Refusing Axillary Dissection: what is proper legal paperwork?

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SccS
SccS Member Posts: 78
My wife will be undergoing mastectomy soon. We know lymph nodes are involved but we're in huge fear of lymphedema, so she doesn't want all nodes removed. Neoadjuvant chemo is being done now. Surgeon very reluctantly agreed to remove layer 1 only, and partially layer 2, if he finds the latter suspicious, and leave layer 3 untouched. From reading these and other forums we see that often surgeons violate their promise and/or consent forms and remove all nodes. How do we make sure this won't happen? Is pre-surgical consent form enough? Any forms SURGEON should sign in addition to PATIENT signing some? There must be some proper legal procedure for that.

Any advice, please?

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  • exbrnxgrl
    exbrnxgrl Member Posts: 12,424
    edited July 2012

    I am not sure about legal paperwork to insure that your wife's wishes are honored but I do have a question regarding your lymphedema fears. If your wife has already consented to level 1 and partial(?) level 2 node removal, she has already opened herself up to a very real lymphedema risk. It could happen shortly after surgery or many years later. In my mind, the better question is what are the risks of lymph node removal, at any level, vs. no node removal at all. Neo-adjuvant chemo may make it difficult to accurately know how many nodes were affected if the chemo does it's job. Good luck to your wife.

    Caryn

    Copy/ pasted from duplicate posting

  • pip57
    pip57 Member Posts: 12,401
    edited July 2012

    I have to agree with Caryn.  Most of us don't get lymphedma.  I would definitely be most concerned about leaving cancerous nodes.  

  • JoanQuilts
    JoanQuilts Member Posts: 633
    edited July 2012

    I had 10 lymph nodes removed 19 years ago and I have never had lymphedema.   Good luck to you and your wife.

  • SccS
    SccS Member Posts: 78
    edited July 2012

    exbrnxgrl, Thank you.  Well, we have studied this matter extensively and came to conclusion that the more nodes are removed the greater the risk of LE is. BSs acknowledge that complete removal does not prolong life, but reduces chances of local recurrence in the nodes. They also acknowledge that she is likely stage 4 now and cutting every single cancer cell in whole body won't work. Another thing is that surgeons do underplay the risks of LE... maybe because not themselves, but another doctor supposed to take care of that (a LE specialist). I do understand that BSs want to remove ALL cancer what they see - and probably little extra - just to make sure - that gives them some piece of mind. However, this may (and often does) turn many lives to misery. Maybe we're wrong but.... intuition tells us to be careful with total dissection.

    As we understand it, local lymph recurrence can be operated later on. But there's no cure for LE. LE veterans say that LE can happen after 10, 20 years...

    JoanQuilts, 10 nodes would not be all nodes, correct? Maybe level 1 only? That's what we're after.

    Still, any advices on paperwork, anyone?

  • pip57
    pip57 Member Posts: 12,401
    edited July 2012

    If you do go ahead and not give approval for node removal, I would suggest that you write your wishes on the consent form when you sign it.  Then be sure your wife brings it to the surgeons attention before he puts her under.  In my experiences, the surgeon always talks to me just before I am sedated to make sure we are on the same page.  

  • proudtospin
    proudtospin Member Posts: 5,972
    edited July 2012

    my surgeon only checked one node but I have lymphodemia in my trunck area and actually wondering if my recent biopsy may have meant it has moved into my arm

    it happens

  • exbrnxgrl
    exbrnxgrl Member Posts: 12,424
    edited July 2012

    Ah, stage IV does changes the picture. Also, lymph nodes are encased in a sort of fatty wrapper. Until they are removed, unwrapped and counted, the number of nodes at each level can vary. I had level 1 dissection and there were 13 nodes (plus 2sentinel nodes). If you look at other's dx line you will see a great variety in number of nodes even at the same level of dissection. Joan is right, many don't get lymphedema but I certainly understand your concern. Do you know if the chances go up markedly if you do a complete level 2 and level 3 dissection? What I'm trying to ask is since she's already willing to do a level 1 dissection does going even further, to help improve chances with bc outweigh concerns about LE? Or, since she is likely stage IV, what are the benefits of any node removal? Why do they think she is stage IV? Is there evidence of distant mets? Sorry to be so nosy without really answering your original question, but sometimes that helps us answer your concerns better. Since I have had a level 1 dissection, I take all possible precautions against LE. I feel I exercise the same level of caution as if i'd had even more extensive node removal but...keeping progression of my stage IV bc at bay is far more important than getting LE.

