Too early for April 2012 mastectomy?

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  • valerie0118
    valerie0118 Member Posts: 126
    edited May 2012

    I'm having problems with all bras too because the bands are too tight or roll and put to much pressure right at the drain site (drains are all removed but still tender) and across the area where the alloderm is under my non-boob.  I did get some of the front snap sports bras and have left the bottom snaps undone and that helped for a while.  I even bought two new sports bras one size up (40 instead of 38) and with wider bands but still have discomfort.  Every hour or so I just place my fingers under the band and hold it out for a few minutes and that seems to help.  The PS said to ice when I had pain to and that gives temporary pain relief.

    Last night because of the mild discomfort I was feeling with the sports bra on, I slept without one.  I thought this would relieve the pain....it didn't.  I guess I just have to get used to it for a while as it is my body healing.  I got up this morning.....iced.....and popped two extra strength tylenols.   And tomorrow I go in for re-excision and the process begins again on the left side where pain has been minimal....I'm patiently waiting for the end of this current journey!    

  • Mardibra
    Mardibra Member Posts: 1,111
    edited May 2012

    Oh Valerie....that sucks. Nothing worse than being in pain. Good luck with the re excision.

  • lisamarie68
    lisamarie68 Member Posts: 1,235
    edited May 2012

    Valerie sorry to hear about all of that , i understand it though. and best wishes on thr re excision 

  • CityFi
    CityFi Member Posts: 95
    edited May 2012

    Glad to read that Colombiana and Lisamarie had great patholgoy reports. I wish I could say the same. Ah, nothing horrible really but slightly different than what we had hoped immediately after the surgery which was only the best.  One node did have cancer, but it was microscopic. I actually think this was good news because I'm of the mind that AND is going to be phased out, and I didn't want all of my nodes yanked out based on one so that's precisely what happened. There was so little cancer, it wasn't evident in the OR and, based on that, I got to keep my remaining, clear nodes and reduce my risk of lymphedema.  Chemo'll will get the rest of those suckers. 

    Mardibra, I'd love to hear about your chemo experience, and if that belongs on another thread, please show me the way.  Initially, I was to start a week from tomorrow with 4 cycles of Taxol and c-something-side, but that may change based on the pathology. I'm hoping not, but whatever tips and insight you have would be welcomed.

    There was some neoplasia near my nipple (which was spared), so my BS wants to keep on eye on it, but he's confident that not only will it live, there'll be no problems. My margins were negative but close so, again, good news just not as stellar as I'd like. Anyway, other than maybe more and/or aggressive chemo - and that's not a forgeone conclusion yet -- my standing treatment plan should be just fine. I mean, no chemo was never really an option. 

    In the end,  I choose to look at this as a confirmation of my decision to have mastectomy rather than attempt to conserve the breast with neoadjuvant chemo. And I kinda sorta was suprised when they told me all the nodes were clean. I didn't want them to find something, but I suspected the tumor making a run for the nodes so we got that sucker out in time! So the bright side to that is that I'm in tuned to my body and should trust my decision. Oh, and that a lot of the things I was doing in the almost over three months between dx and surgery were effective. So, yeah, not the best news but overwhelmingly affirming. 

  • Dianarose
    Dianarose Member Posts: 2,407
    edited May 2012

    Has anyone heard from Bellamarie?

  • GmaNiki
    GmaNiki Member Posts: 42
    edited May 2012

    Vballmom, yes I had a drain in and it was removed at about day 16 after surgery. But I was feeling so good and just did too much. the incision opened and it was like a running faucet of drainage. When the drain was removed I was under 10 per 24 hours for 3 days.

    Trying to keep a  bandage of any kind on the wound is really difficult, especially when it was draining so much. When it was really open and we had to pack the wound I was using 4 4x4 gauze pads and an 8x10 ABD pad and had to change at least once an hour. The tape was just really tearing my skin up and I was having to change my clothes several times a day also because of leakage. Once it slowed down and the infection cleared up we no longer had to pack the wound and I changed to maxi pads which have helped considerably with the leakage onto my clothes. With the maxipads I have been wearing spanx that holds everything in place, but they sure can get warm!!!

    Today was the best day for drainage, only used 4 pads. But the wound is closing and no sign of infection again. Will see the PS next Tuesday and hope he will allow me to return to work. Talked to my boss today and he told me that when I have the dr ok to return to let him know and he will schedule me with the company they use to make sure I really can return. I talked to him about the restrictions I still have and he said he knows the company will not allow me to work with an open wound.

    Anyway when they say to take it easy that is exactly what you should do, I tried housework, laudry and cooking and really messed up my recovery.

