What Cancer Can't Take From Us!!!!!!

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faithfulheart
faithfulheart Member Posts: 544
edited June 2014 in Stage III Breast Cancer

Ok,  I have been thinking, reading posts and wondering alot....................... We have all been given a REALLY tough deck of cards,  this we all know . We have to make treatment decsions,  figure out who we are after treatment,   MAN....... thats a hard one.............Eat healthy,  spinach, kale,......... white mushrooms,  great cancer fighte.FYI . Excersize.....................opps having a hard time with that one,  and I know it's so good for me... .Here's what I want to know..................Lets tell each other what makes us happy, things that cancer can not take from us. I will start,.......... Cancer can not take my will to live!...............  It can't take my love for my dh and my beautiful children!!!!.....................  It can't take my laughter!!!.................... although it will try,.... it can't!!!!  It can not!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It will try to

 scare you,................. but, you do not have to except the fear..................It can't take today, and.................. for me personally,............. it can't take my love for great food, and yes,......... I will induldge that with a great glass of red wine,............. and thoughs of you that know me know that I love my red wine!!!!!.................  It will not take that from me!!!!............I DON'T CARE WHAT THE STUDIE'S SHOW!!!!!........................... I love dressing up............., hair extensions,...... looking fabulous,...... not all the time of course,  but when I do............., I look in the mirror and say........................too hell with you Cancer,.................... I am lookin good..........!!!!!!!!

I love funny movies,...... It can't take that away,.. DANCING,.... maybe not as good as I used to be but,( still fun.............!!!!!............ Cancer can't still my JOY!!!!!!!!!!!............. I  WON'T LET IT..............It can't take away all the beautiful memorie's we have had through out our whole life,.... and you know there have been so many...................!!!!....... It can't take my creativity,..... I am an interior decorator,.... I still love it!!...... Most of all it can't take from me my faith....., my everlasting hope, Oh it will try................., really hard...........BUT, IT WILL NOT WIN!!!!!!

Share with us sister's ....................what Cancer can't take from you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.................

Love you all so much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! xoxoxoxoxoxoxo

Steph

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited March 2012

    Steph I love your words.....and Red Wine too  

    Cancer can't take the feeling I get when I'm standing on the beach and looking at the ocean and breathing in that wonderful sea mist smell that is so intoxicating to my senses still.

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    Barb

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  • faithfulheart
    faithfulheart Member Posts: 544
    edited March 2012

    WAY TO GO BARB.......!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!....YOU ROCK...............................!!!!!!!!

    ITS THE TRUTH!!!!

    Love you!!!!!!!

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  • Momof2inME
    Momof2inME Member Posts: 683
    edited March 2012
    Cancer cannot take the wonderful warm feeling I get when I make my son giggle with belly raspberries. He is 20 months and it is the best sound in the world. Even for a split second it makes me forget I have bc.Smile
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  • faithfulheart
    faithfulheart Member Posts: 544
    edited March 2012

    Thanks Barb and Momo,

    I wish more people would tell us about the great things in there live's, that this disiease can not take from them!!!!   It could be really uplifting to us all................................xoxo

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  • DCMom
    DCMom Member Posts: 624
    edited March 2012

    Cancer cannot take away...

    the pride I feel watching my 20 year old run down a Division I college lacrosse field,

    the excitement of seeing my daughter win her U10 soccer tournament "see what the medal says?  Champion!"

    the smiles watching my dog chase after my son at the dog park, tongue hanging out (and yes this includes dog and son)

    The way my son and daughter light up when they are horseback riding

    The way my husband is still fits me exactly in his embrace after of 24 years

    Wine, Ocean Breezes, Forest Hikes, Memories, and absolutely anything I won't let it take!!! 

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  • diana50
    diana50 Member Posts: 2,134
    edited March 2012

    hi steph

    i have had to think about this for a few days; there are so many things that actually have been added to my life since cancer diagnosis.  see my list below

    1. feeling of joy and gratefulness for each day given to me; i love the smells of the flowers in the spring and the mighty beauty of the mountains and valley where i live

    2. appreciation for the simple aspects to life; like opening a can of pop or frying an egg

    3. my peeps.  i love my peeps and my animals

    4, prayers and faith; my relationship with God

    5.the health i have now; i can pretty much do what i want (cycling, walking...etc)

    there are more but this is a pretty good list.

