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  • peacelovedogs
    peacelovedogs Member Posts: 57
    edited January 2013

    Hi! I'm having my DIEP surgery on Valentines day. I am trying to get my house ready for when I come home. Trying to get myself ready too.



    I'm going back to read this thread and the 2012 one as well. My surgery is being done at Mayo in Jacksonville FL. My surgeon is Dr. Perdikis.

  • Janet_M
    Janet_M Member Posts: 1,068
    edited January 2013

    Faith,

    I'm scheduled for a spring DIEP and I have many of the same concerns as you. The length of the operation scares me, abdominal scars scare me, and don't even get me started on replacement nipples. 

    When I started this desicion making process I was determined to do whatever I can to lower my risk of recurrence. Something this drastic goes against my nature but I threw my hat over the fence,  declined radiation, and am now the reality is sinking in. It is really scary. I wake up in the middle of the night wondering why I'm choosing to mutilate myself. But then I remind myself that I am 'rebuilding' not mutilating. And as one of my friends said 'You owe it to yourself to rebuild'. It's all your very own flesh  -  so there is no insult to your body.

    And the long surgery? As my PS kindly said, 'That's not your problem. That's our problem'. And I asked him if he'd take a lunch break, and he laughed and told me there's a team, and that yes, he would take a break. 

    Still - I'm very f*cking scared. So I'm once again calling  on my own cyber therapist Belleruth Naparstek. I downloaded her CD 'Guided Meditation to a Successful Surgery'. I didn't think it would work for me but it really did. Here's the gist of it  - your body has it's own intelligence that will kick in while you sleep. You can trust it. Also, you are not alone. (This past is kind of hokey but it makes me feel good) You can rely on the support of everyone who has ever loved you and they are looking over you with approval. And also, your medical team is there to heal. Let them. They will work together with your body to make you better. You have done all you can - so for those 8 hours, just sleep, and let your very clver body and the amazing doctors do the work. 

    And as far as looking at seeing yourself without bandages? I can barely rip off a band-aid so I know exactly how you feel. I've had two lumpectomies (left and right) and one of my boobs looks like a Picasso painting of a cow. I used to cover the bathroom mirror so I wouldn't have to see myself when I got out of the shower. That was last year - but it seems like a lifetime ago. It doesn't phase me anymore. I know that this next step will be tough, but I know I wll get used to it.

    Nihahi - I LOVE what your surgeon said about a long anesthesia. That information that you shared with Faith made me feel so much better.

    P.S. C cups are excellent! Clothes fit well, running is easier, and you'll still have a fabulous cleavage.

  • faith729
    faith729 Member Posts: 244
    edited January 2013

    Nihahi so sorry I totally missed your response to my post ! Just read it and that does help thank you so much. I don't meet with my anesthesiologist till March 14th so in the mean time everyone's responses were a tremendous comfort to me.

    Janet it's a bit of a rollercoaster but for me the decision to get the surgery is the best option and different things help at different times sometimes it's this site sometimes it's writing in a journal and other times just talking to my husband or a friend. Making packing lists and going over my plans tend to distract me a little too. Looking on the bright side we can nix those crunches and sit ups =)

  • nihahi
    nihahi Member Posts: 3,841
    edited January 2013

    No worries! It sure helped me yesterday, when he explained it to me. Remember, you're not going into surgery traumatized from an accident, or with a failing heart. He kept stressing that it really isn't an internal, stressful type of surgery, from our body's point of view. Keep up the positive thoughts.

  • Morningsun1
    Morningsun1 Member Posts: 649
    edited January 2013

    A pink sister from another site calls the DIEP/TRAM recon "frontend realignmentront." For me, that's the best way to look at it.

  • Hockeymom1
    Hockeymom1 Member Posts: 30
    edited January 2013

    Well ladies, I am 9 days out and quite honestly doing very well- at least better than I had expected. Don't get me wrong I am doing a whole bunch of "nothing" but I'm not sitting around miserable.  I still only have showered a few times and spend most of my time in the recliner.

    I went to the doctors yesterday and had 3 of my 4 drains removed:)  My only real restriction is no lifting over 10 pounds!  Other than that it's resting and healing!

