The word "JOURNEY"

ruthbru - I agree. While I know and understand God won't give me more than I can handle sometimes I am sure he got me confused with someone else.

Journey - maybe if we hear/use it enough we will become desensitized to it - doubtful. I use it and I cringe but cannot think of another word to replace it. Process? In my work that means a defined way to accomplish a task - and this 'journey' feels more like a roller coaster ride than a process. I suppose the docs have a process in mind but I'm just a pawn in the game.

Here's another one - 'just give it time'. Honestly? That one is really open ended/

Oh ...I'm not the only one ?
I just HATE the word journey ~!  HELLRIDE, abduction ( this is not a willing trip), unwanted path, nightmare, expedition ... I dunno', but journey ?!!!

This is NOT my journey. 

I remember the movie! My daughter used to watch it all the time.

Yes! Very good comparison!



Someone said to me last night, "Oh, you just wait: things will be back to normal soon enough!" Ha!

Gumshoe - "Oh, you just wait: things will be back to normal soon enough!". My response would be define 'normal'. My boobs are gone, my hair is an inch long, my joints hurt from meds, and my evenings are consumed with arm care for LE.  But - again - people care and it is more than difficult to know what to say in tough situations. Or you could say 'this is my new normal'!

Trisha - love the part about asking for you money back. Yep - this is not a fun, entertaining, relaxing road. I will think twice when I plan my next vacation - the word journey will not be part of it. I'll save the good words for the fun times. Adventure. Quest. Escapade. Voyage. Road trip. Weekend Getaway.

Solteria - welcome aboard. If you have to travel this jouney this is a good place to ask questions and find others who can relate to what you are going through. You may want to join the Ohio chemo sisters group. Don't think any of us are going through chemo right now but, if you are near Canton we did get together for coffee. Of - you may connect with other Ohioans in your area - just a thought.

Journey - I kind of like rugged road instead but I'm not sure that would translate to anyone but those enduring an extended or chronic illness. I guess for now I will stick to 'journey' but it will never truly define the real day-to-day endurances of this cancer treatment.

No matter what word we/they use no one can relate unless they have been there or are going through it now. People just flounder for words of comfort and journey is an easy word. I'm not sure I'll ever hear the word again without a smile and restraining from laughter - it's a private joke we share.

JO-5 - - The statement "God will not give you more than you can bear" is not in the Bible! No - this statement is not in the Bible, it is paraphrased. Simple means (to me) that God gives me strength for whatever comes my way.

Didn't mean to confuse.

"journey" ranks up there with "well, bless your heart" with me.

I used journey to describe my mother's time from diagnosis to her passing....and it WAS a journey I walked with her on.  It actually brought us closer, and spiritually closer to each other.  There were ups and downs, a celebration cruise to the islands when she finished treatment, and even a tearful/laughterfilled conversation about whether to leave her dentures in when her remains would be cremated (that talk would have happened regardless!).

Me, meh.  This is a bad trip on the Zipper at a carnival midway.  And I'm just dealing with the "grey zone" of LCIS and heading for a PBMX!

I DO like "all is well, and all will be well" as an internal mantra. I use it for meditation to get Marvin the chain-smoking anxiety monkey off my back and into his cage for a little while.  No matter what, I will be OK.  Even for a moment, a milli-second...I will be OK.

 "Normal is nothing but a setting on the washer".  I live by that one too.

Happy Monday! (oxymoron)

JO-5, I did my residency in Augusta Ga.  That's where I learned the REAL meaning of "Well Bless Your Heart!"  LOL!

Being originally from Baltimore (I call myself a "Baltimoron") I didn't fit the "cotillion clique"....... dunno.  I just like simply being me.  Trudging the road of a happy destiny.....by MY CHOICE.

Okay - I went to breast support group this past week - never again. The social worker that facilitates is a sweet young girl full of cliche's.

There was a gal that was newly diagnosed and the LSW kept throwing out phrases - I wanted to get up and tape her mouth shut. She acted like everything was beautiful - 'there are so many advances in cancer treatment' 'you will find the strength to get through this' 'this is a great place to come for support'.

Not sure if the new gal found any comfort in any of those phrases - they wouldn't have helped me.

I just wanted her to be quiet and let the other BC patients talk.

Longest 90 minutes of the week.

I went to the group cuz I was feeling really down - came away perturbed - guess it worked.

I don't really need a psychologist - I do well talking with my sisters. I think it is the meds that are making me moody - not the cancer stuff. We joke that we have saved much money on therapy. The trip to the doctor is 45 minutes one way and that is our therapy - the time to get it all out.

I went to the group last week cuz I had been once before and met a nice lady I hoped to see again.

Of course - I don't have as many appointments now which means less travel time which means less sister time which means less therapy time.

Maybe I need to schedule a sisters nite out - maybe I am in need of some sister therapy.

Even with sister therapy I was on anti-anxiety meds every chemo week. My sisters are both nurses and they kept in stocked in all the right drugs.

Anti-depressants. I think the meds I'm on are causing some depression. Talking about it doesn't help much - I'm thinking I need a heart-to-heart with me doctor to see if he can prescribe something to help me out.

Don't know - gotta talk to me sister. Don't want to add another med - but don't want be not-happy.

Jo5.....I have to agree .....I was in denial also, but now I have started on my anti-anxiety

Meds and my anti-depressant and can't believe the difference already. My appetite is back, nausea and vomiting gone, wish I had done it earlier myself.