    Cool

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  • DCMom
    DCMom Member Posts: 624
    edited March 2012

    Cancer can't take

    The pride I feel watching my 20 year old run down a Division I college Lacrosse field

    The Joy I see in my daughter's face after winning a U9 soccer tournament (See it says Champion not finalist!")

    The laughter watching my black lab chase my 11 yr old boy tongues hanging out (dog and boy)

    The way I still fit perfectly into my husbands arms, even after 24 years

    Ocean breezes, fine wine, forest trails, fresh rain smells, and anything else that I refuse to let it take!!! 

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  • lkc
    lkc Member Posts: 1,203
    edited March 2012

    seeing my special little grand daughter born

     , who for many reasons was not supposed to be!
    life is GOOD!

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  • FilterLady
    FilterLady Member Posts: 407
    edited March 2012

    Cancer cannot take:

    1.  My positive attitude that I am beating this.

    2. The warm fuzzy feeling I get when my grandbabies say "I love you, Mamaw"!

    3.  The love and support of my family and friends who have kept me in their prayers.

    Cancer gave me:

    1.  A chance to reconnect with high school friends who are cheering me on.

    2.  A new attitude, I have learned not to let the "little things" stress me out.

    3. The strength to put one foot in front of the other even when I was scared to death.  I am much stronger than I thought I was.

    Thanks for this thread.

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  • pupfoster1
    pupfoster1 Member Posts: 1,484
    edited March 2012

    Love it Steph!

    Cancer cannot, will not take away my spirit!

    It can also not take away the fact that I am a big kid at heart and that I love sports cars and loud rock music!

    It cannot take away this support system I have grown to love dearly!

    Sharon Wink 

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  • faithfulheart
    faithfulheart Member Posts: 544
    edited March 2012

    I have tears running down my face right now!!!!!!  Sharon, I love rock music too!!!!!

    I love Elton John, My most favorite song is ( How wonderful life is while your in the world!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    That one I dedicate to all my strong sisters here!!!  Diana, what a list, you love your life, you are blessed!!!!  We are so blessed by you.......DC, I love,  and I quote, " How I still fit perfectly into my husbands arms after twenty two years"  I feel the same way, this is to be cherished!!!!!

    I love laying in bed with my kids and watching American Idol!!!!!!!!!!!! Holding them and singing along, I love steven tyler, so damn cute after all these years!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    I love all of you, try taken that one away!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Come on sistah's keep these comin, I feel joy from all of you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Kick some BC Booty!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! xoxoxoxox

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  • Karina121293
    Karina121293 Member Posts: 370
    edited March 2012

    Great thread Steph !!! It's really time for some appreciation....

    Cancer can't take my love to life. Very simple. I just LOVE LIVING !!!!!!

    It can't take the joy of doing regular simple things. I did the spring cleaning for three days and got that buzz of satisfaction. 

    It can't take my pride for my children. Seeing them healthy, motivated, successful, caring makes my heart swell.

    It can't take my sense of humour and the RIGHT to laugh and make others laugh. 

    Cancer cannot take the love of my husband... In only makes it stronger....

    The love my extended family, where I still feel needed and loved...

    Oh, and of course good wine and good food !!!

     No way to give this disease a chance..... 

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  • faithfulheart
    faithfulheart Member Posts: 544
    edited March 2012

    Ok , it's friday night,  it's the weekend, and the big C  will not take away the fun I have with hubby on sat and sun. mornin,  if you no what I mean!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  We are weekend sex people, the kids put a bit of a kink into it during the week!!!!!!!!!! LOL, I made a funny, Kink get it , ha ha...bla..bla

    Ok, sister's send me your prayers and good thoughts, I have a biopsy scheduled for tuesday morning on uterus, I had some thickening.........not to worried just could use a few extra prayers...........

    It's not going to spoil this weekend for me though,  I just won't let it!!!!!!!!!!!!  I feel a funny movie comin on!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Love to all......