    I am off my strong pain meds during the day and am taking something mild at bedtime.  I even drove my son to a lacrosse training yesterday - I basically drove there, sat in the car and drove him home. 

    After my doctor appointment yesterday I took a 4 hour nap! Yes, sleeping seems to be a lot of what I do.

    I force myself to get up and move. My stomach seems to be my biggest complaint.  It just feels heavy and bloated.  My PS said this could last quite awhile and will get worse throughout the day.  He explained to me that the body naturally has fluids that drain from top to bottom and now that there is that large incision it acts like a dam.  Interesting stuff...

    So, off to shower and find some more comfy clothes - hopefully something that isn't PJ's:) 

  • Morningsun1
    Morningsun1 Member Posts: 649
    edited January 2013

    @ Hockeymom1, so encouraging to hear that you are doing well. I hope to follow your steps.

    I am going in Monday for bilateral BMX w/DIEP recon. Don't know how to describe what I feel, but have been camping on this site for the last few days...

  • bdavis
    bdavis Member Posts: 6,201
    edited January 2013

    Tammy... That is quite natural. I think that when you get to the hospital, you will have a calm that comes over you... At least most people feel that way.

  • 4my4babies
    4my4babies Member Posts: 36
    edited January 2013

    Hockeymom - You are one day ahead of me and we are just about in the same place.  Only I lost just two drains at post op and, while I'm sure I could do it if I was totally off the pain meds, I really don't feel like I would want to drive yet.  My belly is still quite sore and the incision pulls so I just don't want to go there.  My "new girls" are still hugely swollen but at least they aren't aching too much anymore...just feel so dang heavy. My DH says he doesn't think they are that much bigger than my original "girls" but I swear they are almost twice the size. I couldn't even being to think aobut fitting into one of my old bras even if I wanted to do so. I do wish the bras they gave us at the center had more support though...that would take care of some of the extra weight discomfort.

    Glad you are doing well too.  We are still amazed at how well I've done and am doing.  I wasn't really "expecting the worst" but one would really think after what I went through I would be having a much tougher time.  The first thing anyone says when they see me is that they can't believe I just had all that done in an 8 hour surgery.  And as my little boy said, they "aren't just saying that to make you feel better."

    And good luck on Monday Tammy.  I was never terribly worked up or anxious about the surgery.  I knew God (and Dr. D.!) was going to take care of me.  But I also just chose not to "go there."  Because if you think about it too much, it could easily get you worked up.  My husband took the same route I did...and he could have easily gotten worked up with worry.  In the end, we are both so glad we didn't "go there" as it wasn't necessary.  And then to have me do so well since...is just icing on the cake.

    Prayers for you and everyone else. Peace and Grace, Nancy

  • peacelovedogs
    peacelovedogs Member Posts: 57
    edited January 2013

    These threads are amazing! I haven't accomplished much else today!!



    A little more about my surgery...



    I had a BMX in Sept 2010. During this surgery they removed 9 nodes. They believe 3 were affected. I had neoadjuvent chemo so they couldn't be positive. They spared skin on my left side. However on my right they had to take as much as possible since I had IBC. I did rads afterwards.



    I was morbidly obese and have lost over 160 lbs without surgery so needless to say I have enough skin. We are worried about fat but I assured them there are plenty of places to draw from. Lol



    I'm thankful to be having my surgery at Mayo. I received all of my treatments there and continue to be seen there. My husband (eddie) stayed in the ICU for almost a month 2 years ago so the staff know us well. The rooms are all private and they have a couch that turns into a bed so someone can stay with me if I want/need. Has anyone else had their surgery at Mayo Jacksonville?



    Here are my bigger fears...

    Eddie is legally blind and also has cognitive issues due to a brain hemorrhage. He can't drive. I just want to make sure he is ok to get around. He does have a special bus door to door service that he can use but it just worries me. ;-)



    I might not be healthy enough. I have an eating disorder. I see a nutritionist and psychologist weekly. I have all preop tests and appointments on the 4th. If my blood counts are off then no surgery. I've been eating when i can. If this had been 2 months ago I would have been lucky to eat a granola bar in two days. Now i eat at least a small meal. I see my nutritionist the following day so we can figure out a game plan for extra nutrion during my healing process assuming I pass my bloodwork.



