How is everyone juggling it all

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Tweetyb422
Tweetyb422 Member Posts: 119
edited June 2014 in Young With Breast Cancer

I am 39 and a sahm, I have an 11 year old daughter. I was diagnosed late march, I have just finished my first round of DD A/C seeing surgeon this week to set up my surgery, then more chemo and rads. I guess I just feel overwhelmed. I have always been so busy now my life is totally upside down. I have learned a lot from these boards, but it seems most of the women are older and therefore needs different...how is everyone balancing homelife (summer camp, playmates, etc) with treatment. I feel bad cause we usually have fun summers, trips, arts classes, etc and this year is so hard.

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  • kltb04
    kltb04 Member Posts: 1,051
    edited June 2012

    Hi there - I am 38 and have 9 and 12 year old girls.  I am halfway through chemo (4 x A/C) and starting Taxotere/Herceptin tomorrow.  Surgery for me sometime this fall if all stays on schedule.

    I am concerned mine are just going to be bored all summer.  We did do a family vacation - I timed it so it would fall on week 3 of my last A/C so I knew it would be my "good week" and we just got home yesterday.  But I'm afraid that is going to be it as far as fun stuff.  My oldest will kind of arrange her own schedule - she has a couple of close friends that either invite her over or they come over here...and she reads a lot so she can entertain herself.  My youngest still needs a lot of entertaining and attention though and it is sometimes more trouble than it is worth to have a friend over for her.

    I had good intentions to get them in each a daycamp/class for a week each but never got around to it for oldest and the one the youngest has signed up for may be canceled due to not enough signed up - ugh.  I do have my parents in town to help chauffer and/or babysit and my bro/sil as well.  I feel like if I ask SIL to keep them and play with their cousins though, I need to reciprocate (I know she wouldn't say that, just the way I feel).

    As it is, I feel guilty that I am going to have to drag them out of bed at 8 in the morning to drop them off at my parents house - my dad will watch them while my mom goes to chemo with me (DH has to work)...guilt, guilt, guilt...

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  • Tweetyb422
    Tweetyb422 Member Posts: 119
    edited June 2012

    I know what u mean about guilt ;). I was room mom and of course couldn't do everything I normally do...I felt so guilty...I was at least able to be at the party.



    We don't have family here so that is tough. My mother in law came and stayed with us for 7 weeks to get us thru chemo, she did school drop off and lessons, etc. she left last week after my last chemo so I am on my own til my surgery.



    I did get my daughter in band camp and summer camp. We have some great friends she goes to, but l also feel like I need to reciprocate and I am just not up for that yet lol

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  • LaurenM730
    LaurenM730 Member Posts: 366
    edited June 2012

    I'm totally feeling guilty for not being able to be there for my kids like I normally am. I'm 38, kids are 6 and 3. Its hard to explain why I'm home but cant do certain things. Why can't I take her to the bus, go shopping, let them sit on my lap... After recovering from. My BMX, now I have the recovery from my exchange and they have to get used to it all again...



    My daughter is in school then will go to camp, but her best friend can't do everything with her anymore...

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