. She and our son were in an on again off again relationship for several years, some of which time they lived with us, again, because she didn't get along with her family. Once the baby came, the on again off again continued, again some of the time living with us with the baby. She and son finally broke up once and for all, and she became skilled at using our access to the baby as a weapon against our son. We had done everything to help her, but not influence their relationship, as we wanted to help the child. She used and abused us, financially and emotionally. Horrible decision, but we finally had to "give up" time with the GD to try to help our son find some peace. He is now in another relationship, that seems to have a better future, but I don't know if I could ever let myself get attached to another of his children, if that happens, as I can not bear to hurt like that again. I get my "grandma time" reading about yours. 

  • liefie
    liefie Member Posts: 2,440
    edited February 2013

    Edi, I hope you went back to sleep already. Just wanted to say that I hope those plumbers will never set their eyes on this thread. They will sue us for defamation of buttcrack - lol! I canned myself when I read your comments re the wrinkled one, and the other one with better bladder control. DH wanted to know why I was laughing so hard, but I could never admit to him that we were speculating about other men's buttcracks. He is very accomodating, but that would have been too much for him. Won't it be nice if we could meet one day? What a joy that will be. With Nihahi in the mix it can only be hilarious.

    Nihahi, so sorry to hear of the unhappy circumstances around your two grandchildren. Can't be easy. Our children's choices certainly do impact greatly on us as parents too. The day you have a child, you set yourself up for the greatest joys, but also for the greatest disappointments. Just have to stay strong. Almost midnight here. I am off to bed. Good night to you all!

  • Traii
    Traii Member Posts: 1,138
    edited February 2013

    Edi, I hope you got back to sleep and that the steam train was quiet !! lol

    My steam train slept on the couch last night, and thats where I left him when i went to bed at 1am,  I know I'm naughty but he was really working that train line last night and it really hurt my ears...lol so off to bed I went , ahh such a nice 5 hours straight through sleep......:) I woke him in the morning for work and he was a little dillusional as to where he was...lol I found it funny but !!!

    Oh I bet GD is excited to come stay with grandma and grandpa....I'm sure she gets spoilt rotten.

    Yeh, Bingo, I miss bingo, I use to go with my mum and nanna on a Thursday night.....prizes are great here....$10000 jackpots too and on some nights, $20000 jackpots ( AUD ) !

    DH is at work, he's on call this week and has been out for 5 hours so far......its 9:45pm here...and he is still out on call (not far from where the fire was) major break down they have to get back up and running tonight!

    DS has kindy tomorrow, 3 hours...yipppeeeeee....my mums coming with me to drop him off then off for some retail therapy in PEACE....wow, what's that like, I forget...lol.

    Fires have eased by driving on the freeway today all the grass land was burnt out......not a green bit of grass in site.....it was a site that was horrid.

    Nihahi, I am sad at reading your story of your Grandkids.....it's sad isn't it, you are a grandma that would LOVE to see her grandkids, yet my MIL can come any time to see her ONLY Grandchild and yet doesn't .... my mum doesn't go a day without seeing my DS and if she doesn't see him, they are on the phone. Hopefully your son settles with this girlfriend and you do get a grandchild to cherish and spoil because you sound like a great one to have :)

    Liefie, good night and sweet dream, no dreaming of butt cracks.....or no give aways if you sleep talk and DH is awake. .... lol knowing you you'll probably laugh in your sleep ... lol.

    Dakota, hope you're all good hun......how are the kids ? Hope you've changed the locks.....lol

    Take care all......Scottie, hope you have a great time today with your BF...laugh lots :)

    xxx

  • scouser47
    scouser47 Member Posts: 963
    edited February 2013

    Nihahi, you dare stop with the risque comments !! I would be devestated, that goes for you too Liefie..

