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  • Tazzy
    Tazzy Member Posts: 2,546
    edited May 2012

    We could build a "stupid comment" pyre with all the dumb comments..... I agree... say nothing rather than something stupid.

    NevadaPaula... I hope you have someone else to share your cancer journey with if you cant speak with your husband.... of course these boards keep our sanity too.

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  • sandcastle
    sandcastle Member Posts: 587
    edited June 2012

    Of people asking ME "How do you feel"

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  • lisa2012
    lisa2012 Member Posts: 652
    edited June 2012

    How about "do you miss your breasts?"

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  • SheChirple
    SheChirple Member Posts: 954
    edited June 2012

    venaba: people at work and my friends  expecting me to whine and complain to them.  When I don't then they feel as though I must not be all that sick..YES....I'm a happy, upbeat person.  So, people just assume all is well, which is all fine and good, I don't want them whining all over me.  But every once in a while I get the "OH, so I thought you were cured." comment.  Or, better yet "do you ever think, 'hey, I got a free boob job'".  DUH....NO.

     arenee: I'm sick and tired of not being able to sleep in my bed without pain.  I'm 3 weeks out from my BMX with TEs and I can't find a position to sleep in that doesn't hurt at least somewhat.  I slept in the recliner for 2 weeks but I got sick and tired of that, too.  ...THAT TOO... Most of all, this is what bother's me most. I'm sure my husband is tired of me whimpering in my sleep, tossing and trying to turn.  I can't.  I'm sorry to say I am 6 + months past BMX with TE.  I am past my last fill and awaiting exchange.  It's pretty much all I do now is whine about how I can't do this, I can't do that, but mostly I CAN'T FRIGGIN' SLEEP!!! I lay on my back, both arms propped on pillows by my side, can't turn from side to side, can't put my arm up over my head.  Can't sleep in my stomach all because of these darned bricks in my chest.

    I am a happy, upbeat person.  But, I've become cranky due to lack of sleep, lack of patience for stupidity, and most of all mood swings.  Sometimes I'm pissed because nobody will stop talking about cancer.  Sometimes I'm pissed because they forget I'm sick and expect me to be able to do everything that everybody can do.

    OH, dear.  It's Monday. What a way to start my week, in this mood.  Shake it off....shake it off...shake it off....

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  • lisa2012
    lisa2012 Member Posts: 652
    edited June 2012

    Hey, support to you on a tough Monday. TEs are odd. I've had mine for 3 mos. my sister

    ( just had her exchange surgery,) calls them "turtle shells." they do make sleeping weird. The recliner kept me on my back for a while, it helped though not like real sleeping. I find I can sort of sleep on my side now-kind of. It does get better.

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  • lostinmo
    lostinmo Member Posts: 922
    edited June 2012

    Hi everyone. can I just say I'm already sick and tired of all of it.

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  • rozem
    rozem Member Posts: 1,375
    edited June 2012

    unsolicited advise from people who have no clue...my BIL (yes you read that correctly) CALLED me after he heard that I was going ahead with the bmsx and told me how drastic it was.  I told him I was doing it because of my fear of a new primary, to which he says well just take them off then if it happens - yeah, like you know what its like to live in constant fear of cancer

    i am sooooo sick and tired of this being the only conversation i seem to have with people - i really believe ppl are scared sh**less that this can happen to them.  I constantly get asked if I have a family history.  NOPE, NONE and I had zero risk factors - you have to see their faces when I tell them that. 

     i am sick and tired of waking up with this weight and going to sleep with it....praying this gets better cause its no way to live

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  • June2268
    June2268 Member Posts: 1,202
    edited June 2012

    Hi I am jumping and would like to join in ladies.

    I am sick and tired of people judging me cause of my weight gain.....

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  • anndh
    anndh Member Posts: 23
    edited June 2012

    I am sick and tired of ITCHING!!!! 

    I am a strong person, but I am on day 10 of itching.  First my newly bald head got a rash.  I was prescribed an antibiotic, and broke out in hives.  Now I am taking a steroid, benadryl, and antacid, and supposed to wait for them to go away.  I have been itching for 10 days and am TIRED OF IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  (Can you tell I am ready to take the next set of pills but it's not time yet?)  :-)

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  • Amy332012
    Amy332012 Member Posts: 35
    edited June 2012

    I am sick and tired of people saying that they are praying for me and if I need anything to let them know, but when I do need someone no one around. Its time like this when you find out who is a real friend. I have family that has helped me out alot but for the most part my co-workers really haven't gave a s... about me. or I feel.  Just had to get that out, now I feel better :)

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  • barbiecorn
    barbiecorn Member Posts: 437
    edited June 2012

    Sick and tired of people bringing up my BC when I am in an upbeat mood. My boss is constantly telling me she is worried about me.  Enough already!!!

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  • lisa2012
    lisa2012 Member Posts: 652
    edited June 2012

    Anndh, So sorry about your itching! I had a small bit of that first round and it was very annoying. Hope the meds got you settled down by now.

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  • kfontaine
    kfontaine Member Posts: 118
    edited June 2012

    O my gosh, could not have said it any better myself! I found put yesterday that there are a lot of snoops at the hospital I work at and get treatment at....I requested a query on who has been in my electronic medical record since January and the list is 20+ pages long! Only had time to go through 2 pages already found 4 people, 2 I work with, have been nosing around in my medical record!! Ulgh makes me so angry!

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  • dressager
    dressager Member Posts: 77
    edited June 2012

    kfontaine, that is horrifying! and an illegal violation of your privacy. where's the HIPAA training at your facility? please report the unauthorized access of your medical record to your hospital privacy's officer. if that happened at my healthcare organization, those individuals would be fired without conversation. shocking!

