Radiation only, no chemo
Hi everyone.
I am struggling with a bit of guilt I think because I got off relatively easy because I didn't have to have chemo. Mi had a lumpectomy and 25 rounds of radiation. I think part of me feels like I didn't have enough treatment and part of me feels so guilty because I didn't have to. I would have done what was necessary and I am so grateful for the oncotype Dx test since that is what determined that I did not need chemo.
Is,anyone else feeling this way too?
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Joan,
I was very concerned about the fact that the first onco I saw was very insistent that I needed chemo even though I had a small tumor and we caught it early. After I kicked and screamed a little, she ordered an onco dx test which showed that it would not be beneficial for my tumor. I think it is wonderful that we are able to have our treatment a little more personalized and that it is not just "one size fits all". When I went to get a second and third opinion, they all concurred that chemo is not always the best option for hormone sensitive types. I feel a great sense of relief that I was not subjected to unnecessary suffering. -
rcurtisra, I feel a great sense of relief and I know I had the best treatment but it doesn't stop me feeling guilty. I cannot explain ...
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I didnt require chemo either onco score 16. My concern when I got my diagnosis was that I would need chemo the rest I felt I could handle. My oncologist was the one to make the call and said I do not recommend it. My Radiation was internal so i went twice a day for 5 days. Had a few bumps in the road but all is now well and I use the naturopath and all she has to offer.
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Yes, I felt exactly that way.
What did I do that I got off relatively lightly, while other women, diagnosed at the same time had to go through difficult treatments, and some have even died?
But there is no answer to that. We get what we get.Just relax, and accept
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Love this thread. Its hard to relate to some of the other posts as I have not had lots of side effects or issues.
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Thanks for starting this thread Joanne.
I only had lumpectomy and rads and now Tamoxifen. It was a consensus amongst the team that I did not need chemo. But while I was glad not to have chemo there is always a little voice in my head saying "2cm, Grade2, LVI' and reading about how many node neg women have developed progression I am always a little nervous. So it is heartening to come across some of you with similar diagnosis who did not have chemo. I am in Australia and I don't think they have oncotype testing here. I had ki... (sp) testing, but i don't think they paid much attention to that
I had moved on and have not been on BCO for months. Then another scare - I have had L sacral pain on and off for a few months so the onc ordered a bone scan which I had yesterday. The Dr left a message on the machine " It's all good but ring the surgery" so I'm hoping to get a call back soon. So it sounds as though the scan was OK.
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Hi Joanne,
I am feeling the same way as you! My treatment was similar to yours (lumpectomy and 16 Rads) and I frequently question myself if I was "under" treated. My MO didn't recommend to do the Oncotype Dx as most of my tumor was DCIS (1.9 cm) and IDC (.2 cm). Somehow, I feel that if the MO had done the Onco test I may have not been feeling this way. But there is no way of knowing... Like you, there is a level of guilt about not having chemo as part of the treatment.
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Hi mamglam, how are you? When are you coming home? Hope things are good.
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Hello all..
yes, I'm also feeling this way... lumpectomy, SNB, Onco score of 8. Had surgery Oct 1, but not starting rads til Nov 26...so am really feeling like I have a few weeks of "normal" which is soooo odd after all the drama of the last 8 weeks. I delayed the start of rads to fit with my teaching schedule which makes all the sense in the world. RO was supportive of it and said I had a wide window of opportunity.
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Good luck with the rads ... Watch your skin. Lots of glaxol base and be sure to slather your entire breast and SNB incision too.
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Oh where was this thread two weeks ago? Here, but I hadn't found it yet!
I transferred my care from a Toronto hospital to one closer to home, In TO, the nurse nav asked me if I would take chemo if Oncotype came back 'High Low' and I said yes.
From that time unitl two and half weeks later, I had met my new MO and then another appointment to get score results, which came back at 16. She did not offer any chemo as the benefit was 1-2%. I was okay with that as I left the office Tamoxifen script in hand.
