Breast Cancer Survivors Need To Let Go To Boost Quality Of Life
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Thank you cp418 for your continuous posting of the most recent news, it's very much appreciated
I totally agree with this study as I feel much better now that I have 'downsized' my goals and dreams and accepted (almost...) the fact that I will never realize most of them. Reality check !
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I don't get what is news about this study. Life is all about resetting goals when circumstances changes. In my twenties, I learned I was not going to be a college professor, and entered the world of business. Talk about a place for goal setting!
My goals have changed many times since. My latest challenge is taking my career to a new place.
I will say that it took about a year following active treatment for my dreams to come back. I was too busy "recovering" to look ahead. Plus, I had the hairstyle from hell, so didn't recognize the woman I saw in the woman - a strange sense of dislocation. Then suddenly, things started to fall back into place.
I don't think we encourage former breast cancer patients to set the bar high enough. I am greatly looking forward to working on my list of cool stuff. I do not feel in any way limited by this experience which I would describe as more of a "life detour" than anything else.
I am saying all this coming off a string of career successes. Last year was so painful as I tried to work through a new direction. Nothing to do with the BC experience, but more a rethinking of my skills and talents.
Anyway, now I love my new look. It was beyond time to ditch the long hair anyway. I am fit and healthy. My trashed ankle is healing so I should be able to hike this summer, not just cycle. I have new, exciting friends.
I would urge anyone on the other side to take this opportunity to SET NEW DREAMS. Then figure out how to do them (goal setting). I do agree with the article about exercise, not for just the physical, but because it keeps my brain sharp.
Going back to the article, I think they could take the findings and apply to a comparable group of women who had not had breast cancer. Because it really is about adapting as you learn from life. Otherwise, you don't see the doors that open and stay mired in the past.
We should all expect better from our lives. - Claire
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I've seen some stupid studies, but sorry, this one trumps all. Money and time well spent....idiots. I shouldn't have read this....
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I agree with Claire and Gracie 100%! Maud, why do you think you won't realize "most of them"?
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Because unlike a few women here, I am struggling daily with extreme SEs from treatment which qualified me for disability. I cannot even trust myself to find my way out of a store !! Brain damaged and physically handicapped that's why
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Frankly after getting back Dexa Scan results still showing osteopenia after 6 Zometa infusions over the past 3 years --- I could just scream if someone tells me to get a better attitude. I post these articles but I don't write them and ceratinly do not agree with with some of them. This one did not go over well with me.
At 5'2" 128# so I do not consider myself obese and never have been. I take daily walks 2+ miles and lots of daily exercise working on a farm plus full time job. Very active and have been for years to the point of being worn out on teh go all the time. Enough already. Eat mostly organic and take all those expensive supplements. Piss on this disease. (I'm being polite too.) Yeah --- chemo brain too....
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Unless the women they talked to had the goal of being a couch potato before BC, I don't understand the point and conclusion of this study.
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cp418, "piss on this disease"....very well put. Edited to not offend those who find this study informative.
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Sorry, but what do you think psychologists, psychiatrists, etc. get paid for ?
"Once the self-imposed pressure of now unrealistic goals was removed, individuals' quality of life improved, as did their level of physical activity"
The above has definitely worked for me and I find comfort in its validation.
Thanks
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What stood out to me was the recommendation of "150 minutes of .... excercise" a week. That's an average of 30 minutes a day, 5 days a week (or whatever configuration works for you). Uhm, my last understanding was that was the basic minimum exercise recommendation for ALL folks, whether or not they have had breast cancer. And, as others have said so well, life is all about resetting goals and dreams and priorities, anyway. I just find this a weird study with questionable motives.
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I do think BC has humbled me. I'm early stage & I have a good prognosis. But there is a 10% chance I won't be here in 10 years(the worst of the odds I've been given). 7% from BC & 3% for other causes. As far as goals go, can't really set any "exercise" goals because of all the wear & tear I put my body thru during the years proceeding BC. I just can't push myself any harder, my body revolts. I've never been over weight. I am trying to find sedentary things I like to do &it's been a challenge. This started before BC.
If I found myself disabled by treatments, it would be hard & difficult for me to cope. I would be trying to redefine my life & I'm sure that would include goals. The article is fine. Just not applicable to some of us early stagers that got thru realitively unscathed.
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Maud, it sounds like you have found some goals that make you happy NOW and I think that was the point of the article.
What I don't like about articles like this one is that it lumps all breast cancer survivors into one clump. There are millions of us. I highly doubt that one small study will apply to all of the millions of us.
I will say, though, that I have done the same as Maud, not necessarily because of physical limitations, although certainly I am changed physically, but because there were stressors in my life that I believe contributed to my diagnosis. I am changing my goals to be more content with life in general, to do things that I enjoy and love and not make all my goals work-oriented. That doesn't mean I am giving up. Completely the contrary.
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