my mom has breast cancer too.

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jenchamlee
jenchamlee Member Posts: 1
edited June 2014 in Caring for Someone with Breast cancer

Hi I'm Jenelle and I'm 28. Just 2 days ago I found out my mom has breast cancer..I came home to visit my parents like I usually try and do on weekends, and when I walked in the door, my mom just said.." I have cancer." I immediately just put my hands over my face and just lost it. I coudn't help but cry and cry and think, "what?!"

A week ago my dad was in surgery giving one of his kidneys to his sister... this was a huge deal and a big worry, but both of them are actually recovering and doing fine as of now. I was so worried and then so grateful to have him come back home. But now this... this seems worse. This is my mom. I just feel so scared, worried, and angry. I don't want my mom to go through this. I'm sure this is what every daughter feels so I know i'm not alone, but at the same time i do feel alone. It just hasn't quite sunk in yet. When I found out, I felt glued to the couch like I didn't want to do anything else but sit with her. But my mom, she's amazing... we went out to dinner, we made a toast saying "F_ cancer ", she came home and did laundry, we watched a movie... she wasn't even crying. Either she's as tough of nails or in denial.. or maybe both. But whatever it is, it made me feel so proud of her, want to be just like her, and be brave for her. 

I'm glad I found this site today... reading others stories was helpful, informational, and gave me confirmation to my own thoughts and feelings. I'm going to do my best for my mom, and try to keep it real, emotions and all. I hope and pray for all the other mom's out there to fight and beat this. 

I love you mom!! 

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  • CoolBreeze
    CoolBreeze Member Posts: 4,668
    edited July 2012

    Good luck to your mom!  I'm glad you found this site too - this area seems to be wonderful and supportive for those who have to watch us go through cancer treatment.

    As you know doubt know by now, there are stages of cancer and it isn't automatically a death sentence.  I am hoping your mother has a highly treatable kind with a low risk of recurrence, and I hope whatever treatment she has is easy on her.  

    Having you to help her will be a blessing for her, I'm sure. 

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  • Joanne58
    Joanne58 Member Posts: 1,117
    edited July 2012

    Hi, Janelle,

    I agree with Coolbreeze--you are a blessing to your mom and will develop greater compassion for all because of your service to her. It's wonderful that you live close by, too.

    My daughters, one your age, were very sad when I told them about  my diagnosis. 2 lived out of state, including a daughter-in-law, and couldn't be here to help, but they all cut and donated their hair, ran in breast cancer races, and one of my daughters adopted a woman in her church that was going through chemo for breast cancer.  This woman already had a daughter that came to help her, but my daughter asked if she could bring her dinner once in a while and visit with her since she couldn't do this for me :)  I was so proud of my girls, just as your mom will continue to be proud of you.  As you support her and serve her through this journey, you'll love each other more than ever.

    Although  it's rough news for you and your mom, it's good to have you with us on BCO. Lots of sweet ladies and  helpful info. Wishing you and your mom all  the best in care and response to treatment.

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