    Nihahi, my heart goes out to you (( HUG )) me moaning about DIL but at least I get to see my sons girls a few times a year It's weird but even tho I love them I find myself expecting what happened to you to happen anytime.
    Once confided that to my son, and he assured me he would never let it happen, still think every chance of her stopping him too.
    Not once but twice is beyond belief. You and DH must still be hurting. I hope one day these two little people find you, despite their mean Mum's.When they are old enough to make their own decisions. x

    Liefie, my DH came into room while I was on here and he will start reading my post if I am not careful. Sent him to make me a cuppa and submitted before he came back !!
    You are so right in that our childrens choices do impact on us too and not always in a nice way.
    Me ed's partner is lovely and always grateful for anything we do.
    My youngest daughters, not DH is a male version of DIL. I have not spoken to him since August when he told me I was a rubbish nana because I hadn't volunteered to look after that GD. I tried to explain that I had been at the hospital being told I had BC." Thats not important " he screams down the phone. You will never see her again, lovely cockroach he is too.
    Of course I do get to see her as my youngest wouldnt allow it but something inside me died that day. As the saying goes " I wouldnt pee on him, if he was on fire "Sure Nihahi feels the same about her GD's Moms but is too ladylike to say so.

    Plumbers, Wrinkly butt and all, back again. lol.
    DH doing tea and hot buttered toast for them. He just wants an excuse to nose at what they are doing.
    I am having a piece too as have to keep my strength up, ha ha. Hope you two slept well. I amstill awake and it is 11 am. Showered, dressed, face on but bit like a zombie.

    Love and hugs xx

  • Scottiee1
    Scottiee1 Member Posts: 2,329
    edited February 2013

    Nihahi .....you made me cry this morning.....how aweful for you!!!! I pray everyday

    for a beautiful DIL and/or grandchild.



    Edi you too....how do people sleep at night knowing they cause such misery????



    Dakota girl.....still praying that you will remain strong.



    You know gals....I want to tell you a quick story Bout a dear women I called my granny.

    She lived next door to us in Glasgow. I had only one granny who was in Germany (my mom was a German war bride). My mom and her spent a lot of time together. She helped her learn English and generally to find her way about . My mom was so unhappy

    Homesick and lonely as my father spent his nights out being Mr. Big after the war plus he was the youngest of ten.....so spoiled. One night my granny and my mom were

    hanging out the window watching the world go by and my mom remarked about all the young couples walking along hand in hand and how happy they looked, I guess she was feeling sorry for herself at that moment. My gran turned to my mom and said "you know Else, behind every door there is a story" "nothing is what it seems on the outside"

    My mom never forgot that and neither did I......Life sucks sometimes but there is always

    someone worse off than you....It kept my mom strong and me too many times in life.

    Don't know why I told you guys that story, somehow it just felt appropriate right now.









  • scouser47
    scouser47 Member Posts: 963
    edited February 2013

    SCottie, what a poignant story, how lovely that your Mum had someone to help her. Must have been so strange for her living here.
    I loved the story and your Granny was a wise woman.
    I don't know how people who are so cruel to others sleep either. My DIL and SIL sleep like logs and both snore, the bxxxxxxs.
    If as the bible says we will all be judged I hope I am nearby when people like this get to the pearly gates and they shut in their faces.
    I am not deeply religious and haven't always been as good as I could be but to use children as a weapon is unforgiveable.
    Forgot to add about the Diapers yesterday, almost needed them myself reading your post.
    Bless you and hope your prayers are answered one day xx

  • Dakota212
    Dakota212 Member Posts: 1,153
    edited February 2013

    Hi ladies -

    Scottie- good luck today !!! Have a last with ur BF!!! Thank god for BF's I did neglect some while trying to be the perfect wife but the true ones understand why I went to a dark place !!

    Liefie-

    Glad the eye is doing ok and what it should be :) balls r good !

    Scottie- thanks for sharing ur story. It's true not every life is what it seems. My cockroach plays everything up in front of people so he looks good. Thank god they all know the truth so he actually looks like more of an a**.