    Lets here more great stuff, lets fight this SOB....... Lets win!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Steph

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  • Karina121293
    Karina121293 Member Posts: 370
    edited March 2012

    Steph, absolutely love your spirit !!!!! Very uplifting !!!!

    Sending  you my prayers for the biopsy. I have a feeling you will be fine, trust me !

    Enjoy your weekend and make the most of it. They are special for me and DH too. We love to chill with a glass of wine, candles and a good movie. And no way cancer can take it from us.... 

    Hugs and prayers to you my friend. 

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  • Momof2inME
    Momof2inME Member Posts: 683
    edited April 2012
    It's a day by day for me lately. My bones hurt beyond comprehension this weeknd from the taxol. But I am making tie-dyed cupcakes with my 4 year old this morning. She is wearing her fairy wings and a giant pink and yellow flower kids apron. She has told me twice "this is the best day ever mommy". Now cancer absolutely cannot ever take that moment from me.....Smile
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  • jennyboog
    jennyboog Member Posts: 1,322
    edited April 2012

    BC can't take away that warm feeling I get when I hear my girls playing and laughing together.  It can't take away me jumping on the trampoline or roasting marshmellows with them.  It can't take away the other day when me and the oldest got our nails & hair done together.  It can't take away my BCO sisters support and encouragement.  Great topic Steph. 

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  • DCMom
    DCMom Member Posts: 624
    edited April 2012

    Loving this post.  Steph chuckled over you puns and then turned around and teared up with Momof2's egg dying.  Cancer can't take away the moments of laughter or tears of happiness over just about anything. Thought it was bad during prgnancy when I could cry over a McDonald's or AT&T commercial, but now I can tear up over the most mundane cartoon.  I've learned to embrace these emotional swells.  I am connected...and the glass of wine after a 4 mile run has me at a complete relaxation.  Loving that and cancer you can't take away any of this! Ha!  It's the moments that count.  Loving family, enjoying friends, and drinking fine wine.  Amazing how little wine it takes for me to feel a bit looped...Take it for what it's worth.  BC you lose, because I am enjoying the moments!!!!

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  • DCMom
    DCMom Member Posts: 624
    edited April 2012

    Oh and Steph,

    Tamoxifen does a number on the uterus and mine was enlarged.  They scared the pants off me with their "this is not normal", but it wasn't until later they explained it was a common occurence with Tamoxifen.  Every doc from now on will treat you with kid gloves and quite often have the attitude that everything is a red flag.  I get tired of the "I won't touch that" or extra scans that never would have occured pre BC.  We are scary to them because they just don't know we have already beat the crap out of our BC.  Stay positive it is probably nothing! 

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  • financegirl
    financegirl Member Posts: 114
    edited April 2012

    Absolutely we've  been dealt a deck of tough cards.  There is absolutely NOTHING good about cancer whatsoever but it sure has pushed me to view life so differently now.  Cancer has proven that nothing can take away my zest for life, even this horrible disease.  Cancer has actually pushed me into working on my bucket list sooner rather than later.  I think it would be much worse to be 25 years down the road, too old to do some of the things I want to experience and have that whole woulda coulda shoulda mentality. 

    I am on Arimidex and the bone/joint pain some days is pretty rough.  Instead of crying about "woe is me" I choose to view it as the pain means the pill is working and if that's one of the things I must endure to avoid a recurrence, so be it.  May cancer be the loser here for all of us, and without the ability to take away our spirit.

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  • Karina121293
    Karina121293 Member Posts: 370
    edited April 2012

    Steph, just to wish you good luck for tomorrow. Prayers your way... Please let us know, how it goes.

    Hugs. 

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  • faithfulheart
    faithfulheart Member Posts: 544
    edited April 2012

    Karina........................Thank you for thinking of me, I am a little nervous, I will admit.  I have a scence of peace about it though.  What can I do right?  Better to be pro active, then not active at all, I guess!!!!!

    All of you are soooo amazing..... I love that in the midst of trying to live are lives under such  huge

    and challenging conditions,  you my sister's have all found reasons to live!!!  Really Well I might add!!!!