    Anyway, thanks to all of you that have shared your experiences and information. It helps so much.

  • calm
    calm Member Posts: 46
    edited January 2013

    Nihahi--great news about your early date--I remember they called me with a cancelation, but I couldn't drop everything and get ready in time--glad you can accommodate. April is not far away. I am getting my nipple for my DIEP breast in late March--then I am done--everything my PS did looked fine to me and he agreed. I hope you are equally happy with your result.

  • nihahi
    nihahi Member Posts: 3,841
    edited January 2013

    Thanks Calm,  I know how lucky I was to get that earlier date! I am a combination of relieved, composed, and scared all rolled in together. Probably a typical reaction. Your responses to me and your wonderful progress have been such a great help, I don't know how to say "thank you" deeply enough. Do you feel that you are "back to normal" strength and endurance wise yet?

  • gotoell
    gotoell Member Posts: 29
    edited January 2013

    Hi All, I do not typically post just tend to check-in frequently and gain comfort and knowledge in all your stories. I thought it was time as I am 5 days out from my stacked diep to share my story in the hopes it will help those ahead. I was diagnosed with BC in 2005, 3 months after marrying the love of my life. At that point I was so overwhelmed I just did the suggested routine of lumpectomy, radiation and did not need chemo due to Oncotype of 17. I was on tomaxifen for 5 years and had yearly MRI's and bi-yearly mammo's due to inconclusive BRCA test. I had a scare December 2011 and they watched me closely for 6 mos until a biopsy came up benign. I have dense breasts so the false positives were a constant. I realized the toll of constantly being scared was not worth it and my oncologist agreed and we scheduled a MXS for December 2012. Well that turned into a disaster due to infection and previous radiation. I went through surgery, expanders, exhange and removal on the cancer side from Feb until July of last year. It was then I began exploring my limited options of Diep. My current surgeon only did pedicule tram flap and due to my experience with them was not confident that was the way or he was the one. So I began my research, and due to my job of supervising 16 schools I was not able to put my whole life on hold and go the NOLA route althought I have been so impressed with so many of your experiences there. I live in Upland California and there were no in network providers who did the diep so I researched and ended up at Loma Linda University about 45 minutes from home.



    Dr. Derek Cody was my surgeon and I have been so grateful so far. I am fairly thin, and he was a realist about the size he could give me but did make me feel confident that he could do something. My first consultation was in October, and due to how busy he is my surgery was scheduled for January 21st, this was quite a blow as I was so hopeful I could include my two weeks at Christmas as part of my recovery and not miss so much work. He did a CT scan and we met to go over the results. He showed the the images from the scan and pointed out where my vessels were and said I was a candidate. I decided to give him a christmas present of 10 lbs. by January which was quite doable over the holidays. I checked in Monday morning at 5:00 am, was wheeled into pre-op around 6:30 and surgery at 7:30. When I awoke in post op and could finally see clearly enought the clock read 10:00 pm! My surgery was a full 12 hours. He was able to do a stacked diep using both sides of my stomach and stacking them which is like a double procedure. The hospital staff was amazing, kind, gentle and knowledgable and made me feel very confident in their skills. They checked the flap every hour with the doppler to hear the blood flow for 3 days and every two hours until I was released. They said the flap is going great. Althrough not large it is really beautiful and I realized how much I dislike the implant on the other side. Dr. Cody said we will deal with that later and mentioned we might be able to do a smaller implant and fat grafting...but one step at a time. The implant looks really unnatural to me and is cold! My flap is natural and warm. The surgery team said it was tough to close me due to my thinness but so far I have not popped open. The most important thing for me was as much as getting up filled me with dread every time I did I felt better than the last. I got up on Wednesday after they took the cathater out. The PT was a godsend and was impressed with my leg strength although I am not very athletic it felt good that something was good on my end. At 5' 11" I needed my legs strong to get me to sit. I do have stairs at home and love my master bedroom so the thought of not being able to recover there was unacceptable so by Thursday I told the PT to take me to the stairs...I was able to climb a small flight and go back down she was very impressed and it felt awful and great at the same time. I was released yesterday morning and had a pretty smooth time getting up to my room and settled into this stage of recovery. My husband is an awesome nurse as well. The drains are awful but doable. One really hurts when it is stripped twice a day. I have four two in my breast and two in abdomen. I have not really focused on my abdomen yet. The binder is uncomfortable but doable and the stitches are not too bad, they sting at times. I am on norco every four hours and take a benedryl at night as I have some intense itching. Let me know if I can answer any of your questions for those of you coming up...yes it was worth it so far.