  • ali68
    ali68 Member Posts: 1,383
    edited July 2012

    I had all mine removed and I've had no problem upto now but I do need rads. My onco said " do you want the best chance of living"



  • SccS
    SccS Member Posts: 78
    edited July 2012

    Here's a part of my wife's case described here:


    http://community.breastcancer.org/forum/91/topic/790492?page=1#idx_8

    --------------------------

    The surgeon my wife is seeing now refuses to hear anything about leaving any of her lymph nodes in, he wants to remove all of them during mastectomy (UPDATE: HE AGREED TO SPARE SOME, SEE BELOW). She is 40. She has invasive carcinoma (ER+; was HER2+ but now HER2-) which basically taken over her right breast with 3 lumps in armpit lymph nodes area and possible metastasis to an area close to lungs (close to trachea) which can't be biopsied or operated on, but shows on PET-scan. A single fine needle aspiration biopsy of lymph nodes in the armpit was positive. She is receiving chemo now which had shrunk tumors about in half. Doctors are agreeing that she is very likely stage 4 now, (but that can't be clinically confirmed)... but they want to do mastectomy anyway to unload this stuff off her body, followed by radiation. We've been trying to study the lymph nodes subject very carefully and we're not convinced that in her case removing all of them would increase her chances, but it will definitely create more nightmares with lymphedema.

    --------------------------  

     So we failed finding another surgeon because no one takes her insurance... Her original BS reluctantly agreed to take out level 1 and partially level 2 only. Because cancer likely spread to an area close to trachea (no biopsy confirmation, only PET scan) and due to relatively big lumps in armpit lymph nodes (5-7 mm) they assume it had spread already.

    Her BS doesn't want to hear anything about sentinel node biopsy - says it's not needed since fine needle aspiration biopsy was positive and due to lumps in nodes area. He says that the lumps that she has are in level 1 area.

    I've heard that chances of LE do rise greatly if all nodes removed, comparing to some spared... And we hear so many women regretting agreeing for full Axillary Dissection... and most people say that most of their removed nodes returned negative anyway... If this is only to avoid local recurrence, why not going in later? Some surgeons say that Axillary Dissection is mostly done as a staging tool, to determine a stage.... Other doctors are convinced that once cancer reaches the lymph nodes - that's it - it's in the system already... Looks like they're not exactly sure what they are doing but just in case they want to cut it all to be able to say "we go it all"...

  • ali68
    ali68 Member Posts: 1,383
    edited July 2012

    Hi, I was 43 when I had large lump in arm pit and no family history of cancer. They did the test for me and it came back at 99. 06% for me not having cancer.



    They thought I was stage 4 because of the lymph nodes being so close to my neck. I had chemo first and had a complete response then lumpectomy. I need to have rads for three weeks and I have started Tamoxifen.



    I didn't want all my nodes out or have rads but I'm glad I did because I'm doing fine.

    If one of the lymph nodes spreads to anther part then that's not good. I would do anything to have time with my three girls and DH.



    This s so hard but do everything you can now as we don't get second chances.

  • exbrnxgrl
    exbrnxgrl Member Posts: 12,424
    edited July 2012

    You are correct in noting that opinions are mixed on AND. SNB does seem redundant if she's had a positive biopsy. My level 1 nodes were all negative but I have no regrets. Although the LE risk is real, please don't put those concerns ahead of giving her the best chances with respect to her bc. I was probably already metastatic when I had my node dissection. I take LE precautions but work out and most things quite normally. No regrets at all.