  • Mardibra
    Mardibra Member Posts: 1,111
    edited May 2012

    CitiFi - happy to share my chemo experience.  Honestly, it wasnt as bad as I had imagined it would be.  I did 4 dose dense (every two weeks) AC and 4 Taxol.  The AC was supposed to be the bad stuff and hard to get through.  It wasnt that bad for me.  They give you drugs to deal with the SE's (nausea, low white blood cell count).  I worked from the chair on TX day and never missed a day of work.  Taxol was supposed to be the easy stuff.  Everyone does well on that.  Well, I had a bit of a problem with Taxol.  Had some bad muscle pain in my legs and therefore, only ended up taking 3 TX's.  But it worked because the MX pathology was really good....very little disease.  Hair started falling right on schedule on days 12-15.  It became pretty messy with hair all over the place so i buzzed it to about 1/8th of an inch and started wearing Esmarelda (wig).  

    My advice...drink tons of water the day before, the day of, and the day after TX.  Water helps a lot.  

    Everyone's experience is different so take it slow, take it easy, and work through it as best you can.  After you get through the first TX you will have an idea how to adjust your schedule and routine for the remaining TX's.  Good luck!

  • bellamarie
    bellamarie Member Posts: 62
    edited May 2012

    Hi Everyone sorry for not posting sooner. everything went well. i only had one boob done and ps filled it with i think 260 ccs it looks good but kind of out of shape.. have appt with ps tormorrow hopefull i will get drains out.. down to like 20 ccs in 1 and 5 in the other.

    The only issue i am having is not pooping so much.. just a little ..but feel pretty good hurts to move sometime, get up and down and sleep i love sleeping on my stomach guess i wont be able to to that anymore.. cant wait to shower and wear deoderent.

    path report came back good nothing in nodes.. just dcis... thank god go to bs on 5-21 to discuss my future plans....

    i am so glad all this is behind me and i am on the other sider... hugs

  • lisamarie68
    lisamarie68 Member Posts: 1,235
    edited May 2012

    Bella great news ... I too had the poop problem .. damm pain meds so i cut myself off .. im 4 days free of them stomach issues solved .. glad everythign went well

  • bellamarie
    bellamarie Member Posts: 62
    edited May 2012

    i am trying to do that too.. and the stool softener doesnt do squat. lol how r u feeling.. do you have tightness when getting up and down and bend over

  • Mardibra
    Mardibra Member Posts: 1,111
    edited May 2012

    I doubled up on the stool softeners...took two every time I took a pain pill and every time I ate.  No problem!  Although, can you overdose on stool softener?  

  • lisamarie68
    lisamarie68 Member Posts: 1,235
    edited May 2012

    bella i had every laxative at pharmacy nothing helped ... so for me i had to quit pain meds besides the nausea and throwing up .. and im tight all the time , i have TE's . they suck :(

  • bellamarie
    bellamarie Member Posts: 62
    edited May 2012

    Lisa

    its such a horrible tightness.. i hope the inplants are better

  • markat
    markat Member Posts: 909
    edited May 2012

    City definitely join a thread for the month you start chemo. That's how I met Mardibra, we started chemo together in December. I agree with Mardi, water is so important with chemo. And everyone goes through it differently. Read the tips for the type of chemo you end up on and best wishes to you. I wish I would have stayed a little more active during treatment but just taking care of my 7 and 8 year olds wiped me out.



    Bella congratulations! My bowels finally are normal. I tried every softener and I think warm prune juice worked the best and moving around.



    Hope everyone is doing well!

  • adgirl5
    adgirl5 Member Posts: 81
    edited May 2012

    The main thing if having surgery after neoadjuvant therapy is to find a "sweet spot." -- You don't want to wait too long, yet you need to recover from chemo.. and get those blood counts up to avoid complications, but not too long to realize the hopefully good effects of chemo.  3-5 weeks after last chemo cycle I've heard is a good general rule of thumb.

  • bellamarie
    bellamarie Member Posts: 62
    edited May 2012

    Thanks for the tip i will definately try warm prune juice.. ew

  • longislandmom
    longislandmom Member Posts: 248
    edited May 2012

    Citi- sorry the path wasn't what you had hoped for.  this is such a roller coaster!  thinking of you! 

    Bellamarie - Glad u r recovering and so happy for you re: your path!

    Lisamarie- YES - TEs suck!  tired of having a boa constrictor around my chest! and so crazy about the fact that my left arm is so stuck!

  • vballmom
    vballmom Member Posts: 426
    edited May 2012

    Stool softeners did nothing for me.  Miralax worked like a dream, but I had also added dried prunes and apricots by then.

    CitiFi - I had only one node with a macromet and did not have a AND either.  I will be having radiation despite the mastectomy. 

    GmaNiki - oh goodness!  My APRN decided to do a compression wrap on me after removing the drain. I guess your experience is probably why. 

