The dumbest things people have said to you/about you

Options
1…257258260262263…333

Comments

  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 16,882
    edited October 2012

    gonzard I' sorry  had to prove how horrid cancer is. The word alone is scary enough. Bt to be treated so nonchalantly abot it amazes me in this day and age. And needin all the support  can get at least 'r sister came arond.

    Day how awfl for --when  have any kind of recon it's a totally different thing, srgery is so long--when u jst have a masectomy it's mch less time and really no pain, ncortable yes--bt not real pain--so  had to be a mess.

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • Annie62
    Annie62 Member Posts: 1,081
    edited October 2012

    Day - that is a terrible experience. I can't imagine how horrible you felt.

    Gonzard - I'd like to slap your sister upside the head for you. I'm glad she apologized but that hospice comment is incredibly insensitive. Aside from the fact that it mimizes the pain and upleasant SEs of treatment and how it affects our lives it's a complete sucker  punch with regard to our biggest fear of dying from bc.  Sigh. Health care workers and older sisters. Sheesh.

    Annie 

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • Katski
    Katski Member Posts: 55
    edited October 2012

    I was admitted due to a clot under the port.  Protocol to do IV(but I was just getting injections). First nurse(with doing it just 4 times) did not numb or anything and of course all I received was horrible-intense pain, didn't work.  Then put numbing agent on skin for hour on both feet, this new nurse was suppose to be the best.  Tried twice --me crying and wanting to scream) didn't work couldn't get the vein to release.  And to top this off, my MO said I did not need an IV.

    I will remember this for the rest of my life and remember to ask for a baby one.  Thanks.

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 16,882
    edited October 2012

    Hi akrazykat I see u r new --Welcome I'm sorry u'r here but it's agood place to be. So much info, and caring, and understanding will be awaiting u here. We all "get it" and been thru alot of the same things--as u were saying above---Oh thise is a bumpy road to take but alot of people will be on u'r side--so find posts u'r certainly comfortable and come here whenever u want 24/7.

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • Fearlessfoot
    Fearlessfoot Member Posts: 165
    edited October 2012

    camillegal:  Such a genuine and heartfelt welcome to a new poster!  You DO know how to make a person feel welcomed!  I really enjoy this thread as a place to vent.  I am currently feeling horrible about a faux pas, grave mistake I made today, by accident, by not thinking carefully before hand, by getting caught up in a feeling of wanting to help and connect people, and by misinterpreting needs and urgency.  I can't even talk about it to anyone.  I feel such shame and remorse.  I hope time will heal the hurt I have caused.  I have to use it as a learning tool to be able to avoid such errors in the future.  My heart is heavy, my eyes brimming over, my throat constricted.  It's really freaked me out and is making me question my own judgment and ability to know what is appropriate -- big time.  Thank you for listening / reading.  No need to respond.  I'm just grateful to have this place to let it out anonymously.

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • Shayne
    Shayne Member Posts: 1,500
    edited October 2012

    we are all human.....we all make mistakes......

    I think sometimes we forget that.

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • Fearlessfoot
    Fearlessfoot Member Posts: 165
    edited October 2012

    Shayne, good point. I did kind of forget. Thanks for the reminder! Sealed

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • julz4
    julz4 Member Posts: 2,490
    edited October 2012

    Ahhhh Fearless I know I have " opened mouth & inserted foot ". More than once in my life. On occasion as far as my hips! I know I have been embarrassed beyond belief. As Shayne points out we are human & thus so we can learn from our goof ups. Whether great or small!

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 16,882
    edited October 2012

    Fearless--Please don't do this to u'rself. Whatever u did u did not do to hurt anybody, u didn't do it onpurpose and u didn't do it to be mean--u did it out of kindness and caring--I don't have a clue but all of us have done this meaning to do well and somehow it gets jumbled up.If u feel better and u think it really really neds an apology then call and expkain and say u'r sorry---I doubt that u have o do that, but if it makes u feel better. But don't beat u'rself up over something that might even be bigger in u'r mind than it acrually was to others.And besides all of us (most) are not thinking like we used to--I've always said uikt is such a wasted emotion, it drains us and u don't need that now. I'm sure whatever happened u'r building far to much in u'r mind. We say we should forgive others, well forgive u'rself if u need to.

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • riley702
    riley702 Member Posts: 1,600
    edited October 2012

    Wise words, cami. (((Fearless)))

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 16,882
    edited October 2012


    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • Fearlessfoot
    Fearlessfoot Member Posts: 165
    edited October 2012

    camillegal, julyz4, riley:  thank you and (((hugs))) back!  I couldn't believe it... a few hours later I got a really nice email from my "unintended victim" and she "super forgave" me, and in a really sweet way that convinced me it was not as horrible as I feared.  WHAT A RELIEF!  I learned an important lesson from the experience, you can be sure!  

    camillegal, you are so right about the need to be kind to ourselves.  i've looked a bit into "mindful self-compassion" which is an amazing concept that I am incorporating into my mindset (with occasional blips like yesterday)  http://www.mindfulselfcompassion.org/

    I better keep my toes clean, because I may insert foot again (hopefully with more acceptance of myself next time)! 