  • SccS
    SccS Member Posts: 78
    edited July 2012

    ali68, How many years ago was that? I'm so glad for you. But still, you don't know for sure what outcome would have been if you have not had all nodes out... Could have been even better, possibly?

    exbrnxgrl, Have you had level 1 only? If you don't mind sharing?

    We have seen 2 other surgeons for second opinion. One said he would remove only those nodes that have lumps plus those that look really bad. That's because he was convinced that she has cancer in the system already. He also said that her doctors likely know that, but don't want to admit it. He added that removal of all nodes would likely create LE. Another Dr. agrees with our current plan: removing level 1 and probably some of level 2 if he would find it necessary. He added that he would NOT remove level 3 because it's all normally intermixed with muscles (or nerves), and cutting would be dangerous.

  • ali68
    ali68 Member Posts: 1,383
    edited July 2012

    Hi, I was told I had cancer november 2011.

    When I had all the nodes removed and I woke up I was in pain. Five weeks post op and my arm is back to normal.



    Yes I need rads to chest wall, arm pit and breast but it will help me.



    I can't stress in telling anyone you only have one chance at this.

  • pupmom
    pupmom Member Posts: 5,068
    edited July 2012

    I'm going to step in here, although I am a relative newbie and not Stage IV. I think it is unconscionable that a surgeon would say your wife would likely get LE from an ALND. I had 21 nodes removed and my surgeon, a top rate breast surgeon at an NCI hospital, told us I had a 40% chance of LE. So far I am free of the condition. 

    Also, you DO NOT know if your wife is Stage IV until that is confirmed by scans and/or biopsies. I am horrified that it seems her medical team is writing off aggressive treatment on the SUSPICION that she is Stage IV.

    Sorry if I offend but this thread is making me really sad for your wife. :-( 

  • SccS
    SccS Member Posts: 78
    edited July 2012

    Well, my wife and I generally do not trust doctors; let me be clear on that. Medical profession had messed up with her in past many times (not this team and not only with cancer) and now we see so many conflicting statements coming from top surgeons... I've spotted them lying to us many times, adjusting facts to fit their opinion, etc. This is recurrent cancer from 3 years ago when another "wonderful" team did all wrong. I hope their Mercedeses are running great.

     yorkiemom, you wrote:

    >>>>I had 21 nodes removed and my surgeon, a top rate breast surgeon at an NCI hospital, told us I had a 40% chance of LE. So far I am free of the condition.

    But these are not all of the nodes, correct? I'm talking about removal of all nodes. According to statistics:

    Researchers at Memorial Sloan Kettering found the lymphedema rate was 49% by
    the time patients, who had had full axillary dissection, reached the 20 year mark.

    Source: http://breastcancerchoices.org/faqlymph.html

    yorkiemom, you wrote:
    >>>>Also, you DO NOT know if your wife is Stage IV until that is confirmed by scans and/or biopsies. I am horrified that it seems her medical team is writing off aggressive treatment on the SUSPICION that she is Stage IV.

    It can't be confirmed because the area close to trachea can't be biopsied. But from experience, I think, they know that it's stage 4. They said "she is likely stage four".  It's just that they can't pronounce officially. And no, they are not writing off aggressive treatment, we're the once who try to get more help than harm from the treatment they offer. Why? Because doctors have ZERO responsibility for what they do. That's why they make us sign so many papers waiving any responsibility before us and they have a huge army of lawyers besides them. WE are the once who are responsible for navigating through doctor's lies and irresponsibility. They want to cut all nodes, we know many people who's life is misery due to LE (plus people on LE board of this forum) and we know that surgeon won't have an LE, but his/her patient would. Why would he care? Our team wants to go very aggressive and see if my wife can survive all that. People who don't survive it don't write on forums, do they?

    Sorry if I got emotional. It's just so hard..

  • Stormynyte
    Stormynyte Member Posts: 650
    edited July 2012

    I also decided I didn't want any nodes removed. I met with the surgeon specifically to discuss it. We agreed that at stage IV there really is no reason to. She did it anyway. I was told it looked suspicious, so she decided to remove them. 4 out of the 11 removed were positive.

