Fuzzy's Romp Room

What's going on with the boards??? I came back from my appointment and its changed. Its going to take some time to get used to.

I hated the plastic surgeon. He brought out the implants and proceeded to tell me about them and then said that they don't hae them big enough for me. The left one would be smaller than the right one. He made no mention of reduction on the right. He went on and on, blah, blah, blah. He doesn't do what I wanted. I walked out. No further appointments were made with him. 

I don't know what I am going to do now. I hate the idea of having the surgery and not being reconstructed at the same time. I might have to do that. I'll curl up in my little hole and let the bugs eat me. 

Thanks everyone.

Veggy - so sorry that you didn't like the PS. Fortunately, there are tons out there. Did he come from a recommendation from your BS or MO? How can he say there aren't implants big enough? Have you seen that woman who is a 34 H??? I'd look for someone else and not stay with someone you're not comfortable with. Where in PA are you? We have a good family friend in south Jersey that had treatment in PA. I can ask her for a rec if you want.



Juice boy is laying next to me right now being so cute. He schleps this blanket with him everywhere (he calls it Nee). I washed it for him earlier and he's thanked me about 100 times already. 2 1/2 can be cute...



As for the new layout here, it's a million times better on my iPad than on my laptop. Guess I just need to log on from here from now on...

To You Fuzzy!

A toast to the Fuzz!!!!

A little late but here is a toast to you Fuzzy......



Cindy

Veggy sorry your ps didn't work out, but glad it was on the first appt rather than part way in. I hope you find the right one!!

Fuzzy fantastic that you have a plan and you feel great about it! I'll find something to raise for you

I need help. Long history with my oldest son. I had him young, wasn't around as much as I should have been. He's angry and hurt. He chose to hold on to it rather than deal with things. I know this sounds glossed over because I'm trying to keep it somewhat short. He has legitimate reasons to be upset about his childhood. A few weeks ago he graduated from Army boot camp. After all of the family got back from the trip he sent his wife to tell me that he is basically done with me. Last wednesday I find out my cancer is back (only been out of treatment for 6 weeks). Saturday his wife is told. Last night he calls and says he wants to get emergency leave to come back for a week and talk to me.

I am very confused about what to do. If he wants to just come out to see his wife and kids he can do that without seeing me. I don't think he gets that. If he wants to come out just to start a fight with me (his usual m.o.) I don't need that. If he wants to genuinely work towards things being better I want that. He never once asked how I was doing. I didn't hear any change in the way he treats me, it was all very cold. On the one hand I very much want him to come out. On the other I can't forget how they came out to "help take care of me" and then complained that I wasn't giving them enough attention and time while I was in treatment. It all turned out very bad.

I wish I could have hindsight now. If it's good I say yes. If it's bad I say no. Some of my family members are already saying no. Help?

NANCY THANK YOU DEAR FRIEND I'M CONNECTED. YEAH.

VEGGY I'LL SHUSH FROM HERE ON SWEETIE. WHATEVER YOU DECIDE LOVEY.IN YOUR POCKET

LAURENI'VE LOST TRACK 2ND DAY AND CALLED OFF?

ESSA SAW YOU WERE BACK , BUT I WAS DISCONNECTED. GLAD YOUR BACK

gAIL WE WILL SURVIVE IT, JUST HOLD HANDS AND SKIP AROUND THE ROMP ROOM, SINGING "WERE OFF TO SEE THE WIZARD"   AMY NOT APPLY , BUT IT WILL MAKE US FEEL LIKE KIDS AGAIN.

MPC----:)

NIXE TO BE HOME SAS

TERESA-MISSED YOUR POST I THINK ABOUT RETURN, BUT SORRY IT SUCKS.

NANCY WHICH CHACTER ARE YOU. I'M THE SCARROW.I ADORED IT WHEN IT CAME OUT IN COLOR. FINALLY GOT TO UNDERSTAND THE PHRASE"THAT'S A HORSE OF A DIFFERENT COLOR" LOVED THE EMRALD IN THE eMERALD CITY

GOING TO CHECK THE REARS ON OMG.

My dear TERE, I haven't had to straighten out a relationship with a son or daughter, but I have had to fix some with other relatives.  Since you asked for help, I will try to give it.

