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  • sas-schatzi
    sas-schatzi Member Posts: 19,603
    edited August 2012

    Okay getting a bit teary, Greg died 2 years ago in less than an hour from now. Was handly it well, Ds came for the weekend. But I look at the clock as tears roll down my face. It wasn't supposed to be this way. We were supposed to grow old together. I found a card in decluttering , in an unusual spot. An Anniversary card from him that had a hand written note that said "I can't imagine life without you". That stopped decluttering and put me back in bed staring at the walls for several months. Bless him he always bought the most beautiful anniversary cards. Once we could remember when our anniversary was. 

    I said when we got engaged if there was any fighting about any thing there would be no wedding, His mom through a snit about the dresses. Off the phone. I said "If you want to marry me, it's two weeks from today". It happened. Mom and dad had a restaurant. We had the reception there. The Jesuit did the ceremony outside in front of the chapel, I passed every day. The pathway was hundred year old oak trees. Hurricane EDith in 1972 caused bad weather even in Detroit. I cried a good part of the day b/c even though we had the chapel reserved, i never went to look. I was resolved about being married right there. It stopped raining when we got in our cars to go. Brilliant light came through the trees and over the chapel.  The ceremony happened. It began to rain as we left.  

    It took us both years to remember our anniversary day. "Two weeks from today". Most/many people imprint the day b/c much planning is involved. We finally got it pretty well straight after a number of years. He always bought these really what we called soupy cards. Wish he was here to give me another soupy card. Love you dear  sweet Greg, you were kind, lovable, good, spoiled your DS beyond belief and he has survied that to become a balanced adult.You taught me in the last year what i needed to know to be on my own. I miss you immensely , but those words I just used--you taught me how to survive on my own , can't thank you enough for that. Love and Hugs and Prayers.  pookie --sheila

  • ptdreamers
    ptdreamers Member Posts: 1,080
    edited August 2012

    sheila, my heart goes out to you. i can't imagine my life without my dear hubby. i did lose my oldest son so i know that terrible loss. hugs and comforting thoughts for you.

  • thefuzzylemon
    thefuzzylemon Member Posts: 2,630
    edited August 2012

    SAS....that was beautiful. I'm crying with you. Thank you for sharing that. You have been through so much. He is shining within you and that is such a special relationship. I believe that love and happiness brings equal suffering and grief when there is a loss. But, the love and happiness cannot be taken away...it will always be with you.



    Diane....I Love your pic!! That little face is hysterical! I'm very attached to my user name too. It makes me smile and its what my sisters call me....I am Fuzzy. My DD actually gave me the fuzzy lemon years ago....totally cracked me up.



    Hey!!! Shit dreams for everyone tonight!!!! Studying dreams is so cool!! Please tell us more!! My oldest has dreams about her own violent death....it freaks her out. Any thoughts?



    My DH didn't make it home tonight. He'll be home tomorrow. We haven't been apart for this long..ever I don't think.



    Today I felt so lazy. It crossed my mind that maybe I'm weak...getting sick...you know what I mean. So I tried to do some stuff and I just couldn't get motivated. My DD asked me to pack her lunch so I did...left her a little note inside....and that made me feel alive!! I love my girls. I wish you all could meet them. They are amazing.



    Much love to everyone. Extra love to you SAS...

  • thefuzzylemon
    thefuzzylemon Member Posts: 2,630
    edited August 2012

    Oh gosh PT....I'm so sorry.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2012

    Sassy - the memories of the life are what you share, you were so blessed and still are, you feel he is so close to you even now. 

    We married within 23 days of meeting.  32 years ++ yrs together now.  I cannot imagine life without him.  Don't want to try, he says we will go together and w his driving omg it could happen.  We fight about his driving.  When my parents fought they hated each other and they didn't like each other anyway. When his parents fought they loved one another and knew it.  My Hubby taught me that to fight is okay and to love is essential, and can be done. We fight and I am like gggggrrrrrrrrr I hate him, I want out, I am suffering and tormented here, and he is like oh well, she's a witch but love her anyway and he really means it and never called me anything but cute.  The things they teach us.

    Hope you get through this difficult anniversary with lots of people in your pocket.  ((((Sassy)))) And keep remembering the wedding anniversary most.

    Diane Essa up toooooo late while sitting here listening to contemporary blues and singing and eating potato chips I shouldna be eatin'

  • sas-schatzi
    sas-schatzi Member Posts: 19,603
    edited August 2012

    To all thank you for your thoughts regarding Greg and I-----Blessings

    ESSA---Avatar is scary, I've seen it in "Birds and Blooms"  ESSA it is not you,  it is so angry looking. I saw it on OMG before I came here, didn't realize it was you(could have been Bonfires). Sweetie find another bluebird. said with love

     Thanks all about Greg, Bummer Life throws use curves we don't expect. Ya'll that have so's hold on and love as much as you can . We never know the minute/hour/day that we may pass. let not a day go by that you don't day I love you.

