Illinois ladies facing bc

beata --u sound so sensible good for u--and he probably does have to blow off steam--like we all do sometimes--that's why coming here is so helpful--a lot of support with women in the know (not me) but everyone else. Get u rest whenever u feel u need it and I hope this isn't to hard on u.

beata44 - Good for you!  Glad this is a minor transgression and you can get some laughs out of it.  As others have suggested, he may need to step away from all the stress of the bc dx ant tx.  In fact he probably does.  It's hard on everyone.  

My daughter's problem was that she never imagined that I would get something as serious at bc.  I take care of myself.  She always thought her father, who is older and neglects himself, would be the parent she lost first and wouldn't have been surprised at cancer, stoke or a heart attack.  She still cannot deal with "unknowns" and "perhaps."  With the eye problem I now have, she tunes out.  As I approached each third week of chemo, she stopped helping around the house and disappeared.  To her it seemed I was just fine and back to normal.  In the end I was grateful for the help she gave me.  

You DH might be freaking a bit. 

Beata ---C- said it all come over any time--we're here.

joan and camillegal thanks for the words of encouragement.  It means a lot to me. Camillegal so glad you had a great dinner filled with laughter!

beata44 I am sorry. There is nothing that justifies that behavior.  I hope that you will be able to talk about it. There are other ways for him to deal with how he is feeling. Being with single women is NOT it!

I love the quote about joy. I wrote on my meesage board on my kitchen counter "Live with joy and intent"  It is so timely.  It is easy when you are in  the depth of this to forget our choices.  Just coming out of a deep dark place I know how hard it is for us to do it at times.  Sometimes it takes a great effort but in the end it is worth it when the time is right.

joan and camillegal thanks for the words of encouragement.  It means a lot to me. Camillegal so glad you had a great dinner filled with laughter!

beata44 I am sorry. There is nothing that justifies that behavior.  I hope that you will be able to talk about it. There are other ways for him to deal with how he is feeling. Being with single women is NOT it!

I love the quote about joy. I wrote on my meesage board on my kitchen counter "Live with joy and intent"  It is so timely.  It is easy when you are in  the depth of this to forget our choices.  Just coming out of a deep dark place I know how hard it is for us to do it at times.  Sometimes it takes a great effort but in the end it is worth it when the time is right.

What the heck happened?!    Oh well..... hugs to all.

Adey.... morning!  And Brrrr!  But it is still a nice day when the sun shines.  I got in a nice long walk late yesterday afternoon and actually worked up quite a sweat.  I downloaded a new app on my phone called "mapmywalk".  Am I the last one to discover this?  It is a really fun way to keep track of your route, pace, mileage, calories burned, etc.  The GPS is so sensitive that it shows you wandering from one side of the road to the other.  I think this app is going to keep me incentivised to keep working on bigger goals.

Just FYI... you have probably been hearing about the latest findings in a breast cancer study that have been in the news for the past day or so.  Here is a link in case you want more details.. http://www.bloomberg.com/news/2012-09-24/breast-cancer-dna-study-yields-new-targets-for-therapy.html.  Not sure if I did that right.

I need some advice from you been-through-chemo folks.

I'm halfway through the taxotere carboplatin herceptin 6-cycle regimen and things are not going as swimmingly as I had hoped or anticipated.  Chemo class said there was no cumulative impact and how I reacted the first time would be the pattern for the other times.  Not the case.  I thought #2 was messed up because of the GI "upsetment" I had right before the infusion.  But #3 is only marginally better than #2.  I'm taking diarrhea meds every other day and nausea meds every day.  Yes, it is getting slowly better (it's not as bad as days 3-6), but I'm on day 12 now and I should be past all this (per cycle 1).  Is this cumulative impact what other people experienced?  I'm beginning to wonder what it will be like come cycles 5-6.  I really don't want to whine to the MO for fear that she'll lower the dosage.

Hi Ladies...sorry for the long delayed response.  Thank you for the warm welcome!  Just had my 3rd chemo treatment last week and I'm actually not doing bad.  I will see what tomorrow brings. 

I will start my Tamoxifen in 3 weeks after chemo so I guess around end of October.  Any thoughts or side effects that someone can share with me?  My oncologist is now recommending me to go on Lupron too.

Shannie I was on Tamoxifen for 2.5 years. Everyone is different but I definitely had very bad night sweats and hot flashes.  I had vaginal discharge. This cleared up right away when I was switched to AI's.  I had some joint pain.  Also some problems sleeping.  It kind of cycled in and out for some of it.  With sometimes being worse than others.  I know there are some that have very little problems with it though.  Good luck.  I had vaginal ultrasounds with my annual gyne exams due to the possible side effect of the uterine issues with Tamox.  Never any thickening of the uterine lining for me thank goodness. But that might be something to talk to your gyne about once you get started. 

Shannie:  Welcome!

Beata44:  I read your earlier posts:  Hope your husband apoligized for his behavior.  Glad you made him take you our for breakfast!

Lynn:  Sorry you are not feeling well.  Like Lago says, chemo is cumulative.  Wish it wasn't...  Just remember, you are halfway through, though! 

Thanks Joan but it's really not too bad. I rather deal with it right now than experience some SE from another medication. I'm still doing power walks and etc. Actually today it isn't too bad. I actually think it will get better once I'm off the ESD. 3 years and 5 months I'll be done.

Actually my shoulder is more bothersome from that car accident last year all of a sudden. I'm not calling the doctor because I dont' want to go back to PT. I need a massage

Karen-love your pic, you are absolutely beautiful.

Beata-hope things have improved.  My husba nd acts like I had my tonsils out-surgery over? then everything is back to normal...he doesn't give the AI se's any consideration.

Enjoying the cool nights (good sleeping temps) and warm days-aumtumnal splendor.

Monday's almost over-here's to Tuesday!

Awoke to peals of thunder ( what an alarm clock since I don't use one ) and it is pouring rain right now.  Will have a few more days of this.  Sure...I do wonder why we get all this lovely rain now -- spring rains after the drought 'double' sigh.

Spunky  "Enjoying the cool nights (good sleeping temps) and warm days-autumnal splendor."  What a pretty up-lifting statement.....just made me soar through that pesky rain when I read it.  It is great to find some challenge in every day and be able to greet it in a fairly positive manner.

I hope you all have a terrific Tuesday.

Hugs, Jackie

Cool!!!