    I'm stage IV. It has already spread. I still don't see the point in taking them out. If I get lymphodema I'm going to sue the crap out of her, or something. Maybe just yell real loud, I don't know. 

    But anyway, make sure you are perfectly clear there are to be no nodes removed, even if they look like they should be removed. Get it in writing if that is what you really want. 

  • pupmom
    pupmom Member Posts: 5,068
    edited July 2012

    SccS, just curious, why do you trust the docs' opinions that she is Stage IV when you are so suspicious of them in general. Very sorry for what you and your wife are going through. It is just so incredibly hard and I wish you both the very best. I have had good experience with my doctors. Sometimes it just takes finding a team you respect and trust. My first team was horrendous. That made us switch to the very best and we are completely satisfied.I don't know much about nodes. I had 2, of 3, sentinal nodes positive and they took 18 more. Maybe there were more than that left. I don't know, but at least I do know 19 of the 21 nodes taken were negative for cancer.  

  • exbrnxgrl
    exbrnxgrl Member Posts: 12,424
    edited July 2012

    Hi,

    Yes, I had only a level one dissection . None of the nodes was positive, only a sentinel node. Thank you for explaining your feelings about the medical profession. I am sorry that your experiences have been so negative. We really do see the world through the lens of our own experience. Caryn

  • SccS
    SccS Member Posts: 78
    edited July 2012

    yorkiemom, you wrote:
    >>>> SccS, just curious, why do you trust the docs' opinions that she is Stage IV when you are so suspicious of them in general.   

    Because we have to study everything ourselves and make our own decisions and use doctors for opinions only. So according to common sense, different opinions, and to our understanding of the situation, she's probably stage 4. From our experience, if one sticks blindly trusts doctors without personal opinion and understanding - that's a recipe for failure.

    >>>> Sometimes it just takes finding a team you respect and trust. My first team was horrendous. That made us switch to the very best and we are completely satisfied.

    That's great and I wish we could to that, but her insurance is taken by few surgeons in the city only. None from a prestigious place. We're a low wage family and normally people of my income don't care much about health... well I think we're exception, I can't afford being irresponsible....

    >>>> I had 2, of 3, sentinal nodes positive and they took 18 more.

    I'm glad you had no more than just 2 positives! But as you see, removal of all nodes is likely insurance itself. It gives information more than treatment effect - so it seems.

    exbrnxgrl,
    So we're fighting to have more or less what you've had done - level 1 dissection. She will have chance of LE but we want to reduce that chance by avoiding full dissection...

    I hope we're right, but no one can guarantee anything....  I'd love to see a day when I could trust doctors with my life...

  • Rockym
    Rockym Member Posts: 1,261
    edited July 2012

    Sccs, I told my BS that I only wanted a SNB after everything I read about ALND.  My original paperwork said "SNB with possible ALND."  I read that ALND would be overkill for me and increase my chances of lymphedema.  My BS said that my cancer was too close to my axillary region and that he wouldn't do a full ALND, but that he would take a few nodes besides the SN to be sure.

    I was okay with that.  Turns out my SN was negative, but 2 other nodes were positive for micromets.  I almost wish I never knew about those micromets as I would not have done chemo.  Newer research says that micromets should be considered negative nodes.  I had 2 opinions and both MOs felt chemo was giving me a better chance.  I'm a bit paranoid too and almost think that those positive nodes could have been from the tissue getting mixed in.  I haven't seen many ladies with a negative SN, but with other nodes positive.  This was additional information I wish I didn't have in retrospect.  Since I did have the info and have young children, I felt I had to do the chemo.

    Also, LE can happen anytime.  Right now I have breast swelling that appeared 3 months after radiation.  The PT says it's LE, but the BS says it may subside.  Right now it's annoying, uncomfortable and just one more thing to deal with.  I had hoped after all my treatments I could pick up the pieces and try to resume a normal life.  So even with only 6 nodes out LE can happen.  I was trying so hard to avoid chemo and LE and got stuck with chemo and maybe LE too.  These decisions are life changing and you are right to consider ever alternative.  Good luck with your decisions.

