Any Ladies from the San Francisco Bay Area?

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I am having a hard time finding support groups and would love to connect with women in my area. I am interested in all kinds of connections - talks, coffee/tea, and outdoor activities once I have recovered from hip surgery. I love music, movies, books, travel, games and am told that I'm not a bad listener.

Chelsea

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  • Mariposa123
    Mariposa123 Member Posts: 267
    edited September 2012

    Hi there

    I am in foster city... which isn't too far from you. I have been going to the support group at breast cancer connections in palo alto. It has been wonderful. Where are you getting your treatment? I am at Stanford.

  • Healing123
    Healing123 Member Posts: 16
    edited September 2012

    Hello,

    I am in San Jose. Good to hear from you lovely ladies.

  • chelseasanfran
    chelseasanfran Member Posts: 48
    edited September 2012

    Hi Mariposa, I've gotten treatment all over - Lumpectomy and IORT at CPMC 11/11, Chemo at Alta Bates (finished 3/1/12) had my six month screening mosting at UCSF (one MRI at CPMC, one MRI at UCSF, then a breast US, an MRI-guided core biopsy on my operated breast, a US guided core biopsy on my other breast, a Chest CT to rule out a lung lesion and an Abdominal US to rule out a liver lesion). 

    I went to UCSF for comprehensive second opinion on whether to have further radiation WBRT, reconstruction and questions about whether I had the proper procedure, but still have not heard anything back (except the Breast Surgeon there said absolutely no more radiation and the Radiation Oncologist said yes, more radiation).  Good news is my two month six month screening was clear, but hoping my 1 year won't be so stressful.

    I am also under the care of Keith Block for my diet and supplements.

    Is Breast Cancer Connections a Stanford group? Tell me more about it. 

  • Mariposa123
    Mariposa123 Member Posts: 267
    edited September 2012

    Hi Chelsea- Breast Cancer Connections is a separate non-profit.  They have tons of support groups, workshops, a research library and all kinds of other supports.  They also gave me a buddy - a survivor who had very similar cancer to mine.  She has been really wonderful in giving me some hope.

    Here is there website:  http://bcconnections.org/

    My support group is for younger women diagnosed with breast cancer (although I am the oldest in the group).  It is nice because a lot of the women there are struggling with going through treatment with young children like me (I have a two year old and a five year old).

     Sounds like you have had a lot to go through!  Congratulations on having your last screenings clear.  I am just at the beginning of my journey.  Tuesday is my first chemo treatment.  I would be more terrified if I wasn't so aggravated by this stupid port in my chest.  It aches and feels terrible.  

    Good night Bay Area ladies:-)    Hope you all have a wonderful week.

  • Tlym
    Tlym Member Posts: 115
    edited November 2012

    I'm in Hillsborough and getting treatment at Stanford. I had my lumpectomy 9/5/12 and pathology came back stage 1, grade 3, triple negative. Seeing MO on Wednesday for treatment recommendations, but I'm sure chemo is in the cards for me.

    Would love to get together with any of you ladies.

    Chelsea, who did you see for your radiation? I'm thinking of going to CPMC because I really like Dr. Mark Rounsaville.

    Mariposa, good luck tomorrow! 

  • Cowgirl13
    Cowgirl13 Member Posts: 1,936
    edited September 2012

    TLock, Rounsaville is terrific and everyone in radiation was so nice and friendly.  He was my radiation oncologist.

    I live in San Francisco and am a little over 3 years out.  Had all my treatment at CPMV.

    Liz 

     

  • mw900
    mw900 Member Posts: 76
    edited September 2012

    Hi all.

    I'm in Oakland and would be very interested in meeting. Anyone have any suggestions for when/where?

  • chelseasanfran
    chelseasanfran Member Posts: 48
    edited September 2012

    Dear Mariposa,

    I just wrote you a long message that got deleted somehow. This one will be a little shorter.  I had no problems with my port - inserted by an Interventional radiologist via my Internal Jugular draining/port site at my inferior/superior vena cava.  I had no problems - a little irritation for about a week, but after that it healed well and I had no issues for 4 cylcles of CT with Neulasta.  I did have problems with the removal - a different IR did it and did a very sloppy job - huge, rough, organge sutures that were left in under the skin to dissolve, never did and have been picked and oozed out (dryly) by my breast surgeon, the IR who inserted it, and myself, but it's still irritated and the scar hasn't properly healed. I may have plastic surgeon open it up - take out the stiches and sew it back up again, but after my Total Hip Replacement and recovery which is next week.  If you are having problems now- go back to the IR or surgeon who inserted it and have it checked out. Dealing with the chemo is tough enough, without having to suffer more with an irritated port and you don't want it to get infected or blocked.

