Grateful! -Celebrating My 3 Year Anniversary as a Survivor
Dear Stage III Sisters,
Three years ago this week I heard the three fateful words that would forever change my life. The radiologist at the breast health center performed a sterotactic biopsy and then phoned me to say, "...you have cancer..." He assured me that he was certain it was "only" in the very earliest of stages, stage 0 to 1, caught early, and on and on. The very same day my primary care physican insisted on a breast MRI which led me to the cancer center at a major university medical center near me.
Fast forward to Stage 3...bilateral mastectomies, 4 positive nodes out of 16 removed, 29 weekly chemotherapy treatments, and 30-some radiation treatments. Then on to Femara.
Here I am, 3 years later, scarred, battered, limping and nearly broke, BUT VERY MUCH ALIVE! I thank God everyday for mercifully allowing me to live to see my only son celebrate his 18th birthday. I treasure every holiday, anniversary, sunrise, and simple pleasure of my life.
I will never forget that shocking, smothering, sickening feeling inside when I was shown a dismal chart of survival statistics and told by my oncologist that I was Stage 3. Since that day I have experienced just about every known side effect of chemo, significant neuropathy, internal radiation scarring, painful joints and awful hot flashes from Femara, not to memtion the loss of both my breasts and mild lymphedema. However, I am overwhelmingly thankful for each medical professional that has dedicated his or her life to treating this dreadful disease.
Lastly, I owe a debt of gratitude to the brave, wise, loving women on BreastCancer.org without whom I would have fought alone and isolated. We understand Breast Cancer and all its ugliness as only fellow sisters in the fight can. We also appreciate the beauty that can come from suffering and living each day as grateful survivors.
Early on in my journey many times I would come to the Stage III Topics and read and re-read, and re-read stories of survival and hope from other Stage 3 survivors with positive nodes. I would have lost all hope many times had it not been for these accounts. Thank you for sharing them! I still come to read the stories of hope, just not as often. I truly know that we have no guarentee of a future without recurrence but I take great encouragement from other Stage 3 survivors who are farther along on the journey and still cancer free.
Psalm 31:14 "I will say, You are my God, my future is in your hands..."
Grateful Charlotte
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I am so happy for you, beautiful post, and a great reminder to myself too!
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Beautiful post, Charlotte. Thank you so much for sharing your story. Congrats on your 3 years and here's to many, many, many more!!!
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Wonderful post. Thank you so much for sharing!! Congratulations on 3 years and for many, many more to come!!
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Charlotte- What a beautiful post! 'scarred, battered, limping and broke, BUT VERY MUCH ALIVE!' I love that! We are beaten but not defeated.
It is wonderful to celebrate all of these anniversaries. I am goint to celebrate 2 years in 2 days, and I remember vividly the feelings of despair that accompanied my diagnosis.
To all of you newly diagnosed: there is hope! And life is good!
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Congratulations on 3 years, and I hope you have many, many more
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Celebrate!!
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Whoot whoot!! Congrats, Charlotte! There will be many, many more!
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Yay Charlotte!! Cheers to many more milestones with your son!
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Charlotte, I can only echo your sentiments. Every BCO member I know is grateful for the support here. Congrats on reaching three years!
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Thank you for sharing a glimpse of your heart that mirrors so many of ours! I will be celebrating my son's 18th birthday in a few months...I am grateful to be here to do so...while trying not to fear the future and all I may not share with him and my three daughters....trying to live grateful and with HOPE!!
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My neighbor had stage 3, 16/16 lymph nodes positive and his flourishing at 6 years out with no recurrence! It does happen!
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What a great, stirring post! I had every one of the se's you mentioned, and a similar diagnosis. My cancerversary has become a time of a great happy celebration and I know yours will too as your longevity piles up. Keep on coming here for strength and inspiration. And thanks for returning the hope today, to our newbies.
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Charlotte, Your post is so eloquent and speaks from the heart. Thank you for this. May you have a long cancer-free life!
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Great news xx
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Congratulations! I hope you have many more years and thanks for posting.
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This is great to see - my three years from diagnosis is in March!!!! :-)
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Congrats! Rejoicing with you!
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Beautiful post, Charlotte!!! I also found so much solace, inspiration and understanding on breastcancer.org. Looking forward to my 3 year in March. Heather
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Hi,
Three years ago in November I was given the pathological report. Now I’m very glad because my MO has said” You don't have cancer any more. After 22 very troublesome months of Femara, my SE's are truly minor on Aromasin. Even now I’m browsing BCO posts every day. I would like cancer not to have in my mind so often, but I couldn’t to prevent me from.
Congratulations! Take care and best wishes!
Usha
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Congratulations on your 3 year anniversary! Your words are just exactly what so many of us are thinking. I'm also looking forward to my 3 year anniversary in February.
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Congratulations on 3 years! Always love reading these stories.
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Congratulations!! I sure do like to read stories by survivors.
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Got wonderful results from all my tests and scans today. My Oncologist told me I was CANCER FREE.
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Today I am celebrating my 3 year Cancerversary!!! I am thrilled to be here and thankful to Breastcancer.org for all the support I received through my journey.
Heather
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Congratulations, All!! We are celebrating along with you!
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Congratulations! May you continue to move foreword with health and gratitude!
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Congratulations Heather and wishing many more years!
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great stories to hear, just what I need. I am 1 year (nearly...20th Feb) post dx. I was so very afraid when I learnt I was stage 3.
I too have a son (age 15) I did not think I would be here to see him. I thought I was going to die.
I am still very tearful at times, the trauma suffered emotionally/physically for all of us is immense.
Thanks to all those, who lift my spirits at these times.
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Congratulations for your 3rd year! Wish you many many healthy and happy years. Wonderful post.
Please keep coming. We new gals need encouragement and hope from you guys.
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