  • Dianarose
    Dianarose Member Posts: 2,407
    edited May 2012

    Bellamarie- glad to hear from you. I was getting worried. I have been eating raisins and it has been working. The tissue expanders do get better and I felt much better after she filled the right side. The left side is still painful if I move just right. No fills in that side until after treatments. Yell 

    Lisamarie- How long do you have to wait after your last fill before you can do the exchange? If I have to do chemo and then radiation I will have these suckers in me until next year and only one will be filled. It sucks, but I will just have to get over myself.

  • Dianarose
    Dianarose Member Posts: 2,407
    edited May 2012

    For all who had nodes removed I would strongly suggest going to an LE therapist. I have been going and what a difference it has made. I had major cording and it is just about gone. The pain is gone too. She said most doctors don't send you to one until you have a major problem, but she likes to prevent getting to that point. I have pretty much full range after 4 weeks post-op.

  • longislandmom
    longislandmom Member Posts: 248
    edited May 2012

    Diana rose-  i only had 2 nodes removed in my left breast-- one in my right.  but my left arm is awful and locked.  do you think a LE therapist is necessary in my case?  or just a PT?

  • lisamarie68
    lisamarie68 Member Posts: 1,235
    edited May 2012

    Longisland , me too my right arm is more locked than my left and of course thats the arm I use most .. i can freely move my left arm ..All i can say and will never say any different is the TE's suck , i had my second night of not sleeping last night Yell

    DianaRose,  I dont have any idea . I know Tuesday the 15th is my first fill, I am still undecided about keeping them. I was never told how many fills I will need and when the exchange may be . I think im a big baby :) even if i try to think about when its over i may look good . I hate feeling this way .. my PS also gave me the okay to do whatever i wanted one week post op when he took my drains out so I have no idea .. 

    I feel lost , I guess I have lots of ? for him on tuesday ...

    Prune juice ewww.. cant imagine .. mirilax is one that i did not try .. im trying to stick with tylenol 

    Gentle Hugs to all  

  • Dianarose
    Dianarose Member Posts: 2,407
    edited May 2012

    Lisamarie- I hope you don't give up. It really does get better. Maybe if you go to an LE therapist it would help. I am 4 weeks out and hardly notice them now and you will look great afterwards. It's the only prize we get out of BC. I refuse to give in to it. I am a big baby right now about facing chemo. I can't seem to accept it. It just pisses me off. It scares the hell out of me too. My son turned 13 today and when I looked at his face while he was sleeping this morning I got so sad. I will have to just suck it up and do what ever this doc in Boston today says I need to do.

  • lisamarie68
    lisamarie68 Member Posts: 1,235
    edited May 2012

    Dianarose, I feel for you . I don't know what i would do if my pathology report came back with anything more. I cant imagine  with anymore . you are a strong one it seems . I know I did what was best for me . the BS told me my right breast the trouble one was very active and the decision to have the bmx was a good one . I know I complain but i am hurting . how do u get a LE therapist ? I am out of work and have no money . I am also fearing loosing my apartment due to no cash $$ ... i guess its all so much on me .. being alone without help is hard to , im the one for everything bills and my life ... :( oh my im sorry im a big baby 

  • Dianarose
    Dianarose Member Posts: 2,407
    edited May 2012

    Liasmarie- My insurance is paying for the LE therapist. My surgeon set it up. I fear losing my job and house if I can't work full time during treatments. I don't have private insurance because where I work doesn't offer it. I had to swollow my pride and get Maine care, which is state insurance. I am blessed to have it. My lx was over 15k and all I have to pay is 27.00. I would be dead without it. I know it hurts, but you really can do this. Just make up your mind not to let it beat you.

  • Dianarose
    Dianarose Member Posts: 2,407
    edited May 2012

    Heading out to Boston. Wish me luck. My BF's driving will scare the hell out of me. Bringing my Xanax for the drive there.

  • lisamarie68
    lisamarie68 Member Posts: 1,235
    edited May 2012

    Good Luck Diana rose , I also work private duty and no insurance here , when i got diagnosed with the cancer , ny has a special cancer insurance also through the state , without it i also would not have been able to be treated and my PS dosent even take the insurance I have no clue how he is getting paid .. I must look into that then maybe with ps on tuesday .. best wishes and soft gentle hugs  xoxoxo

  • vballmom
    vballmom Member Posts: 426
    edited May 2012

    Good luck Dianarose - traffic shouldn't be too bad now!

  • Mardibra
    Mardibra Member Posts: 1,111
    edited May 2012

    Good luck Dianarose...keep us posted.

  • FLislander
    FLislander Member Posts: 243
    edited May 2012

    Bella

    The miralax worked for me also, it is pharmacist and dr recommended

    I did warm prune juice also but miralax is what worked!

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