My Twin Sister

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SpunkyGirl
SpunkyGirl Member Posts: 1,568
edited June 2014 in Stage III Breast Cancer

Hey Everybody!  It's been a long time since I started a thread.  With Dave's passing last year, I've just been trying to be the best mom and person that I can be, and am slowly rebuilding with the kids.  About a week and a half ago, my twin sister (we are fraternal) called me to talk about some breast issues she was having.  She was having bloody discharge from her nipple, and thought she had some kind of infection because that area was warm to the touch (scary, YES!).  What she didn't tell me was that she also has a lump in the vicinity of that nipple (Even scarier).  She just had a mammogram and ultrasound a few days ago, and she is seeing a breast surgeon on Monday.   We all know how these things can go, and hopefully, hers is a case of a bad infection.  She does have a history of fibrocystic disease.  You can imagine how I'm feeling about this.  I am sick to my stomache, and I can't imagine my sister going through what I've gone through.  I am trying to just wait until we know what we are dealing with here.  After I was diagnosed, I knew that she was getting mammos every six months, but I didn't know that she stopped doing that sometime in 2009.   Her last one was that year.  I'll keep you all posted.  Hopefully, the news is good.  Please keep us in your prayers.  If you are a Facebook friend, please don't post anything there, as we have an extended family and I'd like to protect our privacy. 

She lives six hours away from me, but I can't even consider moving to be close to her.  I know it may sound selfish, but my family is very dysfunctional and needy, and it's just the last thing the kids and I need.  I'll just have to do the best I can to give her support from here and go see her when I can.  Does that sound terrible?

I hope it doesn't come to that.

Love
Bobbie 

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  • SpunkyGirl
    SpunkyGirl Member Posts: 1,568
    edited August 2012

    P.S.  I did get tested, and I am BRCA Neg.

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  • MILCHICK
    MILCHICK Member Posts: 112
    edited August 2012

    Hello Bobbie,

    I am praying for your sister and your whole family. You have already all been through too much. Hopefully, it's just an infection or something else b9. I do understand the worry. I've had an array of breast symptoms and problems of late and seem to be finding new symptoms every few days. Last night, I began having the bloody discharge from the nipple as well. Then today, found more swollen lymph nodes. I had an ache and irritation at the crease of my inner elbow, reached over to rub it and found a hard ball. Scared me. But, it's in the arm opposite to to breast that's giving me hell. Funny thing is I also have a freakishly swollen lymph node behind the right ear. That's also on the side opposite of the opposite side from the breast with all the problems.

    Anyway, I will keep you all in my prayers. Let us know how everything turns out.

    Love and hugs,

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  • SpunkyGirl
    SpunkyGirl Member Posts: 1,568
    edited August 2012

    Nikki,

    I'm sorry for all that you are going through.  I hope that you find out some good news and that you can take care of what's going on.  Please let me know how you are doing, and I'll keep you posted on my sis.

    Hugs

    Bobbie

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  • jennyboog
    jennyboog Member Posts: 1,322
    edited August 2012

    I'll be praying for her Bobbie and I'm sorry your family is having to deal with even the possibility.  You and those boys have been through enough and no it doesn't sound selfish at all, I'm in the same boat (family) and totally get what you're talking about.  Those boys are a main concern and they need a healthy, happy mom...do what you can from where you are and feel no guilt. 

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  • everyminute
    everyminute Member Posts: 1,805
    edited August 2012

    Thinking of you, Bobbie - and your family.

    Hope that all is well (who would be grateful for an infection but us!?).

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  • pupfoster1
    pupfoster1 Member Posts: 1,484
    edited August 2012

    Praying for an infection Bobbie, keep us posted.

    Sharon 

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  • lkc
    lkc Member Posts: 1,203
    edited August 2012

    Bobbie, sorry to hear this. I hope it's something that can be cleared up with antibiotics.

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  • Leah_S
    Leah_S Member Posts: 8,458
    edited August 2012

    Bobbie, I'm sorry to hear your sister is going through this. My sister (she's older than me so I always and forever will call her my "big sister") was dx with DCIS this past spring. Her dx in some ways was more painful than my own. I don't want her to have to go through this! But she did, as I did. I hope your sister won't have to. But I do understand how difficult this is for you.

    You're not selfish not to move closer to her. You have to take care of your kids. You can give your sister emotional support even from a distance. My sisters live in Los Angeles, I live in Israel, and I had (and still have) their unlimited support. If your sister is single, I'm sure you'll do what you can to get her practical support if she needs it.

    All the best.