  • exbrnxgrl
    exbrnxgrl Member Posts: 12,424
    edited July 2012

    SccS,

    I'm so sorry that your choices are limited when it comes to practitioners. I understand as I have an unlimited choice within my HMO, but would have to pay out of pocket for secon opinions outside my HMO. I have only been able to do so because of family members financial support. Such is the life of a public school teacher :)

    With regards to bc, yes there are many opinions held by doctors because there is so much that is still unknown. I think it is great that you and your wife are actively involved in learning about her condition because you need to be part of the treatment team, IMHO. But, your doctors do have experience and a level of expertise that no amount of research on the Internet can give us. Of course, that is not a helpful statement if you disagree with the docs yet have few choices in who those docs are. I don't know what else to say to help you and I sincerely wish you had more choices. BTW, many women who will not survive bc do post on this forum, including myself. Our stage IV threads contain very frank and honest discussions on all aspects of living and dying with metastatic bc. I really hope your wife doesn't join our "club" but if she does, we can be a source of great info, support and comfort. Caryn

  • Mardibra
    Mardibra Member Posts: 1,111
    edited July 2012

    I had a level one AND and I don't regret it. I'm LE free. Who knows if that will change? But your wife's situation has me thinking. If she is stage IV, why would they want to remove more than level one? what would be the point? Have they described some benefit to you? I am certainly NOT a doctor but I understand your dilemma.

  • SccS
    SccS Member Posts: 78
    edited July 2012
    Rockym,

    Well, my research points to the conclusion that once cancer is in the body, it's very hard to avoid spreading, and all that hype about "we have to cut it all" is to make people agree with more treatments for profit of the industry. Just plain logic: if they would be so sure they can cut it all out, why do they recommend chemo and radiation in most cases, after surgery? Because they know it can't be all cut out. Like that old breast surgeon who we saw for a second opinion told us, there are many more microscopic lymph nodes around main axillary lymph nodes, and it's impossible to cut them all ! They can spread cancer as well. Plus there is constant blood circulation EVERYWHERE (my wife has invasive cancer now, NOT in SITU; In situ may be protected from blood supply). Seems like the truth is once cancer gets out of the "in situ" - we can say it's in the system, and they do know it. I think it's good that you had chemo for that reason. And probably radiation, too. I think your LE is caused by radiation, so it's probably temporary since you don't have all nodes removed... but I can be wrong...

    It is funny that doctors claim to know how to treat cancer, but yet don't know what is causing it...

    I wish we could afford surgery by that old surgeon, but he doesn't take any insurance. So even if I buy insurance from my work (which is too expensive), we still have to pay several thousands for surgery....

    exbrnxgrl,
    Your posts do help, thank you. I wish you best!!!!


    mardibra, you wrote:


    But your wife's situation has me thinking. If she is stage IV, why would they want to remove more than level one? what would be the point? Have they described some benefit to you? I am certainly NOT a doctor but I understand your dilemma.

    Well that surgeon is known for removing "too much", probably to ensure against any liability. I think he wants a Full AND because: 1) it's recurring cancer which is invasive now after being mistreated when it was BCIS 3 years ago, 2) there have been 3 lumps in lymph nodes by level one, pretty big ones (5-7mm), confirmed positive by biopsy, which are now lower in size due to chemo and one almost gone, 3). her cancer is 2-3 big tumor which almost taken over her entire right breast. They are not sure that she is stage IV but speculate that she's probably is. An area close to trachea had lit up on PET scan, but they can't biopsy it. We know that PET scan picks only pretty big things like a size of a centimeter or half. I think they assume that with this size of tumors, both in breast and lymph nodes, and being recurring, it must have been spread already. So the surgeon says leaving any of the lymph nodes is "crazy", but very reluctantly agreed to leave some of level 2 and all level 3. We hope he keeps his promise... so I was trying to ask how to ensure that with any paperwork etc...

  • Mardibra
    Mardibra Member Posts: 1,111
    edited July 2012

    If I were in your shoes and I wanted to ensure that only level one was removed, i would make sure it was clear on the pre-surgery paperwork before I signed. If its not there, I would write it in myself and have both the surgeon and your wife initial the change and then sign. Good luck!