    Edi- but cracks...hmmm not so cute ... Lol I am so jealous of ur sunroom would love to have one someday. Hope u got a nap in or something. Good luck at bingo. I truly believe if everyone was just honest the world would be a better place. Why the lies. I will never understand. And why make other people unhappy. It's just mean???

    Nihahi-

    Glad the sun is shinning!!

    Keening - skiing so glad u have energy. I really have to start exercising.

    Traii- glad ur safe!!! Yum rum balls sure!! Cheers :) have fun while DS Is at kindy :)

    Luv my, Caitlin, Benny, carlads, web sister. Everyone hope ur day/night is great !!

  • Dakota212
    Dakota212 Member Posts: 1,153
    edited February 2013

    Edi- do u watch downton abbey???

  • keemo26
    keemo26 Member Posts: 29
    edited February 2013

    WOW, I really have missed alot. Benny, you sound fantastic! Hope you listen to the good advice about taking in some additional fuel before asking too much from your poor body. It takes time but you will be back in action soon and can come visit me in sunny Cali for beach riding!

    Dakota, I am so sorry you have to deal with such an idiot stick. It is pretty telling that when he was needed most, he missed the ball. His loss!

    And speaking of balls... nihahi, ebi. Traii. you gals crack me up! I definitely vote for the rum balls! Lol!

    Traii. Scary reading about the fires but glad you are safe. I love hearing your stories about your son and hubbie. They are lucky peeps.

    Diva. Glad you had a relaxing day and nice to hear that u have such a sweer hubbie!

    Adagio. I had the allegrgic reaction from hell from taxol so if u ever want to chat. I'm your gal!

    Happy birthday, Carla and lots of love to everyone!

    In case u need a laugh, we are now stuck in Tahoe because, drum roll, my stupid car cannot take chains andd it snowed last night and this am. Who ever heard of a car not being able to take chains? Lol

  • nihahi
    nihahi Member Posts: 3,841
    edited February 2013

    Ohhhh, stuck in Tahoe, how horrible (not!). Thanks for the laugh, Keemo. Are you now hooked on playing in the snow? 

    Could be a dangerous day on the thread, as I think a few of us are sleep deprived today.

    Scottiee, hope the day with GF is just the start of many more. 

    Dakota, hope the childcare situation got worked out ok, while the cockroach is gone.

    Liefie, sooooooo glad we'll be doing the diep dance together. 

    Grey, foggy day here, not good for lifting spirits. After today's physio, I think I'm going to hang out in Edi's meadow. 

  • keemo26
    keemo26 Member Posts: 29
    edited February 2013

    Dakota. I love downton abbey!,,,

  • Lesleyanne67
    Lesleyanne67 Member Posts: 225
    edited February 2013

    Keemo - I live near Tahoe. I am off 80 just west of the CA state line on the NV side. I am originLly from Chicago but been here 6 years.



    Kids have ski skate week this week. I was in Monterey for the weekend. We tend to flee the opposite direction when it gets crowded here so we may have passed each other on the road. Congrats on ski lessons!



    I have had two surgeries on my left knee so no more downhill for me. I stick to snowshoes and cross-country skiing.



    Nihahi - I have not hit the trails yet. We have had no fresh snow and much has melted but we expect some this week so maybe next weekend! I will keep you posted!! We fled from the area because long holiday weekends get crowded and we were sitting on the beach this past weekend. Nice thing about this part of the country you can be on the beach and the slopes in the same weekend!!



    Benny so glad to see you are holding up!! In the home stretch and hoping rads goes better for you than chemo!!!



    Big hugs to all the rest of you ladies I do read all the posts and keep up with all of you.



    Lesley



  • Dakota212
    Dakota212 Member Posts: 1,153
    edited February 2013

    Nihahi thanks -

    Day care thing did get taken care of. Have no choice that's why it gets dumped on me he knows I will take care of it.

    Kemmo -

    I just borrowed the DVDs I haven't even gotten thru the 1st season. But all the girls at work watch it so I decided to check it out :)

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