    Leah

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  • SpunkyGirl
    SpunkyGirl Member Posts: 1,568
    edited August 2012

    Thanks everyone! She's in a lot of pain, and will be having surgery this Friday. She's also got terrible hip pain and shoulder pain, which I sure hope isn't related to this. We know way too much, and sometimes all it does is scare you. I'm sure I won't know anything for at least a week, so I'll keep you all posted.

    Peace,

    Bobbie

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  • YATCOMW
    YATCOMW Member Posts: 664
    edited August 2012

    Hope all goes well on Friday.....and that all is okay.

     Jacqueline 

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  • caaclark
    caaclark Member Posts: 936
    edited August 2012

    Hope it all goes well. I also am a twin with a fraternal sis.

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  • 116
    116 Member Posts: 108
    edited December 2012

    I too hope all goes well!..........as another a twin with a faternal sister.........

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  • SpunkyGirl
    SpunkyGirl Member Posts: 1,568
    edited August 2012

    Wow, Carol and Guddtyup, I did not know that!  I have twin brothers too.  I always wondered what the odds of that were.  They are fraternal too.

    Thanks for the support, everybody.  I'll let you know something when I know.

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  • DCMom
    DCMom Member Posts: 624
    edited August 2012

    Bobbie-

    Praying for a horrible breast infection and a round of antibiotics to get rid of it! 

    Susan 

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  • SpunkyGirl
    SpunkyGirl Member Posts: 1,568
    edited August 2012

    Thank you, Susan!  She had her surgery yesterday, and is in some pain (as we all know about that) this morning.  I am increasingly hopeful that this is a nasty infection and that all the precautions and worries are due to my history. 

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  • JeanKNC
    JeanKNC Member Posts: 1
    edited August 2012

    Bobbie,

    the power of the internet ...and better yet POWER OF PRAYER .... I'm with you all tonite (NC) and will be praying;

    as I pray for my identical twin sis (in Orlando) who had biopsy yesterday ... long story ... started out a month ago

    with MRSA ... on her lower lip (HUH!!!??) ... ICU 8 days ... recovering but CT during stay showed something L chest wall;  very anemic; sees  FP doc yrly checkups; yrly mamo; so odd ...  we are 65 ... she is so scared and so  am I .... they just built their super dream home a yr ago (well moved in a yr ago); will join her next weekend; Dr spoke of chemo (as if he seems to know this is what it IS already); praying it is not;  * our mother had breast cancer at age 79 ...it did not take her life and she had no treatment but radical mast; she already had early stages  Alz tho ...  and yet kept her mind for years (better part of it);  Have seen GOD MOVE so often so shall be praying best for your sissy and mine.  God bless,  Jean in NC

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  • SpunkyGirl
    SpunkyGirl Member Posts: 1,568
    edited August 2012

    And the result is NEGATIVE!  Wow, this is another example of looks like cancer, and sounds like cancer, but isn't.  My sister is SOOO relieved, as am I, and I just want to say thank you to all of you lovely ladies for thinking and praying for her.  Apparently, it was a very nasty infection and cyst.  Thank God!  Jean, I will pray for good news for your sister, too!

    Love you all,

    Bobbie

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  • Moderators
    Moderators Member Posts: 25,912
    edited August 2012

    Bobbie, congratulations to your sister and you! It seems a little strange to be glad about a nasty infection and cyst, but it's such great news compared to your fears. Smile

    Jean, we're sending good thoughts to your sister too. Please do come back and let us know the results!

    • The Mods

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  • Momine
    Momine Member Posts: 7,859
    edited August 2012

    Bobbie, YEAH! This is where BC cracks me up, in the sense that it makes us celebrate nasty infections and cysts. 

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  • lkc
    lkc Member Posts: 1,203
    edited August 2012

    Oh so " good" to hear this! BC really does put a spin on our perspective, huh.?

    Jean good wishes going out to you & yr sister.

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  • lexi4
    lexi4 Member Posts: 1,074
    edited August 2012

    Bobbie! I am so relieved to read this good news!!

    Big Hugs,

    Lexi

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  • jennyboog
    jennyboog Member Posts: 1,322
    edited August 2012

    Oh thank God!  I've been waiting and praying...glad to hear this Bobbie and I hope she feels better soon.

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  • SpunkyGirl
    SpunkyGirl Member Posts: 1,568
    edited August 2012

    Thank you, Mods, for your wonderful note, and thank you to my BC sisters.  We are so lucky to have each other!  I have to tell you all that the saddest (yet funniest) thing that happened was that I called to find out how she was after she went through the surgery, and my brother in law replied, "She's doing great.  She's outside having a cigarette...".  Gosh, I love her so much, yet I have to stop myself from wanting to strangle her!  That's what love is all about...

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