    TLYM, my first message to you also go deleted. I saw John Lee at CPMC. He was part of the package with my surgeon Nima Grissom, who had trained with Lee to do IORT in Germany. Re:Rounsaville, Liz had a good experience with him, which is the best feedback.  I can't recommend Dr. Lee as he did the wrong procedure, which would have been avoided had I just had a pre-op MRI for proper sizing, and also because he never checked with the IORT people in Germany. 10 months after my procedure, my surgeon finally contacted them and they recommended I not get further radiation (WBRT), even after Lee and the CPMC tumor board had recommended that get it. I'm glad I waited. 

    While I don't necessarily like all of the local decision leaders in the field regarding radiation, if, in your case, your statistics or clinical status are in anyway outside of the box in terms of the women studied in the various clinical trials, you should consider finding someone who can think outside of the box and try to extrapolate the most recent data/thinking in helping you make decisions about the best treatments for you. These are typically people involved in past or current clinical trials. In general, I also think getting multiple opinions is good, and making decisions based on how good the rationales and evidence are supporting their recommendations/opinions.

    There are various different tests to help with the chemo issues - OncotypeDX, the Mammoprint, and perhaps some others. More and more people are going for the Mammoprint and I would look for some postings on this website about the issues and differences between them. I had a high OncotypeDX score, so I went ahead with the chemo based on that. Had I had a low Mammoprint score, I might have reconsidered not having Chemo. Again, it is complicated, and I think the issue of like and trust in terms of someone's fund of knoweldge are really different issues. But, it's hard to get a lot of info and figure out the best decisions alone, so if you have a friend or family member who is good at investigating and helping with decision making, I would recruit them.

    Would love to meet with everyone, and not just for shop talk, but I am going in for a total hip replacement next Thursday and will be home bound for a while afterwards.  I had to go to the ER two days ago for irretractable pain in my left knee - thought I had dislocated it or torn something - luckily just from my left hip which I am getting replaced in 5 days! On a lighter note the EMTs who brought me home to my bed by ambulance last night were really cute and very sweet. 

    Once I am up and about again, we could meet at a local restaurant at some central location. And once, when, if people are comfortable, I'd love to have you at my home or travel to meet you in your areas. 

    Please keep me updated on how you're all doing. 

    Warmest wishes and a big hug to all of you.

    Chelsea

  • Nkb
    Nkb Member Posts: 1,436
    edited September 2012

    I'm In Oakland also.

  • exbrnxgrl
    exbrnxgrl Member Posts: 12,424
    edited September 2012

    San Jose, too. Dd/SIL live in Oakland.

    Caryn

  • ChristineR66
    ChristineR66 Member Posts: 24
    edited September 2012
    I'm in the East Bay in the Bay Area.. Cool  Town is called Hercules.
  • mammalou
    mammalou Member Posts: 823
    edited September 2012
    I live in Los Banos, but travel to Stanford for treatment.  I feel very lonely out here. Frown
  • Mariposa123
    Mariposa123 Member Posts: 267
    edited September 2012

    Hi Mammalou & christine

       Sorry you are feeling lonely.  It is pretty lonely here too:(  I look so forward to my support group - but it only meets once every other week.   Other than that, I try to connect to people in the September Chemo board.

  • chelseasanfran
    chelseasanfran Member Posts: 48
    edited November 2012
    Sorry I've been absent - 9/27 5 days in surgery lost a lot of blood, transfused 2 units and then went into A Fib, then over sedated and required Narcan to bring me back, then 2 weeks in a SNF, then 3 weeks of home care and home PT. I was entitled to the benefits, but had to fight for them. Wondering if any other gals had problems getting skilled nursing or home care services you were entitled to.