  • christina0001
    christina0001 Member Posts: 1,491
    edited January 2013

    @ TammyT - lol front end realignment!!! That's a hoot, I can't wait to tell my husband

    @ Wintersocks - My surgery is not until July 30th so I am pretty close to where you are at, from the sound of it.

    I am hoping to eventually hear/read the experience of someone getting a DIEP on just one side. I had a UMX and I am doing DIEP + a lift on the "good" side.

  • nihahi
    nihahi Member Posts: 3,841
    edited January 2013

    Christina00.....I am booked for a diep on the right side, (with removal of implant) and removal of implant on the left side which will also have a "tweak" done to the left natural breast. The "tweak" will likely be a combination of lift and reduction, as I don't have lots of tummy to build much on the right side. I told the surgeon that size doesn't matter to me, but symmetry is very, very important. I have a second appt. for further preop/discussion on Feb 27, and surgery is booked for April 12.

  • curveball
    curveball Member Posts: 3,040
    edited January 2013

    @christina0001, I will be having unilaterl DIEP later this year. I will leave my unaffected side alone. It ain't broke, so I won't try to fix it. It's a good thing I am a uni, I've got barely enough donor tissue to replace one breast, never mind both.

  • gotoell
    gotoell Member Posts: 29
    edited January 2013

    Christina my diep 5 days ago was unilateral I have an implant on the other side. We will deal with symmetry at stage 2.

  • KiwiMum
    KiwiMum Member Posts: 704
    edited January 2013

    Christina my DIEP is in 5 days on my right side. It is delayed. My MX was 2 years ago and I've had chemo & rads since.



    I am also having a lift on my left side at the same time. I will update as I go.

  • nihahi
    nihahi Member Posts: 3,841
    edited January 2013

    Just wondering if any of you have been told that you may end up with a tram free flap with minimal muscle taken(instead of a diep) due to very small or few perforator vessels? Also, I have read a few articles that are concluding that a tram free with minimal muscle results in less fat necrosis occurances than a true diep flap. Any feedback on this would be appreciated.

  • Sonyalee
    Sonyalee Member Posts: 14
    edited January 2013

    @Christina- I am scheduled for DIEP on right side next week on 2/4. My PS is going to leave the left side alone for now, but is going to lift and address symmetry during stage II. I will keep you updated as I go along. You are probably having some of the same concerns that I do. I was wondering if symmetry would be better achieved with a bilateral rather than a unilateral. But, at the same time I really didn't want to lose the one breast I have left that still "works" so to speak. Yet again, I would like to have the best possible results, so around and around my mind goes. In the end I decided just to do the one side for now and If I change my mind later, then I have extra tissue elsewhere. Lol! Now a week away I'm frantically trying to make sure I have everything together before surgery and for after. I'm excited but very nervous at the same time.

  • Morningsun1
    Morningsun1 Member Posts: 649
    edited January 2013

    @ nihahi, yes, I was told that a tram free flap with minimal muscle taken (to preserve the integrity of the very small perforator vessels harvested) might be a safe option for me if my perforator vessels are small. Also, Where did you read the articles you mentioned? I am going in tomorrow morning. Will let you know what I come out. Tammy

  • nihahi
    nihahi Member Posts: 3,841
    edited January 2013

    Tammy, so glad to hear you've gotten the same info as me. The article was in a medical journal, I'll have to dig it out but will get back to you with the details. My doc repeatedly reassured me that the muscle involvement (if needed) would not have an impact on my "lifestyle". I'm thinking it may end up as a tram free muscle tweak for me, as I have many times been told I have small vessels, during various tests/procedures. I am fairly thin, if that has any impact. I really don't have a desire to deal with fat necrosis and multiple, multiple fixes post flap surgery. Best wishes for you tomorrow!

