STFU (Shut the F*** UP)

I got one remark within the last 6 months.I am a 3 1/2 year survivor.I told a friend over the phone I lost a few more pounds.First thing out of her mouth"Is your cancer back".I could never say that to someone who was dx with any cancer or any other life threatening disease. 

The most annoying line someone said to me was "I had a breast reduction and know exactly what you're going through."  WHAT???!!! STFU would have been the perfect response.  Another not-so-bright individual said to me "I'm a retired nurse.  Thankfully no one dies from breast cancer anymore."  I should have said "Really?  On what planet did you work?". 

Absolutely love the STFU t-shirt idea. 

Mantra.... I had a breast reduction and know exactly what you're going through????? !!!!!!!!!!! 

that DEMANDS a slap!!!   

I've noticed that people respond more to my cancer blog posts if they're uplifting.  I think this is a good topic for a blog post. My cancer is not about you feeling better.  I hate everything about pink.

My stfu moment was to a "good friend". We have been friends for years and I confided in her when I was first dx. I told her that I am telling only certain people because I can't handle everyone knowing. Well, I did not count on her and another friend discussing it in the cafeteria. They did not use my name but one girl at the table figured it out. I don't see her often and wanted to tell her in person.

About a week later, I was telling her and she had no reaction. None at all. She said that she had heard someone had breast cancer and thought it might have been me. She said she was very upset and shocked for me but was not going to ask until and if I was ready to tell her. I told her it was ok, and so she told me who was talking. Well, I now need a biopsy in the other breast in a week, guess who I am NOT telling. Btw, I was diagnosed with dcis on 12/4/12. I am pissed at these two women, I know they are concerned and care for me but come on!!!



My mother had stage 1 lobular invasive and dcis last year and my BFF has triple neg stage 2IIIb last year.



I also hate that I seem to be consoling others when I am the scared one!

Amen, amen and amen! Too funny yet so on point. I am tired of the freaking free willed advice.. Don't get them too big...blah blah blah. How dare you?! Yes, the ignorance is flowing wrecklessly and I know there are a few who are definitely going to hear STFU soon..VERY soon!



Continued blessings to you!

Kassylou, I am one year out and I know what you mean. It does suck. I have not had to fill out lots of forms but I know it made me cry when I had to check the cancer box.

Granny....VERY...VERY..STRANGE....You, have said what I have been thinking......Liz

You ladies make me laugh....

Recently heard......"Guess you can't drink anymore huh?"

To which I responded......been there, done that....now STFU and pour me another.

You all have a great night!

grannydukes.... Oh nooo...is it me? I tend to give a lot of advice....

Just let me know if I need to STFU....

No Blessings it is not you....please dont get crazy with this remark that was said.I never heard you say too much.There are lots of sistas who play GOD...its kinda like a power play...I know something that you dont know and you gotta listen to me....everyone has lots and lots of info from this wonderful BCO.I even started a thread when I finished the rads called AFTER RADS...boy did i think everything was gonna be fine....shocker.eyeopener..

Its done and over with....enuf grannydukes...STFU.XOXOXO

Thanks Joanne....I dont think that is possible anyway.

I even talk in my sleep.lol.

Funny story..when sandy came and hit NJ I was at my nieces house with a million people sleepin everywhere.The next day when i got up everyone was laughing at me...I asked why and they said not only was i talkin in my sleep but i sat up and cursed sandy..

No I will not STFU.

Grannydukes, there u are--hiding? no I don't think so---BTW hahahahahahahaha--sorry I had to do that.

Thanks for the laugh sheila...you are always good for that.

Thanks camilegal. My husband and I talked and we decided the stress of this was not worth it. She did call to apologize. I am just keeping expectations low where she is concerned.

wow this thread is jumpin tonite.....

so sorry Kassy for the dissappointment with your mom....just maybe she has to digest the fact her daughter has the beast.

See now im givin advice...oh STFU will ya...I talk too much anyway.

huggs everyone.I gotta do my exercises and then im off to read a book.

nite all hugggggs Grannydukes.