  • ali68
    ali68 Member Posts: 1,383
    edited July 2012

    I'm sorry you have had a bad time with doctors but not all doctors are like that. I had some cancerous nodes near my neck and they thought I was stage 4 but I wasn't. The chemo gave me a complete response but if I didn't have all the nodes removed they would have spread to other parts of my body.



    Please don't write off your wife so quickly and sorry to be blunt But your not a doctor.



    Sorry if this upset you but if you were my DH I would want a second opinion.



    Also my top surgeon (uk) doesn't do private work only NHS because she believes in working for ( the person next door) I wish your wife could see her.



    All the best to you and your wife and little SE with her treatment.



    Alison

  • exbrnxgrl
    exbrnxgrl Member Posts: 12,424
    edited July 2012

    ali68,

    Please read all of SccS's posts to understand his family's limits on choosing doctors. They have seen 2 other surgeons for second opinions.He is not writing his wife off at all!

  • SelenaWolf
    SelenaWolf Member Posts: 1,724
    edited July 2012
    I agree with the above posters in that the lymphadema risk would have to be weighed very carefully against the recurrence risk if cancerous nodes are left behind.

    My mother had a complete axillary node dissection in 1969 for what turned out to be a prophylactic, radical mastectomy.  She has never suffered from lymphadema on that side as a result of that surgery.  However, six years ago, she had five lymph nodes removed following a diagnosis of early-stage IDC and she had a horrible time with lymphadema on that side in the beginning, but it is starting to resolve with exercise. 

    I had seven lymph nodes removed during my surgery - as well as regional node radiation - and I have not had any problems to date.  Lymphadema is not a `given` just because you`ve had lymph nodes removed nor can it not happen just because you`ve only had a few lymph nodes removed.

    Of course, your wife has to be comfortable with the decision she`s making about whether- or not to allow an axillary node dissection during her surgery, but - keep in mind - that each surgeon- or cancer treatment centre has different protocols regarding lymph node dissections. At mine, if three of the however-many nodes removed test positive for cancer, then further surgery is booked to remove all the axillary nodes after chemotherapy is done. It`s just to increase the possibility that all the cancer has been `cleared`from the axillary region.
  • LindaLou53
    LindaLou53 Member Posts: 929
    edited July 2012

    SccS, I am sorry that you and your wife are having to go through this difficult time.  The central issue is that no one can give you any guarantees.  Your wife's outcomes, whether she will ever develop lymphedema or whether her cancer is fully curable, is an unknown at this point.  So yes, we try to play the odds by making the best decisions we can, based on current medical knowledge and often on our gut instincts.  Unfortunately, in the area of lymphedema the statistics are widely variable and poorly understood.  No one can tell you what will be your best choice, but we can all certainly understand the frustration, stress and anxiety these types of situations present.

    I would like to offer you a few of my personal thoughts, hopefully to add another voice and perspective that might be helpful.  I ask your forgiveness in advance for the wordiness of my reply.  I have never been very good at being concise!

    I have had 2 separate breast cancers.  The first in 2000 on the right side, an invasive Ductal cancer treated by lumpectomy, SNB (micromets found in 2 of the 7 nodes removed), chemotherapy x 6 months and radiation x 7 weeks. Five years later in late 2005 I was found to have a new primary breast cancer, unrelated to the first.  This time in the left breast, an invasive Lobular cancer and pre-surgical scans indicated the axillary nodes were most likely already involved.

    At this point, given my prior history, I opted for bilateral mastectomy but discussed with my surgeon beforehand my desire to initially start with a SNB on the left, just in case the scans were wrong.  She agreed to do this, but we both agreed that if there was obvious nodal involvement she would continue to remove nodes based on their visual presentation and her experience at detecting abnormalities.  My goal was first to remove any sites of known cancer and second to minimize the collateral damage from the surgery.