    Edit:usaully i just edit for typos ,punctuation, incoplete thoughts etc

    The first person to say to me never let a day go by that you " don't say I love you" was Aunt Kay. Her husband Uncle Bern went out on a Sat. in 1965 to collect an insurance premium, so the members status wouldn't lapse. He was killed in a head on collision. He always woke her up to say bye and I love you, but that day he didn't. She said the words to me as 15 y/o. I  made it a rule in my house that those words were always said upon leaving. It was the only absolute rule. Dh Greg was so in distress on his last day that i flipped into nursing mode,  to better control the situation, I did, every intervention I did worked, he went into a peaceful sleep from which he never woke up. We never got to say I love you. Don't let that happen to you. 

  • dogeyed
    dogeyed Member Posts: 884
    edited August 2012

    SASSY, sorry you are going thru this tough time right now.  I cannot imagine life without my hubby.  LOVESSA, you will remain Essa to me no matter what.

    Today I go get my pills, a very big day always.  I run low the last day or two, and yesterday I guess I also had some pent-up emotion, and I did cry and cry over our dog Gandalf passing last year, and bunches of stuff like it.  And FUZZY, I have been feeling kinda weak since the chemo, I reckon, I think it took something away from me.  I was already in lousy shape to begin with on account of my fractured back getting worse the last ten years.  Kinda frustrating. 

    I'll be jumping straight up and down, tho, when I get back from the pharmacy, that's IF my dang neuro called in one of my pills that ran out.  Otherwise, I'll have fiddle with that until the pharmacy calls to tell me it's all ready.  Just an hour to go, to call down there.  Happy dances to all!  GG   

  • Gingerbrew
    Gingerbrew Member Posts: 2,859
    edited August 2012

    SAS I am so sorry that happened to you and your Dear Husband Greg. 

    Ginger 

  • dogeyed
    dogeyed Member Posts: 884
    edited August 2012

    Just an update on myself and pill day.  I could not believe my docs already called in two that had run out, pharmacist put the other two together, I walked outta there like a natural born innocent (always feel guilty when I come in a few days early), and was home just like nothing happened.  And folks, I'll have you know, I DID do a happy dance, but not just any ORDINARY happy dance.  Being as I'm all crippled up, I just kind of shuffled my feet and balled up my fists and wiggled and grinned, looking extremely old.  HA!  Will miracles never cease? 

    I'm telling you, for a while there, I thought i was going to throw up, so while I still feel a tad nauseated from all the stress, I am a much happier camper as of now, and in an hour after the medicine takes away ALL misery, why, I'll be singing and might possibly even consider a nap!  So, yes, even tho Fuzz's Romp Room is for screaming, it's also for those sweet, delicious, happy moments in our otherwise pretty dang goofed up lives!  GG  

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2012

    Sas & PT- sending you hugs.

    Fuzzy - If it makes any sense... I took a 4 hour nap yesterday and slept the whole night. Couldn't get myself to do anything, even eat. 

    Essa -

         

     

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2012

    My personal favorite...

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 13,369
    edited August 2012

    Sas........for me I am coming up on 21 years without my husband.....He was 56 when he was diagnosed with Pancreatic cancer............the healthiest man I had ever known.......he was a construction worker, and physically fit.....a joy to look at.......he was Italian, and had that gorgeous olive skin, and the most beautiful teeth I had ever seen on a human being..............he died on September 2nd, and that year that was Labor Day..........

    When it first happened his only symptom was turning "yellow"....of course i thought he contacted hepatitis, from eating lunch and not being able to wash  his hands.....(no antibacterial wipes 21 years ago).........and after much testing, and all the crap that goes with it they operated..........7 hours of surgery, and 3 months of recovery, then right back to his construction job..............he made a complete recovery from surgery, gained all his weight back, and amazed the "medical establishment" with how healthy he was........................well that was not to be........about 2 years later, he began to get sick..........finally we were told the tumor was back................we tried chemo, and that literally almost killed him................he lost close to 100 lbs, and was a shell of his original self..........I was married 35 years when he died, and till today I ask "why him".....................when he got cancer, his construction buddies would say "Yo, Vince, do you ever ask yourself "why me"...............his answer was "why not me".........he had a faith that never faultered, said his "rosary" every night, and wanted to walk his final and last daugher down the aisle...............that never happened..................I miss him dearly, and even with 6 children, 18 grandchildren, and 2 great-grandchildren, life seems incomplete............I never would have believed that at 56 I would be a widow..............but life does go on...........at least that is what I'm told.....

  • LaurenM730
    LaurenM730 Member Posts: 366
    edited August 2012

    Sas/Ducky - you're making me cry.  Here at work, I'm crying.  Thinking about the loves of your lives and the wonderful lives you lived together.  Making me think how I take my DH for granted, for sure.  He's a wonderful man/husband/father.  I should be nicer/more appreciative/more affectionate. 

    Told you my bio would have something about me being a bitch in it...

