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meg56
meg56 Member Posts: 4
edited June 2014 in Caring for Someone with Breast cancer

Almost 5 years ago my mom was diagnosed with Stage 4 Breast Cancer spread to bones and lymph nodes and the lining around her organs. She has responded well to most treatments over the years and has been able to live a great life. Recently, the bone marrow showed progression and her platelets decreased. Her doctor put her on a chemo called erulibin (sorry im not sure how to spell it), and the platelets slowly but surely are starting to come up. Unfortunately though she has noticed fluid build up in her abdomen that has to be drained. Her doctor thinks that though the chemo is working on the bone marrow it is not doing its job on the other cancerous areas. I just am so worried, my mom's attitude has gotten so negative, she says she doesn't believe in God anymore, and she always seems so angry. My mom will be 58 next year and until recently she has been the strongest person i know. It angers me thinking my mom is giving up. Her doctor is most likely going to have to switch her chemo since it is not getting the job done, and i'm worried they won't be able to find a good treatment since her platelets are already so low and most treatments affect platelets in general...

If anyone out there has any advice or knows someone with the same diagnosis as my mom please reply. I am at a loss of how to handle this situation anymore.

-Meg

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  • mandapanda
    mandapanda Member Posts: 105
    edited November 2012

    This was my mom last chemo. She was having abdomal pain and we found out on July that the cancer spread to her liver. Her abdomen started to swell because of her liver. She did one round Of that chemo and it brought her blood counts down and was never able to do another round. The cancer really just took her liver over to fast, she passed August 10th at the age of 54.



    I didn't tell u this to scare you, everyone's cancer is different. Cancer has a mind of its own. But wanted to tell you our experience with that drug.

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  • chrissy_ram
    chrissy_ram Member Posts: 2
    edited November 2012

    Hi! I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. I am in pretty much the same shoes. My mom is 54, originally diagnosed with breast cancer August 2011. 3 or 4 months After chemo and radiation they found it had spread to her bones. They started her on xeloda which was WAY too hard on her. Shes been extremely sick, throwing up, dehydrated, cant eat.... So they switched her to Gemzar last Tuesday. She fell over a week ago and broke a rib, then was hospitalized because she had a blood transfusion and had to much calcium in her bones, overnight the got her calcium regulated and did her chemo. She got blood work doen a few days later and her platelets were low. She goes in for blood this afternoon then chemo tomorrow if everything is ok. She stayed with me all weekend because I can take care of her good. Shes extremely tired and still is dry heaving which then hurts her rib. I am EXTREMELY worried as I know you are right now. I kind of don't know what to do! Its so hard seeing your mother like this! I've expereinced this before, about 15 years ago my step mom and grandma passed away from ovarian cancer. I feel like its happenind all over ago. I see all the same things in my mom that my grandma did. Sorry if this post is all over the place, I can barely put words together. This is my first post on here.

    How old are you?

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