    You see, we hold the secret to the true meaning of life don't we.... we know how precious everyday is!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Thats a gift, in a really ugly box...........Love you alll xoxoxox

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  • Karina121293
    Karina121293 Member Posts: 370
    edited April 2012

    Steph, are you back from the biopsy??  I am not sure about the time zone difference between us, but wanted to check on you. We are right next to you and holding your hand....

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  • faithfulheart
    faithfulheart Member Posts: 544
    edited April 2012

     Karina.  I had my biopsy this morning , it was not as bad as I thought it would be... The Dr. said she was not to worried....She did say being on tamox can really mess with your uterus!!

    She said she would call me friday!!!!!  So I am in the waiting room, with a little xanax!!!!

    Thnaks for holding my hand...........I just am so blessed !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Steph

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  • Karina121293
    Karina121293 Member Posts: 370
    edited April 2012

    Steph, I am glad the biopsy is behind you now, and even happier, that your doctor is not too worried. Just keep repeating her words to get you through till Friday !!!! Two more days, my friend, and then the blessed peace of mind !!!!!! How we love it...

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  • Karina121293
    Karina121293 Member Posts: 370
    edited April 2012

    Steph, I am on your case !!!! LOL ...

    Hope you managed ok with the waiting. They should call you today, so please let me know, what they say. Meanwhile hugs and more prayers for good news!!!!!

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  • faithfulheart
    faithfulheart Member Posts: 544
    edited April 2012

    Hi Karina,  thanks for being on my case ,  it means alot!!!!!!  Well I did hear from the doc. she said that she got very little tissue from my uterus,  However what she did get was normal. She wants to shoot dye in there and take a better look to be 100% sure!! ! I guess its a pretty painful procedure, I am bimmed...... I would just rather have it out,  I don't want to go through these tests for the next 31/2 years.. Thats the time I have left on the tamox............. Test schduled for april 20th...........

    I am going to put it out of my mind,  I am not bleeding and that is really good she said, You know how I feel , just so tired of the dr.'s............ Thanks for caring , you are a sweetheart!!!!!!

    Happy Easter sister!!!!!!!!!!!! xoxox

    Steph

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  • Karina121293
    Karina121293 Member Posts: 370
    edited April 2012

    Hi Steph, I will take it as good news!!!! Though double checking won't hurt, as your doctor wants. And I know what you mean of being tired of docs. At least 20th is not that far. If I am allowed to give you a good advice- just have an ooph sometime, when you are ready. I don't regret having it done, at least one less thing to worry about. You know what I mean!!!!

    Happy Easter to you sister!!!!. Now try to relax and enjoy the Holiday with faith and peace.

    We are all here for each other. No doubt you would worry for anyone of us too...xxxx

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  • Karina121293
    Karina121293 Member Posts: 370
    edited April 2012

    Hi Steph. Have you been to doctors yet and how did the procedure go? Hope it wasn't painful. When will you hear from her?? Let us know. Praying for good news...

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  • faithfulheart
    faithfulheart Member Posts: 544
    edited April 2012

    Hi Karina, thank you for being so thoughtful..... I actually had a hystosonogram today, they found a polop. The DR. feels it is benign, However, to be sure she is going in and taking it out and will do a DNC, then send all to patholgy..............She said normally she would wait and watch, but, she wants to do the overly protective thing with me ..... YUK!!!!  Wish I had better news, i am kinda in a funk...

    I am sure all will be fine though. hope you are well,

    I will keep you posted...

    take care sweeti.................

    love, Steph

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  • Karina121293
    Karina121293 Member Posts: 370
    edited April 2012

    Steph, thanks for getting back. I hope you are not over stressed about it, because from my experience it's quite a normal thing for doctors to do. When I was going to have my total hysterectomy/ ooph at the same time with mastectomy, I had fibrosis in uterus, doctors knew that from the US. But still they took a sample before the surgery, then another thorough check after. So, it's our docs being extra cautious, considering our BC history. Ahhh, extra cautiousness for them, and extra stress for us.

    Hang in there sister, everything will be fine. I wish you didn't have to go through this. Take care and keep me posted.

    Hugs, prayers and love. 

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