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  • Leah_S
    Leah_S Member Posts: 8,458
    edited June 2012

    Kfontaine, I agree with Dressager, you must report these violations. Don't let yourself be brushed off, but let them know you're going to follow up on this. They violated your privacy, they broke the law - no excuse for any of it.

    All the best.

    Leah

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  • lisa2012
    lisa2012 Member Posts: 652
    edited June 2012

    How about the person who explains that you might be gaining weight because you are losing muscle mass from inactivity? Maybe it's true but it didn't help. Don't tell me about the Fat Flush Diet right now.

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  • Isabelle2
    Isabelle2 Member Posts: 389
    edited June 2012

    I have only been involved with BC since May 2012, had lumpectomy & 12 nodes removed May 24th but I am already sick & tired of being told to "think positive".   If thinking positive worked none of us would have this dreaded disease.   AND I have stopped saying " I am fine" ...I am not fine & I feel crappy & I hurt & sometimes I want to cry.   And I know that all of you understand....that is the best help. 

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  • Amy332012
    Amy332012 Member Posts: 35
    edited June 2012

    Isabelle, Sooo ture!!

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  • barbiecorn
    barbiecorn Member Posts: 437
    edited June 2012

    No one understands unless you are one of the sisters here who know exactly how you feel.  If you did not have breast cancer, you do not know how we feel.  I know people try to say the rights things, but it always comes out wrong.  Maybe it is best if they said nothing!!!!  (((hugs to all us sisters)))

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  • SuzyBlue
    SuzyBlue Member Posts: 125
    edited June 2012

    I just want to not feel irritated by my clothes to the point I am daydreaming about putting my pjs on by 4.00pm! I'm over pain and discomfort and waiting!



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  • lisa2012
    lisa2012 Member Posts: 652
    edited June 2012

    This is good- at a party I was able to drop in on, an acquaintance told me how she had read that early BC actually had worse recurrence rate than thought. Thanks! I just said," Hmm, that doesn't help me right now, I am staying optimistic" and walked over to the food.

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  • lisa2012
    lisa2012 Member Posts: 652
    edited June 2012

    This is good- at a party I was able to drop in on, an acquaintance told me how she had read that early BC actually had worse recurrence rate than thought. Thanks! I just said," Hmm, that doesn't help me right now, I am staying optimistic" and walked over to the food.

    Suzyblue, what is your discomfort from?

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  • principessa
    principessa Member Posts: 8
    edited June 2012

    I'm getting sick and tired of 'filtering' or being sensitive to others...others who have just totally hurt my 'optimism or hope'. But, forgive me for saying something that made YOU feel uncomfortable!!



    I'm sick of people comparing their situations to my dx. AYFKM?? You are having a hard time with your love life? I just had my ovaries taken out and can't EVER get pregnant. I glee you are right, we ARE ALL going through something.



    I'm SO sick of hearing how brave,strong, inspiring I am. Really? I pitty you is what I really hear.



    I'm sick of people monitoring my life and directing me to what I should or should not do!



    Aaaahhhhh! Thank you. Thank you for knowing that I needed to get that off my chest. I can hold it together and be that brave girl... But thankful for my DH, whomI can be honest with. I love that he gets more upset about stupid comments than me!

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  • Dutchie
    Dutchie Member Posts: 112
    edited June 2012

    This might sound strange because I do understand what a few of you have said about how annoying it is when people complain about their petty little problems in front of you. All I can think is, I would trade places with you any day.



    But it's equally annoying to me when my friends refuse to complain about work/family/kids/etc. saying "my problems are nothing compared to your cancer." it's not a contest and I just want a normal friendship where I can be a good listener and both of us can bitch about little stuff that bugs us. I try to tell them, your problems are real to you no matter how small, and even though they may not be as serious as mine it doesn't mean they don't count.



    I guess it just makes me feel excluded and worse about my own situation. Thanks for letting me vent!



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  • camillegal
    camillegal Member Posts: 16,882
    edited June 2012

    Everyone here has said pretty much what we've all heard too ugh---One person said to me whatever u do don't let them take u'r breasts....I said why (I'm older) the restaurant and playground have closed along time ago. They have betrayed me now so they're gone.

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  • GrandmaV
    GrandmaV Member Posts: 1,267
    edited June 2012

    I'm sick and tired of friends who stop talking when I walk in and have sad faces, but try to hide it and look cheery.   Also of feeling alone, because everyone acts like I'm contagious.    People telling me stories of someone they knew who died of bc.   

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  • kyliet
    kyliet Member Posts: 687
    edited June 2012

    GrandmaV I am also feeling like violence towards the next person who tells me all the people they know who died of BC. It is like they need to win some competition.

    I was stunned about the so called friend who said 'at least you're not dead'. 

    Also the comment 'everyone gets BC these days' as though that's supposed to make me feel better.  

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  • Sleep
    Sleep Member Posts: 33
    edited June 2012

    I here you ladies, it does not help when people put their foot in their mouth. I have a sister who understands and she lives out of state but oh! So loving and caring she has been to me . I ask one thing for all the pain that BC causes for all people who have had and still suffering I ask my heavenly father in the name of Jesus. PLease take the pain away. Good night ladies.

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  • barbiecorn
    barbiecorn Member Posts: 437
    edited June 2012

    Has anyone very close to you said something that hurt without realizing it.  How do you handle that? 

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  • GrandmaV
    GrandmaV Member Posts: 1,267
    edited June 2012
    barbiecorn, I haven't figured that one out myself.  Depending on the severity of the comment, I either start crying, if it's very hurtful(which makes them feel bad), or just try ignore the comment and put on a happy face.  I don't think either one is a solution, but that's what happens.
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