My mother is going to die

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EBM29
EBM29 Member Posts: 1
edited June 2014 in Caring for Someone with Breast cancer

My mother is days from passing, and I don't know what to do.  At 23 years old, I will have to bury my mother, weeks before my wedding day. 

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  • midnight1327
    midnight1327 Member Posts: 1,475
    edited November 2012

    I am so sorry to hear this, you are so young to loose yr mum and esp when your wedding is drawing near. i am going pray for you and get others also to pray for you.  am thinking of you. there will be other ladies on here who will be able to help you better than i. but am sending  warm hugs yr way. oxox

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  • chrissyb
    chrissyb Member Posts: 16,818
    edited November 2012

    Oh EBM that is so sad..........sad to lose your Mom and sad that she will not be able to be here in person for your wedding.  I'm sure that it's not your Mom's choice to leave you at this time but with this disease it is not up to us.

    To help you through this time, it may help for you to think that your Mom will finally be at peace with no more pain and discomfort.  I'm sure you have some wonderful memories that you have made with her as you have gone through your life and now is the time to remember.  

    While you remember and speak her name she will never be far from you as she will live forever in your heart.   (((((((((Hugs))))))))

    Love n hugs.   Chrissy

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  • Racy
    Racy Member Posts: 2,651
    edited November 2012

    EBM29, I'm sorry this is happening to your family at a time which should be joyful. I'm sure you are giving great comfort to your mom.



    I hope you have other family members who can support you through this time. Let others help you with whatever you need to do so that you aren't overburdened. I hope your fiancé is a strong support to you.

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  • Beckers
    Beckers Member Posts: 1,883
    edited November 2012

    Ebm29, I am so very sorry that you have to go through this. And...your wedding day? Oh gosh my heart goes out to you. Wishing your mom a peaceful passing. Hang in there as you go through this. It is torture. ((hugs))

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited November 2012

    EBM29 I'm so sorry too to hear this. My heart goes out to you and the terror and the unspeakable grief you must be feeling right now. Do you have other family around to help? You don't say where you are from, but I'm praying that there will some help that comes your way. Gentle Gentle hugs.

    Musical

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  • Moderators
    Moderators Member Posts: 25,912
    edited November 2012

    ((((((((((((((Big hugs, Ebm))))))))))))))

    All of us here at Breastcancer.org are here to support you through this. We're so so sorry...

    --The Mods

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  • cheryl1946
    cheryl1946 Member Posts: 1,308
    edited November 2012

    EBM29

    I am so sorry.

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  • mandapanda
    mandapanda Member Posts: 105
    edited November 2012

    I'm so sorry.



    I'm 29 and just lost my mom in August. We were very close/best friends.



    My baby girl was less than then 2 months old when she passed and my son is 3 yrs old. She was the best grandma and my son misses her so much. It makes me so sad to think and won't be here physically to see them and that they will miss out on having her as their grandma.



    Cancer isn't fair!!



    I'm hear to listen if you want to message me. I'm still grieving but no one knows how we feel unless they have been through this. You and your mom will be in my prayers.

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  • midnight1327
    midnight1327 Member Posts: 1,475
    edited November 2012

    mandapanda, i am glad she this poor sweet girl has you who has been thru this  not long ago. as you say, you understand more when you been  thru the situation and  you can be more comfort to her at this time, esp both being young loosing yr mum.  Your mum is yr mom and still have mine, and cannot imagine what life would be without her. i miss my dad too and wish he was around to tell things to. he been gone 11 years now. still miss him every day. so glad you may be a blessing to this girl to turn to.  warm gentle hugs.

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  • Travelingpants2
    Travelingpants2 Member Posts: 545
    edited November 2012

    OH GOD...My heart is aching right now..but PLEASE know we understand, and are ALL HERE for you. THIS SUCKS THE BIG ONE !!!!!!!!!!!!!

    F$#@! CANCER !!

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  • Strike_Two
    Strike_Two Member Posts: 92
    edited November 2012

    Oh, I am so sorry.  I have a 23 year old daughter who will marry next year, and I know how much I want to see her marry, and I'm sure you know how much your mom wants to be with you. 

    Did you shop together for your dress?  Has she seen you in it?  I'm sure she has run through your wedding in her mind a thousand times. 

    Peace.

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  • link44
    link44 Member Posts: 10
    edited November 2012

    I am so sorry for you and your Mom. I lost my Mom in September. I am 40 yo and I cry everyday. Try to talk to her as much as possible and even when she passes.It helps me alot.

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  • Scottiee1
    Scottiee1 Member Posts: 2,329
    edited November 2012

    EBM.....I watched my Mom pass away, in fact I pushed the Doctors to increase her morphine which meant that her heart would give out, which it did. She was in so much pain and when she passed, I was happy she was finally at peace, she deserved that

    And I think that is what will keep you going.....she deserves to be at peace. Prayers and hugs for you and your family.

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