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SandyinPa
SandyinPa Member Posts: 34
edited June 2014 in IBC (Inflammatory Breast Cancer)

Hi everyone. I just moved to a new state and town, and before I could even get settled and make friends or find a job or even an apartment, I was diagnosed with IBC. Now, I am trying to manaage all of this all by myself and it's tough. I am scared and lonely.

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  • CindyThurman
    CindyThurman Member Posts: 5
    edited February 2013

    Dear SandyinPa, We are here and you will find many answers ... better and more understandable answers than are available on the internet.  These ladies have been throu the best and worst and can give illumination to whatever you are facing.... Breath in deeply .... walk forward and reach out.  There a many here to help and assist with the wisdom of hindside rather than book knowledge!  These discussion boards are wonderful!

    (((Hugs))) - Cindy

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  • SandyinPa
    SandyinPa Member Posts: 34
    edited February 2013

    Thank you Cindy. yes, I've noticed a lot of wisdom, a lot of willingness to share, a lot of good people ...really need face to face human contact with other IBCer's. I don't know how you all do it. Sometimes I dream of being a driver for Road to Recovery American Cancer Society and giving back to someone else. I visualize myself in that place. But, now, what will I do with my life? Where will I work? Who will hire me? when will I feel well enough to work? Everything is falling apart and I have no one. My mom passed. My family is far away. I don't  now how to find friends. Doesn't that sound stupid? but, I don't. usually you make friends at work or school. I am so lonely.

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  • MelissaDallas
    MelissaDallas Member Posts: 7,268
    edited February 2013

    Sandy, what are some of your favorite things to do/hobbies & what town do you live in?

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  • Kicks
    Kicks Member Posts: 4,131
    edited February 2013

    I'm not understanding - you are in some 'strange town' without somewhere/apt. to live in?  No job/friends/anything?   Go 'home' to where your family/ friends are for support.

    • Talk to the BC Navigator at your Center (they are a world of support and knowledge),
    • Contact local Women's Shelters, contact your Church if you are a member of an organized religion (even if you aren't there areresourmces through many of them). 
    • Are you a Veteran?  Contact VA ASAP - there is help and a lot of support through VA!  If you are I will be happy to help you find who to contact if you can't find them.           

    Driving for Road to Recovery is great BUT 'you' have to take care of yourself first.  I was blessed to have been able to drive a fantastic young (35-ish) man to 35 rads about a yr after my DX after his recurrance DX.  Long story short - It was easy for me to do his drives as he was staying on Base and and as Hubby is retired USN - I can just drive on base without being 'signed in'.  F

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  • Milly43
    Milly43 Member Posts: 139
    edited July 2013

    Hi sandyinpa I'm feel for you but I two have ibc and I only found ut I had it three weeks ago I'm feel sorry for you moving to a new town and no m8s on top of that also the thing is your going t

    o need. Your family and friends around you right now you can't do this by yourself and if you do you must be a very strong person but if u have to do this by yourself you have me I will be here for you and the lady's on here are great don't ever feel u are on your own coss u are not we are here for u anytime u need us

    I don't have all the answers it's all new to me also but if I can help I will where u live there,should be a,support group why don't you have a look they will be going through the same as you that way u will make a few friends I start my chemo on Tuesday of next week when do u start yours or have. You done it already ?

    I live in the uk I think u sound like u live in the us is that right maybe I'm wrong anyway my prayers are with you and if u ever need a freind I'm here for u sending u big hugs(((((((hugs)))))))). Xxxxx

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