    Anyway, the good news is I'm 2 months out from my total hip replacement and finally getting out of the house with a cane (I had to work up to getting up and dowm my 18 stairs) and am starting out pt physical therapy. December is my 1 year post op screening - planning to do them all mammo MRI and US, since no one can agree, I had the wrong surgery, and noone really knows my prognosis - also because I have such dense breasts.



    Would love to get together with all of you and would be happy to host a brunch at my home in SF in December or after the New Year, although I know it's not convenient for everyone. We could also rent a room at the Claremont in Oakland or a restaurant that has private rooms. I'm very flexible but would need advance notice to work around all my medical Appts. Maybe on a weekend . Big hugs to all of you and let's do it! Would also love to hear updates on everybody.



    XoxO. Chelsea
  • QuinnCat
    QuinnCat Member Posts: 3,456
    edited November 2012

    Chelsea...I saw this thread as the title caught my eye.  Grew up in Oakland, not far from the Claremont. UCB undergrad.  My old stomping grounds.  I no longer live in the Bay Area, but further north.

    I was interested in how you are being treated by Keith Block for diet and supplements from afar.  I've heard of one other that goes to his center in Chicago, from my town, but wondered what this entails, exactly.  Do you travel to Chicago. Phone consults?  Does insurance cover this?

    Sorry for all the trauma you've endured with the hip replacement. You seem so upbeat about it all....

    Edited:  Since writing above, I found your very thorough post on your experience at the Block Center.  I do have his book, so maybe I'll start and finish there.  Cool  

  • Mollydog
    Mollydog Member Posts: 93
    edited November 2012

    Hi there.  When I first noticed this Bay Area strand, I saved it as a favorite but hadn't written anything.  I live here in San Francisco, and all my doctors are associated with CPMC.  (Dr. Rounsaville was my radiation onc, too.)  As you can see from my background, I'm almost five years out from my diagnosis.  But I still live it everyday.

    In about a half hour, my husband is taking me to Davies for a cystoscopy.  We need to get to the bottom of my bleeding.  It is infrequent, but any bleeding is too much.  We know it's not vaginal.  And now we need to rule out bladder cancer.  Apparently, according to my urologist, cytoxan can cause bladder cancer.

    We shall see.  Maybe it's just the lack of estrogen.

    Take care all.

  • Tlym
    Tlym Member Posts: 115
    edited November 2012

    Chelsea-Sorry to hear of your health troubles but glad you are on the mend. I had tx #2 today at UCSF, so I'm expecting to be out of commisssion for the rest of the week. Any other ladies curently in treatment?

  • Moderators
    Moderators Member Posts: 25,912
    edited November 2012

    Hey, 

    You may want to post this also in the Get Togethers Forum ! 

    Hugs to all you Bay Area women!

    Your Mods

  • QuinnCat
    QuinnCat Member Posts: 3,456
    edited November 2012

    Mollydog - I hope you only get good news.  Didn't know this about Cytoxan.  Please let us know xxo

  • Mollydog
    Mollydog Member Posts: 93
    edited December 2012

    Appreciate your message, Kam.  Yes, good news.  Pathology report came back negative for cancer.  The pathologist indicated that the lining of my bladder is quite thin.  My urologist doesn't know why.  He suspects it's due to the cytoxan, but who knows.  I see my onc in January, and I will ask him then about cytoxan and the risk for bladder cancer.  But I can already hear him:  1 in 10,000...  I may also ask him if I can take a break from Femara.  The complete lack of estrogen is quite difficult on us.  From dry vaginas to trigger fingers to achy knees.  And maybe even bleeding.  Take care all.

  • QuinnCat
    QuinnCat Member Posts: 3,456
    edited December 2012

    Good news Mollydog!  My aunt had BC at 52 and bladder cancer at 75.  Totally unrelated and she never had chemo.  She did have type ii diabetes and I think there could have been drugs related to that, that caused the bladder cancer.  1:10,000 is not bad odds for Cytoxan though.

  • chelseasanfran
    chelseasanfran Member Posts: 48
    edited December 2012

    Dear Mollydog,

    So glad to hear the good news about your bladder. Did they tell you what's causing the bleeding?



    I had my 1 year screening today - at UCSF- diagnostic mammogram on both breasts, ultrasound and MRI. Mammogram and US were clear and I'll get the MRI results tomorrow. My docs aren't there, but I had my 6 month screening done there as part of a comprehensive 2nd opinion in June so my plan approved my 1yr follow up studies there. They approved the multiple tests because I have very dense breasts, had the wrong surgery so no one really knows my risk of recurrence, and because none of the tests alone have adequate sensitivity and specificity.

