My "friend" sent me a hate filled email.

She may truly believed this, but a true friend find a more diplomatic way to discuss it. When my husband's brother died of aids, i couldnt muster any sympathy because he had engaged in high risk nehavior-- my husbamd thought i was being horribly callous. But with breast cancer, there are so many other factors. For example, I've lived a vegetarian, mostly vegan, organic diet. I exercised religiously for years. I rarely drank alcohol. Now everyone feels that it was all for naught. ,So are my sisters-in-law and my husband's cousins, each at least 75 pounds overweight, and my own sister whom is about 35 pounds overweight, more deserving of breast cancer? But I consumed enormous quantities of protein bars with soy over the years. And I was the one who had multiple years of extraordinary stress. And I was the one who had multiple cycles of IVF and was on the pill for several years. There's no saying what caused your breast cancer!

So who knows, only you can decide if your friendship is not saving.

Wow...Just Wow....NOBODY Needs a friend like THAT. Overweight, eh? Did you tell her that Skinny People get sick, have cancer, and/or die too? Take a break and speak again? Why go through the agony? What comes around goes around, one day she'll be treated the exact same way by someone and she won't like it. Please don't take her comments personally, she is obviously a very bitter person and cares only about her problems and herself. 

I would cut her loose....she's not a friend.  And I would not waste any of my valuable time responding to her.  The best thing you can do is pray that she never gets ill since she may be treated the way she's treating you.

God bless you,

LaDonna

looking.......I'm so glad you feel so much better now that you've made your decision on what to do.  You do owe it to yourself and your family to be as stress free as possible. 

I believe that my journey has been so much easier since I let go of things that were stressing me and just concentrated on getting well again.

Good luck with your journey,

LaDonna

dear lf4m -- i feel like her hate filled email probably had everything to do with her and nearly nothing to do with you.  i feel bad for you - that you've lost your friend this way and that you received such negative energy.  i also feel bad for her - she's lost her friend in you. cancer is scary, and many people just don't know how to behave...

and i'm sorry -- but jenlee -- i agree with your husband.  no one - no matter what their lifestyle - deserves cancer nor aids.  both are horrid diseases.  none of us deserve those diseases.  your husband's brother did not deserve aids.  i'm shocked by how many people cannot find compassion for people suffering with diseases that they view as somehow being "earned".