  • nihahi
    nihahi Member Posts: 3,841
    edited January 2013

    Tammy, found the article. Published in the American Society of Plastic and Reconstructive Surgeons Journal 

    "Breast Reconstructionwith the Free TRAM of DIEP Flap: Patient Selection, Choice of Flap, and Outcome"

    Authors are: Drs. Maurice Nahabedian, Bahram Momen, Gregory Galdino and Paul N. Manson.

    I believe they are affiliated with Johns Hopkins University.

  • nihahi
    nihahi Member Posts: 3,841
    edited January 2013

    oops, typo, should read TRAM or DIEP in title of article

  • heavenschild
    heavenschild Member Posts: 212
    edited January 2013

    Hi guys!  Just got home from the hospital with four drains.  I feel like a home grown terrorist.  My husband has really manned up and is not freaked out by all the scars.  It will take time and revisions to where they are prettier, but I have hope that in the end it will be a good finished product.

    Hospital visit was horrible.  That's really all I want to say. Really wish I could have afforded NOLA

    BTW, I made a wonderful discovery about taking care of the drains.  Get a bag as big as a make-up bag that has a strap on either side of it - hang it around your neck with all the drains inside.  It is a wonderful solution.

    Get all the help at home you can, someone to cook, clean, etc.  I can take care of my personal needs, but that is about all. 

    BTW. WE NEVER HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT CANCER AGAIN. 

    Gentle cyber hugs to all, it is worth it, even with the crummy hospital!

  • nihahi
    nihahi Member Posts: 3,841
    edited January 2013

    OK, I'm probably going to regret posting this, but it is becoming an emotional issue for me, so here goes. I have read each and every post on the NOLA thread, and have gotten massive amounts of info, education, and support from the ladies there. It is obvious that NOLA is a wonderful scenario, with awesome doctors, nurses, setup, etc. Also, there are certainly some bad experiences with poor hospitals, surgeons, etc.  BUT, NOLA is not always an option or even a desire of everyone looking for breast surgery/reconstruction. I AM NOT TRYING TO MINIMIZE THE WONDERFUL WORK AND SUPPORT THAT THEY PROVIDE. I just think it is important to remember, that there ARE skilled, experienced, compassionate surgeons and nurses at other locations, and it does no one any favours to promote the mindset that if they don't use NOLA, they will have a "second-class" experience/result. There, off my soap box, really not my intention to cause upset to anyone, so hope this is taken in the spirit it is meant.

  • Morningsun1
    Morningsun1 Member Posts: 649
    edited January 2013

    Thanks for the article nihahi. Interesting read.

  • faith729
    faith729 Member Posts: 244
    edited January 2013

    Nihahi I have kind of felt the same way recently. Im glad that you said something because it isn't and option for everyone and it can be difficult going into this process thinking that this NOLA place is out of reach. That being said I have heard wonderful things about the hospital I'm going to and have full confidence in my surgeon. There are brilliant surgeons everywhere :)

    Heavenschild so glad to hear that your doing so great. Thanks for the tip about the drains I've often wondered how it would be getting around with them. If you don't mind me asking what hospital did you go to?

    I look forward to and appreciate the updates from all you girls they are so helpful!

  • SheChirple
    SheChirple Member Posts: 954
    edited January 2013

    gotoel: I am in Moreno Valley, not to far from you.  I am scheduled for DIEP May 24.  Thank you for posting your experience.  I will be watching for updates.  Like you, I manage a large organization and am worried about time away from work.  However, I have to put my health first and have decided to have the DIEP regardless of the time away from work.

    nihahi:  I, too, see all these posts about NOLA and wonder why everyone feels so compelled that they are the gold standard and somehow their own local physicians may be less qualified.  I feel blessed to have awesome medical coverage through Kaiser.  I have a wonderful team of doctors, and my PS is well qualified. I have been asked to sign authorization to convert to TRAM with partial muscle, if necessary, at the doctors discretion during surgery.  I trust him.  

  • nihahi
    nihahi Member Posts: 3,841
    edited January 2013

    Trust is EVERYTHING in this journey, that's why I feel it's so important to spread the word about ALL hospitals, surgeons and types of surgery. The more we spread the word of the "positive" places we can access for care, the better for all of us.

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