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • julz4
    julz4 Member Posts: 2,490
    edited October 2012

    Fearless.....Cami said it right.  We have been through so much & need to be kind to ourselves!  I am glad all turned out all right!  It sure calms the stormy seas within us!  But remember to live & not walk around on eggshells....we are human! 

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 16,882
    edited October 2012

    Fearless u must feel so relieved--I'm sure glad this weight has been lifted from u--so now it's about u OK? and u can relax.

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • SillyMama
    SillyMama Member Posts: 173
    edited October 2012

    Fearless,

    I posted in another thread this week about how I used to be the one saying the stupid things to people with cancer. Of course, I know better NOW. But I also know that we're all doing the best we can, even when we're at our worst.

    (((hugs))) I'm glad your recent issue resolved okay...

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • julz4
    julz4 Member Posts: 2,490
    edited October 2012

    I wish we had a "LIKE" button!   Liking the comments!

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 16,882
    edited October 2012

    Julz me too. And I want an Onc. like the one who's House's best friend. LOL I can't think of his name and I'm watvhing the show now. LOL

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • julz4
    julz4 Member Posts: 2,490
    edited October 2012

    Camil.....mmmm the TV show "HOUSE" is that what you mean?  I don't watch much but me thinks he's a motor rever by your words!  LOL!!!  VROOMMMMM!  But then maybe I am way off base & this Onc. is just GOOD!  Embarassed 

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 16,882
    edited October 2012

    Julz yep the TV show---hahaha and the Onc. (his best frind) just got a lobe of his liver to his patient so his patient would live.  Now thst's caring LOL

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • julz4
    julz4 Member Posts: 2,490
    edited October 2012

    Yes caring indeed!  WOW ..... but some how ONLY in the movies/TV shows!  But you never really answered my ?.... is he DREAMY or just dreamy because he gives out body parts & the ULTIMATE caring ONC?  Inquiring minds want to know?  LOL!

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • julz4
    julz4 Member Posts: 2,490
    edited October 2012

    Mmmmm....my neice needs a Brain....I wonder if he would donate!  I wonder if we could write the show & ask?  Sighhhh if only it was that easy! NOT!

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 16,882
    edited October 2012

    Julz let me put it this way--He's the type I wouldn't turn down, but HOUSE is more sexy so between his looks and giving away parts of his body I'd go for him. LOL

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • julz4
    julz4 Member Posts: 2,490
    edited October 2012

    OK I lost my brain today.....You is talking about THE HOUSE!!!!  Major DUHHH moment!  Hahahaha!  I get it totally now!!!   Hahahahaha!  I thought there was someone ELSE...another Dr. someone new....as I said I don't watch often....must be longer than I thought!  LOL!  For us women it's more than the outer view....although that helps!  So I agree with YOU very nice INDEED!  LOL!  PS....the outer view is nice!  Wink

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 16,882
    edited October 2012

    Julz hahahahahahaha

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited October 2012

    Julz, she WAS talking about a different doc, House`s friend, the onc!!!

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 16,882
    edited October 2012

    Thanks Barbe LOL

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • julz4
    julz4 Member Posts: 2,490
    edited October 2012

    OK.....I should go back to bed I am so TOAST & haven't had a Drink OR NOTTIN in .... well forever!   SHEESH!!! (excuse my french) BUT DAMN my BRAIN is SHEEEIT today!  Find me a Pic of this ONC & fast so I don't loose my mind anymore!  I feel MORONISH now!  But even though I do I can laugh at myself because of my stupidity!  I needed the laugh cuz my funny bone left when I was DX .... it's nice to see it appear!  I need to get out more often or something!  I eat, sleep, work (at work & house, clean, cook, kids....) RINSE & REPEAT almost daily! 

    WHICH ONE IS HE?????  Or is he NOT here????

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • julz4
    julz4 Member Posts: 2,490
    edited October 2012

    Sorry for highjacking the thread Sisters!   I am going out for the night for the local BC support group.  Lets hope my Dumn things I'm thinking/typing doesn't roll over into my night!  EmbarassedFoot in MouthLaughingSurprisedTongue OutCool  I will catch up with you Later!  Laters!

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • bgirl
    bgirl Member Posts: 538
    edited October 2012

    the onc to the left of house  Wilson - always called him  by last name. Can't remember actor's name.  Spoiler Alert

    It was interesting that the onc in the end got terminal cancer.

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter
  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 16,882
    edited October 2012

    Good Pic. Julz LOL keep that brain going. Thx bgirl

    · Share on FacebookShare on Twitter

Categories