BUT, when I got home and started reading 18 was the high end of low, I started to second guess myself. I just about made myself sick remembering what the nurse navigator had asked me in TO. Then I started feeling like maybe I was being under-treated. Maybe a bit of guilt that I didn't push harder for more of a discussion on chemo. My pathology and Oncotype results make sense, but I still am having a wee bit of guilty remorse. It's even hard to really describe what I am feeling, even though it is less now than two weeks ago.
I wonder too if it may be I know several survivors but I am the only one who went straight to Tamoxifen.
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Outdamnedspot ...
My onco score was 12 and I was so relieved .... I think sometimes I feel guilty not because I am not giving it everything I can but because I was so fortunate to have a low score. So many out there are going through so much more then me. You need to trust the MO and if she said the benefit was 1-2% then is it really worth putting your body through so much? Are you having radiation? -
Outdamnedspot - Finished rads yesterday and am so happy to have dodged chemo. I also had 16 oncotype and worried that the MO was just being 'lenient' with me and wondered if being on the high side of Low brought chemo into question. He emphatically said that Low oncotype is Low oncotype and that the only place chemo is a maybe yes or maybe no is in the medium range (high is always a yes for chemo). But still, I keep thinking i'm uncomfortably close to that Middle border...
I'm coming to the conclusion that I just have to accept that life from here on down the pike will always contain a question mark of recurrence and that I'll never feel again in a 'safe zone'. And that every time I have a mammo or MRI, I'll be holding my breath a little harder than before. Looking back, it's crazy that I felt like I was in a safe zone till I was diagnosed. but there's definitely an edge now. Is anyone else feeling this sense of "unsureness" or edginess?
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This is an interesting thread, which I want to put my piece into it. I was Dx ILC last April, 3cm in right breast...had right MX and TE with 5 wks radiation and on 23rd of this month, I will be having a preventative right sided MX with TE. I had Oncotype and came back 14. My Onc said that chemo would only help my chances by 2%, not much as I've heard others say for the effects on the body. My Onc also spoke with a specialist in BC at UCSF who agreed that it would be okay for me not to do Chemo.
I was so happy with my Onc, for taking that extra step for me. After thinking and thinking about it, I chose NO chemo. It was actually a tough decision at first, because as you said Joan, I didn't want to feel guilty about it, I wanted to feel like I did my all. Soon afterwards, I felt good about it and now I do not really have regrets. If the doctor felt it would have helped me, I would have go through it. But now I feel okay..
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Joanne, I just noticed that except for me being ILC and you being IDC, our stats are the same.
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I don't see a lot of activity on this thread, but I'm so glad I found it. I have been having terrible guilt feelings about the fact that I escaped chemo. I had a rather large tumor (relatively speaking) at 3.5 cm. The doctors were pretty convinced I would have chemo, but my Oncotype DX came back as 6. This was great news, but it also made it seem to those not in the know that my cancer wasn't as "serious" as others. It's cancer for pete's sake! I am going to radiation every day for six weeks. I have a ginormous scar on my breast and under my arm. I am a cancer patient, even if I didn't lose my hair or throw up or have a Port. I pray every day for those women who weren't so lucky to avoid chemo. I thank God that I didn't have to have it. But dammit, I still have cancer.
Jenn
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Jenn, I know exactly how you feel .... I get it. It is hard because others just don't realize that the emotional effects will be long lasting.
Good luck with rads ... Take care of your skin. -
Please do not feel guilty for not having chemo. I had both chemo and rads and I found rads much more difficult than chemo. Anyone who survives rads is a brave warrior.
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Joanne, would like to know how you are feeling now? I too have that "guilt" feeling. I have had three surgeries and begin radiation Monday but to my great relief no chemo. Yet somehow I feel guilty over this. What a relief to find someone else felt the same way!
