What is the BEST things to hear??

I liked it best when people would ask me how I was doing in a way that told me they really wanted to hear my honest answer. When dealing with BC patients, listening is a more important skill than talking. I disliked when said that they knew I would be all right. Really? Then they knew something I still do not know. I also disliked when people said they were glad my cancer experience was over now. Once you have had cancer, the experience is never over.

I agree with Peggy; listening is best and letting them lead the topic of discussion. 

Also, don't say "if there is anything I can do, just ask."  Just do.  I had friends make me muffins and drop them off, drop off fruit or brownies (yum!), make meals they can eat or freeze for later, set up a meal calendar (on care calendar) for everyone to sign up while I was on chemo (awesome, since the smell of food cooking wasn't good especially on the day of chemo), giving me gift cards to local take out places for my family, txting me or calling me daily or on the day of treatment txting me on the way or during infusion, several cards through out  chemo saying they were thinking of me!, emails.  One neighbor and his son stacked our cord of wood that was dropped off in our driveway while we were out one day!  That was so awesome!  So, just do what you do well!  Anything is greatly appreciated!  Oh, and don't stay too long if they aren't up for it.  We get tired really easily especially during active treatment.   

When my fallen-out hair began to grow back in tiny curls (from waist-long hair), I thought I looked old and ridiculous.  But my mother LOVED my short hair.  She was just dazzled by it, stunned is a good word, and each time I'd see her she would ALWAYS say something about how crazy she was about my hair.  Made me feel sooooo good.