    I've been so busy with birthdays in my house, I haven't been around a lot.  took a few days to read through all the posts I missed.  I have to say, I've been in a good mood.  My kids are getting bigger and I'm so proud of them.  I get so emotional with their birthdays...

  • thefuzzylemon
    thefuzzylemon Member Posts: 2,630
    edited August 2012

    ((((((((((hugs))))))))))

    to everyone. Such beautiful memories and I'm happy to be part of your life where you can share them with me.



    GG...oh its giving me happiness to hear about your dance!! Great visual!!! Rock on sweetie! Its funny how, when something that should be flawless, actually goes right and it makes our day!!! Girl, do another dance!! Baby, you're a firework!



    Diane....as you may know, I'm just as twisted as Veggy....LOL!!! Those cranky birds make me laugh!!!



    Headed to my mounds of paperwork, fighting With a FAX machine, MH appt....and maybe to my moms for lunch.



    Any poopy dreams last Night?

  • thefuzzylemon
    thefuzzylemon Member Posts: 2,630
    edited August 2012

    Lauren...OMG. I'm cleaning out the downstairs and its painful!! I kept all the girls homework and I find myself reading through it and crying. They're 20 & 18 now. Just wonderful and their little handwriting's and project are adorable.

  • ptdreamers
    ptdreamers Member Posts: 1,080
    edited August 2012

    no poopy dreams. what do wolves slinking up on you mean, other than truly terrifying. hubby had to wake and soothe me,

  • thefuzzylemon
    thefuzzylemon Member Posts: 2,630
    edited August 2012

    Just had to share...

    Pathology from the nasty lumpcame back clean!!!

    Can I get a WHOOT WHOOT??

  • macatacmv
    macatacmv Member Posts: 1,386
    edited August 2012

    Whoot whoot!!!!!!!!!!

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2012
    WHOOT!!!
    WHOOT!!
  • Goodie
    Goodie Member Posts: 244
    edited August 2012

    WHOOT  WHOOT!!!!!!!

  • MamaV
    MamaV Member Posts: 907
    edited August 2012

    Fuzzy!!!!!!   Yes baby!  Woot woot!

  • LaurenM730
    LaurenM730 Member Posts: 366
    edited August 2012

    shouting "WHOOT WHOOT"  so happy for your good news!

  • SimplyAudrey
    SimplyAudrey Member Posts: 242
    edited August 2012
  • chabba
    chabba Member Posts: 5,065
    edited August 2012

    WHOOT!!! WHOOT!!!

  • ptdreamers
    ptdreamers Member Posts: 1,080
    edited August 2012

    great news. whoot whoot.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2012

    I suppose my avatar is facing copyright infringement even though it is off my own mug. 

    But Sassy that is the real me and he is so cute when he is mad. just like me. ETA - have you been watching scary bird movies?  You are so funny.

    Here is a bluebird ugly face, just like I get, love it. Now he is one pissed of little bird.

    I love Veggy's Do I look like the blue bird of happiness to you? image.  Think I will change my mad bluebird avatar to this one now in my avatar so no copyright issues.

    FUZZY - WHOOT WHOOT for clean anything!

    Gail GG - I will always sign Diane (Essa) or Diane Essa, but LoveEssa is cool too, love that you call me that.  

    Ducky, glad you shared about your hubby, so glad.  

    Veggy - thanks for the bluebird stuff.

    PTDreamers - what you do with the wolf after you is what counts.  You can change the dream then and there, awake and go back to change it, change it next time,  There are always options.  Fifteen years ago, a yr after my mother died from cancer when Hubby and i were working in seperate states so I lived alone on a mountain with a little daughter, two dogs, two cats I had a dream I was walking up the mountain in PA to our cabin and had my 180-pound Newfie with me off-leash, Benjamin BearBear.... a wolf came after us intending to kill us, I held down the dog with one hand and snapped the wolf's neck with the other.  Impressed even me w that dream.  But I never feel so inclined to violence (as Sassy's perception of the MadBluebird LOL) or so able to take care of myself, so it confused me for a time.  And we do not need to always use violence to control a dream, the means to the end is what we need at the moment when we dream, you decide the outcome even if it takes decades to get to it.  

    Hubby is up, time to make food.

    ETA - Love Essa

  • FireKracker
    FireKracker Member Posts: 8,046
    edited August 2012
    yay for fuzzy!!!!!!!!!!
  • ridergirl
    ridergirl Member Posts: 443
    edited August 2012

    WHOOT WHOOT FUZZY!!!!!!

  • duckyb1
    duckyb1 Member Posts: 13,369
    edited August 2012

    WHOOT WHOOT, AND A DOUBLE WHOOT WHOOT..........................Thank God for some good news...................................think I'll go find my "red solo cup", and my whatever the hell is in the cabinet that is at least 86 proof.................................

  • Gingerbrew
    Gingerbrew Member Posts: 2,859
    edited August 2012

    Fuzzy, WHoot Whoot WHoot! 

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