The dumbest things people have said to you/about you

just got my call back from my first 1 year mamo (after doing them every 6 months for 3 years I was put on the 1 year timing), they said I need to return for more images

my boobies are "misshapened".....well they did take 3 chunks out and guess they forgot to "reshape" them

duh, back for more images

I think it was Ann Landers (or Dear Abby) who came up with the perfect answer for someone asking intrusive personal questions.

"You know, if it were any of your business, you'd already know the answer to that question."

Don't remember where I read it, but one of my favorite lines for intrusive questions is "Why do you suppose a polite person would ask that question?"  I've used it a few times.  It usually goes over the person's head, but at least they change the subject. 

I scheduled my exchange surgery this week.  I sent an email to my supervisor to let him know.  I said "My next surgery is July 23rd.  I will be out for 3 weeks.  I will be revisiting my scheduled vacation that was to start July 16.  I will let you know.  Thank you for your patience and understanding as I go through these procedures."  His reply:  "Wishing you good health.  No apologies necessary."

WHAT?  No apologies necessary?  What did I, or do I, need to apologize for?  I did not apologize.  I thanked you for your understanding. 

I think I get too sensitive.  He is a really, really nice man.  His wife is a recent BC survivor.  He truly has been wonderful. So, why did this one comment bother me?  I'm really struggling.  let it go............let it go............let it go.............

I was misdiagnosed with mastitis prior to the correct diagnosis of IBC. For a couple weeks I had a pic line to do IV antibiotics at home and my PCP's office called to go over so information for a prior authorization. In the middle of this the nurse says "Oh my god!" so I asked what's the matter. She says "I just noticed your age. You're so young to have something so deadly!" Gee thanks, feeling much better now.

I normally try to let most things go by.  I know that we are all guilty of saying the wrong thing at times, especially when we don't know what to say.  Silence is Golden, may not be far off.  Far better to listen I am learning.

This was just classic and I am sure you ladies will get it.

Nice weekend.  Lots of yard sales.  Walking by one and stopped.  Item I was interested in.  Lady in 60s steps up and says "buy something, you should give lots to breast cancer" (yard sale for the cure to raise money to walk in one of those big weekends).  My self edit isn`t so good lately, but I did restrain myself.  Also, daughter with me and she was mortified and did not want to make it worse.  But really I was thinking WTF.  I should give "something" to breast cancer.  How about a piece of my body and mine and my family peace of mind.  Is that enough?  Guess I look too young for BC or something.

Tigergirl-----Somehow something needs to be said to that chickiepoo. That falls into the column of the most stupid, thoughtless, assinine---what other adjectives? either direct or through her boss. Definitely, needs to be addressed b/c if she's said it to you , she'll say something equally stupid to someone else. Sheesh, what an analpore.

LOL, Jane. I did say something similar to someone urging me to sponsor her in a race for the cure. My turning her down dumbfounded her and she said something to the effect of, "You, of all people, should be happy to give." I patted my flat chest, and said, "Already did."

Good one, Shelia!

One of my all time favorites ....

Oh, so your breast cancer is the "good" one to have?!

 Good does not = Cancer.

I didn't hear about Sheryl Crow but did hear about Robin Roberts which scares me to death.  My dad had MDS that progressed into AML and passed a year befor I was diagnosed with BC....he had had no previous history of any type of cancer or chemo.  My mom has been talking about it nonstop since Monday and I had to tell her I just can't want to talk about it anymore.  As soon as that was said, my sister called and wanted to talk about it.  UGH!!!!

I know Sheryl Crows recent announcement on having a benign brain tumor - might not be linked to her bc.  But who knows.  

After my uni mastectomy, doctor running a conference I'm part of in my training program (who knows about my diagnosis) was trying to express that she doesn't support bilateral mastectomy but the way it came out was:

"The second cancer doesn't matter. It's the first one that's going to kill you."

Um... thanks. 

"I heard about your breast cancer.....they cure 99% of those now, don't they?"

I hate when people tell me I have to have a positive attitude (or worse yet, tell me to smile!). I actually believe that a positive attitude is really important but some people act like I am obligated to be positive and upbeat. I feel tired and weepy and I cannot lose that extra weight and I constantly worry about my cancer coming back. Why is it not okay for me to have an "off" day?