    As it turned out, the SNB nodes, the first level nodes, the second level nodes, and even the few 3rd level nodes my surgeon could safely remove were all positive.  All 23 nodes positive and many with extracapsular extension (meaning the nodes had already burst into the surrounding tissue due to the cancer cell growth).  When I was given this news post-operatively I was crushed, and later when all the final pathology reports confirmed the extensive local spread in the nodes, both I and my oncologist felt I was most likely already Stage IV.  My oncologist did not give up on me, however, but rather threw the proverbial "kitchen sink" at me.  I again went through a full 6 months of chemo, 6 weeks of 3-field radiation which blasted my chest wall, full axilla and supraclavicular region to hopefully kill any cancer in the local area. I had IV Zometa for 5 years and have been on Aromatase inhibitors now over 6 years.

    Did I develop lymphedema? Yes, I did on the left side. In fact my lymphedema occurred 8 weeks after surgery and during my second round of chemo. I continued through my full rounds of chemo and my 6 weeks of intensive radiation with lymphedema already present and being dealt with.  I continue to deal daily with lymphedema. I have endeavored to fully educate myself on the subject and also attempt to contribute back to my local community by helping to run a lymphedema support group. My lymphedema on the left is stage 2, which requires compression garments 24/7 and daily maintenance.  I have just recently developed early stage lymphedema now on my right side after having to lift a heavy weight in an emergency situation.

    All of this for me to make a few simple statements I hope you may find helpful.

    • In spite of the advanced local spread of my disease, I am currently still NED (no evidence of disease) almost 7 years out from my diagnosis in November 2005 
    • I have learned to live with lymphedema.  Is my life miserable because of this condition? Absolutely not. My life is full, active and not revolving only around cancer or lymphedema
    • Is my cancer cured? That still is and always will be an unknown until it's not. In fact I get blood drawn today to repeat a tumor marker test that was ever so slightly elevated a month ago.
    • Would I do things differently if given the chance?  No I would not.  I am at peace with my decisions, knowing I did the best I could with the information and understanding I was given at the time.

    As with all life, once we make a decision and head down a particular path, we can never know how things might have been had our choice been different.  We really can never know for sure that our actual outcome was a direct result of the choices we made either. There is no question that some patients are over-treated and suffer adverse side-effects unnecessarily. Given that we must live with whatever decisions we make when surrounded by all this uncertainty, it is my opinion that there are 3 basic elements that must be present.

    1. Surround yourself with the best medical professionals possible, given your insurance, financial and regional constraints.
    2. Inform yourself and become an active participant in your treatment decisions, knowing it is your right to have your voice heard and your opinion respected.
    3. Give yourself the grace and peace of mind, of knowing that you made your decisions to the best of your ability.

    Please understand that your wife's own cancer presentation is unique and cannot be compared with others, even though we do often gain insight and information when reading personal experiences here on these forums.  I only hoped to offer the concept that whatever the outcome of our treatments, Life can still be productive, rewarding and precious to us.

    SccS, I wish you and your wife the very best during this most difficult time.  I believe you have already accomplished steps 1 and 2. Take one day at a time...prepare to the best of your ability for the future...and cherish each moment you are given.

  • coraleliz
    coraleliz Member Posts: 1,523
    edited July 2012

    SccS- Is your insurance an HMO? Just a thought if it is. Maybe you can contact your HMO & request to go out of network & tell them why. [The"in-network" doctor wants to perform a surgery that is more aggressive than your wife wants]. What they will probably do, is talk that surgeon to keep you "in-network". The surgeon will know that in no uncertain terms not to remove more than level 1 nodes or whatever you are comfortable with. If you have a PPO, maybe consider travelling, perhaps you won't have to go too far(1-2hrs?) to find an in-network BS who is willing to work with you.

    It's hard working with doctors that aren't on the same page as you. Good luck. I won't bother you with my story because it won't change you wife's lymphedema risk. I also have a less aggressive cancer from what I read.

  • learnin
    learnin Member Posts: 205
    edited July 2012

    Hi. Likely you know this already from your research - but there are no guarantees to avoid lymphedema. Even if your wife had NO nodes removed. Lymphedema can occur just because of cancer messing with the lymphatics.

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