    I' m hopeful and will let you know.



    I also need to get a bone density scan, as I' m on Aromasin. The surgeon did comment on my X-rays after my total hip replacement that there was noticeable bone loss in my knees! So, we'll see how the rest of them are holding up, although typically they don't look at the lower extremities.



    I,ve had a lot of side effects with the Aromasin including muscle and joint pain. I don't know if I'll be able to tolerate it for five years or the threshold level of bone loss before they automatically discontinue it.

  • chelseasanfran
    chelseasanfran Member Posts: 48
    edited December 2012

    Dear Tlym,



    I assume you're talking about chemo. I had 4 cycles of Cytoxan and Taxotere followed by neulasta.

    How are you tolerating it thus far?



    What were your tumor board recommendations? Are they recommending WBRT after chemo?



    Certain meds and supplements and special diet/foods were particularly helpful for me during and post chemo ( for my symptoms) and I got some wonderful feedback from women on my issues around losing all my hair, most of which has grown back.



    I can share more on my chemo coping strategies if you're interested, although there 's a lot of great info already posted,



    I sometimes found/find it hard to find the postings that specifically addressed my questions.



    Chelsea

  • Mollydog
    Mollydog Member Posts: 93
    edited December 2012

    Unfortunately, they do not know why there's bleeding.  It could all just be attributable to the lack of estrogen.

  • Tlym
    Tlym Member Posts: 115
    edited December 2012

    Hi Chelsea, SE's have actually been really mild this round and I'm doing great! I am taking supplements and herbs and have been receiving weekly acupuncture. I seem to be doing much better than other ladies on my November chemo board. I'm also using cold caps so hair is still holding on strong!

    As for post-chemo tx, I'm still in the process of making a decision. Initially I was planning on radiation but lately have been giving serious thought to having a bmx. I am BRCA+ and triple negative, so there is compelling reason to proceed with bmx. Have a bunch of consults set up for next week and hopefully will get some clarity as to how I want to proceed.

  • QuinnCat
    QuinnCat Member Posts: 3,456
    edited December 2012

    Tlym - I am also brca2+  I've left my dx and tx below, as my chemo was a little different. (more of it)

  • Tlym
    Tlym Member Posts: 115
    edited December 2012

    Kam170-I was given the option of TC or dose dense AC-T. After agonizing over the decision for a couple of weeks, I decided on TC when my MO gave me overall survival benefit of .75% for AC-T. I have a family history of heart disease and wasn't comfortable with the risks. Was your carboplatin a clinical trial? I see you're on an AI; did you choose to wait on the oopherectomy?

  • QuinnCat
    QuinnCat Member Posts: 3,456
    edited December 2012

    Tlym - I had the ooph on 8/30...easy peasy.  I travelled to OHSU for my BMX and reconstruction last January...the head MO there believes in giving Carboplatin to, atleast early stage, BRCA cancers (I can't speak to stage iii or iv).  In his words "he is going off the reservation" with this, BUT there is evidence (and maybe clinical trials) with using Platins on brca BCs.  It was added after the AC-T...it was very easy compared to my experience with Taxol (I had a rougher time with T, than with than AC).  Six weeks, for once a week on the Carboplatin.

    One poster here said MD Anderson wouldn't give it to her (for brca)..not in their protocol.  Another poster here, lelela, is brca1+ and has a deep history in her family of BC and ovarian.  Her family has had good results with carboplatin and brca BC.  She has done a lot of research on this topic...also PARP is a future hope for us.

  • Tlym
    Tlym Member Posts: 115
    edited December 2012

    Kam170-Any hospitals in CA giving carbo? I did read about the parps too. I'm meeting with PS and BS next week for consult about bmx. Really dreading surgery but fear of recurrence worse. Was ooph done under general? Are you premenopausal? Any SEs? Wonder if I should coordinate all procedures at same time.

  • Tlym
    Tlym Member Posts: 115
    edited December 2012

    Kam170-Duh...AI...so you are post menopausal. I'm worried about going into immediate menopause and the resulting SEs with ooph.

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