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I have 8 more sessions and can't wait to be done with it. My guilt comes from having fatigue and a bit of nausea. I have several friends who have also had rads only and they told me it was no problem. I am 64 and they were much younger when they went through it. I am still teaching my HS classes and doing my best to stay upbeat but it isn't easy. We need to know that we are survivors too. Stay strong.
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Bookworm I am at the same point as you. 7 more as boosts and I am done. No chemo for me. My onco score was a 17. People at me work seem to forgot that I am going through treatment because I am so normal. They don't see the fatique and red/brown areas on my body. I was able to have treatments right after work so I didn't miss any work time.
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Sully, I am feeling better ... I know I have done what I need to do but when I meet so done that has to have chemo I can't get past the fact that I didn't. I think sometimes too that I diminish the cancer because I ONLY had a lumpectomy and ONLY had radiation.
Does any of this make sense?
Joanne -
it makes sense to me. Somehow we feel that something so life changing needs to be treated even more aggresively. On the other hand, surgery, then lots of radiation and at least 5 years of heavy duty meds is strong medicine. I'm psyched to be through with rads after the next 8 treatments but I'm still nervous about the aromatase inhibitor...I guess I'll try them but I'm ver nervous about side effects. Cost/benefit?
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I am on tamoxifen since march and doing ok. I have weight gain but not sure how much is from meds or bad behaviours.
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Makes perfect sense to me. Almost as though we have not suffered enough to be part of the group.
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Yes and no ... I think sometimes people at work think it is not as serious .... It is still breast cancer ....
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Hi,
I have been reading as much info as I can on radiation as my surgeon has already mentioned it to me and given me some options. I have a questions and didnt want to start a whole new thread, if you do radiation now after a lumpectomy, if God forbid it returns what are your options as far as having a masc, and using skin or nipple sparring surgery? Is it all ruined due to the radiation? I am sorry if I am not asking this correctly. I had ILC removed, I also have LCIS and DCIS, I assume the rads will kill them and any other ILC lurking. Is that a correct assumption? I am in fear if I do the radiation and it returns I wont have as many options treatment or for reconstruction. I know many choose to have a masc instead of lumpectomy, I feel if it happens again that I would have to consider that but not now.
Any info or opinions you want to share is greatly appreciated. I am sorry some of you feel some guilt in not doing chemo, I understand why you would feel this way but from someone new I look at you all the same, strong woman that fought a battle or still are, I dont compare who did what, we cant measure what someones pain or emotions are, or how easy or hard treatment was, no one wants to be on this team. Be proud I think your all warriors. Thank you all.
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Hello everyone,
I can relate to the comments on this thread and I have almost the exact same questions as you do lemon. I was worried that a lumpectomy wasn't aggresive enough and worried that a mastectomy was too much. I was glad that chemo was ruled out but now worried that 'it' might return. I almost find myself apologizing to others for taking time off for appointments etc. because without chemo I am sure that others don't view the cancer as seriously. My thoughts are the same about reconstructive surgery if I have to get a mastectomy down the road I am worried that the two lumpectomy scars and the radiation I have to have will make too big a mess of the skin that I would need for good results. Also not looking forward to tamoxifen. Taking it for years seems like such a reminder that I am not living in the 'safe zone' anymore.
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I was told if you have radiation and cancer comes back you can no longer have a lumpectomy, must have mastectomy and yes implants may not hold up, because of damaged tissue. I passed on radiation for now, just taking tamoxifen.
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Hi Teresa- I am not so sure I am going to do the Tamoxifen, I have been reading alot about the alternative using food and herbs etc to accomplish the same thing. Surgeon told me if he gave Tamox to 100 women, it may or may not help 13 of them but out of that 13 some of them would never of had a reoccurance. I have been looking this up and the odds I see of it helping arent established. I am not so sure I want to deal with SEs when it may not even help. I dont want it back and I am scared to make a wrong move.. sucks!
Hi LorAll- thank you I figured in reading about the damage the rads do it might cause a problem looking ahead. I have no plans on going through this again but I am trying to weigh out everything. How are you feeling on the Tamoxifen, scares me.
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