My thinking is for you to write a page or two letter to your son.  I still have a letter from my folks sent more than 30 years ago that meant a lot to me, so there can be great value in a simple letter.  You can tell him perhaps that when you were young, you were immature, and while you were an awful person to act so negligent towards him when he was growing up, you nevertheless loved him with all your heart, you adore everything about him, and you are so very proud of the fine young man he has become.  Then put a brief memory of you and him that he may recall, that was very pleasant and comforting.  Explain if you had to do it all over again, you would have most surely spent more time with him, and you will forever regret the moments you missed with him and the hurt it must have caused him.  And then say as much as you would love to see him, it would be just fine if he would continue with his admirable career as a soldier, and you will see him during his next normal break.  Perhaps urge him to pour out his heart as far as his feelings go in a return letter, or save it for when his next leave is since you're not planning on dying quite yet, or if he would just as soon indeed be done with you, that you understand, as much as it saddens you, because his best interests are more important to you than anything you could say to try to turn his heart.  Still, offer to go for a walk together, just you and him, next time he's in town, walks are so healing to both the sick and the hurt.  "I love you, son," or however you sign off would be good.

I'm a writer, made a career of it with newspapers, words come so easy to me.  I'm always for giving everything I got to someone (unless I'm pissed off!!!) as the way to approch most complex problems, it lifts people up to what I think of as a higher spiritual level, where things are so much clearer (the air gets thinner higher up and makes us laugh).  Hey, and so sorry you gotta go thru this cancer routine all over again.  Whatssup with that!  How dare this disease knock down your door and wreck your day!  But I look at it this way, despite the fearsomeness of the situation, that an errant cancer cell made good on an escape, but by golly, you and your forces will hunt it down like the dog that it is.  Of course, I love dogs, but apparently sayings like, "They treated me like a dog," came from a time when people not only shot each other in broad daylight on main street, but also shot their dogs.  WHATEVER AM I SAYING????  Smile.  Later, GG

Teresa, I like Dogeyed's approach. If he means to be hurtful, you don't need it to be in person right now. If he means to be supportive, you will have acknowledged that and suggested a time/place where he can do that. In the meantime, he may realize that no one feels their childhood was ideal. 

Whatever you decide, please put yourself first. You need all your energy to fight BC. It really sucks to have a recurrence. (((HUGS))) 

theresa, You are making the right decision. Concentrate on you right now. You can't fix or change how your son feels. He has to own his feelings and dumping on you will not make it any better for you or him. Write a letter if you want to and let him know that you can't deal with CA and his anger together. Best of luck to you.

Ugh! I need to vent a second.

I'm assuming the rest of you are like me and since your initial cancer diagnosis you tend to worry about pretty much any symptom that shows up. Well anyway, I'm having an anxiety attack, and I'm pretty sure it is because of this irritated mole-like thing on my back. I had 3rd degree burns on my back in 2009 -- a tiki torch spewed its contents onto my back. 

So this is ridiculous. I just need to call the doc tomorrow and schedule an appt or ask for a referral to a dermatologist. Worry worry worry. It really feels like an angry spot.

Dunesleeper, That really is a low blow. We don't need anything else wrong with our bodies. Please don't have an anxiety attack until you know what it is. Sending good wishes that it is just an irritated spot. ((((HUGS)))

Dunesleeper, If your dermatologist is like mine he/she will be happy to look at your back. I worried about two moles that looked different to me and she said they were okay and to call or come back anytime. She recognized that I will worry and gave me permission to not have skin issues as part of the mix. She wants me to concentrate on being well and keeping well. Good luck.

Nancy- it was an education about sight loss. It's been since march 27th since i've been able to read anything.  Anesthesia -hopefully --induced short term memory loss, not permanent by brain surgery. But that's why I went after the type of sx I had ---less disruption of brain function b/c of less manipulation of the brain. Anesthesia and chemo have such an affect on the brain. Can last for months and longer, particularly as we age.  I joked that from 2009 to 2011 I read the same book many times. Here I am very happy at 1:44 am writing away.  After all the anesthesia's of 2009, i couldn't read a paragraph with comprehension, then as time progressed, it might be several paragraph's before the words meant nothing. Took perhaps till this year before good comprehension for a long term article to be absorbed. Bummer-----some reading this are going to say WTF , no  one told me that, well ------well documented for anesthesia--particularly studied with the advent of Coronary -Artery By-Pass surgery in the 1970's .  So, the average BC  with recon patient goes through 4 sx's . The brains screwed for quite awhile. Then if you add chemo on top of that-----duh. Then drugs to control anxiety and depression b/c of everything that messed with the brain--we get "DUCK SOUP"( the old Marx movie). Does anyone care -----other than us ---nope------if you work they make your life hell, b/c they haven't got a clue. Societal understanding------sucks.