I feel so lost.

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betelgeuse
betelgeuse Member Posts: 1
edited June 2014 in Caring for Someone with Breast cancer

My mom was just diagnosed with late stage breast cancer. They don't yet know the type, or have a prognoses. If it wasn't for my dad and a broken nose, she wouldn't have even that much.

I know it's been years since she first noticed the symptoms, and she has refused out of stubborness and probably fear to go to the doctor. So that at least indicates a slow growing tumor.

I suspect the problems she's had with balance has little to do with her head injury from the broken nose, but cancer spreading to her spine. I hope beyond hope I am wrong.

I just feel so lost. I've been crying all day. I just don't know what to do. I feel so awful for my dad. They've been together over thirty years, and they really love each other...I just can't even fathom. I wish I lived closer to home.

I love my mom so much and don't want to lose her. This wait until Monday for the prognoses is killing me. :-(

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  • chrissyb
    chrissyb Member Posts: 16,818
    edited November 2012

    Hi Betelgeuse. I'm so sorry that you need to be here and so sorry that your mom has received this diagnosis.



    Until all the testing is done to find out exactly where the cancer is its and what type it is, it's very hard to give you any advice. However, I can send you a gentle ((((((hug))))) and let you know that we are here to support you any way we can.



    I know Monday seems a long way off but if you try to stay busy the time will pass and you will have some answers.



    Come here often and let us know how your mom is doing and ask any question and we will try to answer for you. There is also a very good reference section on this site and when you know a little more you can check it out.



    Love n hugs. Chrissy

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  • Alicethecat
    Alicethecat Member Posts: 535
    edited November 2012

    Oh sweetie

    I am sorry. This is the worst time - the waiting to be seen, getting tests done and waiting for the full diagnosis. Once a treatment plan is in place it gets easier.

    Hopefully, however, there may be another cause for your mother's symptoms.

    Here's hoping!

    Alice

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  • Winnymac
    Winnymac Member Posts: 40
    edited November 2012

    Betelgeuse,

    The waiting can be so difficult, your mind goes to some dark places especially if you start surfing the Internet for answers, which I think we have all done. I pray that you can have some peace as you wait and that you get a really good doctor and dont lose hope. My husband was just diagnosed stage IV, 4 months ago and the emotions have been all over the place. The hardest thing for me has been to not grieve a husband I still have but rather embrace the time we have. Of course easier said than done, but I work on it each day. Hang in there and keep us posted.

    Linda

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