In Limbo/Purgatory - Waiting for Surgery

hello sweetie, Hello and your Welcome and you are at the place for help,friendship, and plenty of support, I am a long time Survivor and come here each week to Inspire those going thru now, hang in there and please be Positive and Always have HOPE, you can get on the other side of this thing with Faith and Support.  msphil( idc, stage 2, 0/3 nodes and L mast, chemo and rads and 5 yrs on Tamoxifen) ( I am a 18 yr SurvivorPraise GOD) 

Waiting for answers or even surgery when you have BC/ the chance of it is so hard and it affects everything you do and also keeping yourself busy is the best thing you can do so you don't drown in the "what Ifs and stuff"' because it is a hard cycle to break! I am glad you have found your way here for there is a great bunch of people here and they know how to distract, make you laugh and even understand what you are going through they have been a blessing to me as I am palliative and every day is a battle but I come through! Feel free to ask anything you need to and don't be afraid to repeat questions etc because having cancer is very shocking and can leave you feeling very scatter brained, panicky and many other things. As blessings20 said the anticipation of surgery / results is usually worse then the result but you will get the hang of it as you go along . The main thing is to remember there are lots of us around the world who will do what we can to see you through. Too once your settled into your new place and have some quiet time, give yourself permission to be or do what you need to do even if it is a good old fashioned cry! It will help let the pressure out of you. also if you have questions write them down  , because sure as eggs by the time you get to the doctor next you will have forgotten or will be to nervy to ask as being in doctors rooms always stresses. Make sure they write down answers or they give you time to, so you can think on them in the peace of your home! Mastectomies and the thought of them can be scary but look at it this way if the powers that be will it and if you have Tram flap( wedge taken from belly to make new breast.s so you get a new breast/ s and a tummy tuck in one hit. This is the way I went with my reconstruction after losing my breasts because I refused to have anything artificial in my body and it has worked out though I didn't get the reconstruction till after treatment! at the time. so I am intact but palliative now, but I am at peace with myself for if I hadn't asked for a second opinion years ago(2004) I would be long gone! The important thing is not to give up on yourself , don't be afraid to put your hands up for help or to question things it is your body and your right I wish you luck, laughter and a great life in your new place and as I wonder this site when I feel well enough to I may see you around!

Welcome to the club no one wants to be part of.  This site has tremendous information and wonderful ladies.  Good luck with your surgery!

Hi last mango

Sorry you had to join this club but the information on this site is awesome. I just wanted to wish you well with your surgery and to reassure you mine was much easier than I anticipated. I ended up having to wait 7 months from the time the lump was found till BMX due to many many screw ups and delays from my old primary doctor. If you have any questions about surgery feel free to pm me I'd be happy to answer any questions you may have. Best of luck and wishing you a speedy recovery from your surgery.

Cindy

i am to in the same boat diagnosed on 3-4 surgery scheduled for 5-4 is coming up but the more time that passes the more my nerves get to me.. to much time to think and research.. i have mad my decision to have a mastomy on left side i have dcis only in the left breast with expanders and inplants.. but the more i read i am wondering if i made the right decision.. wheather i should go for the double or not..

I'm also new to this "club".  And, when I see how long some of you had to wait for surgery, I don't feel so bad having to wait 2 months from diagnosis until next month's surgery.  Nonetheless, I'm still waiting and waiting with a ticking time bomb in my breast.  Every twinge in my breast or armpit makes me feel as if I've gone immediately from stage 0 to stage 3, ridiculous as that sounds.  (With all kinds of apologies to those of you who have really experienced stage 3+.  You probably think my little stage 0 concerns are thoughtless.)

Now that I have a date for SNB, BMX and DIEP (I'm learning a lot of new abbreviations), I'm finally sleeping more than 3-4 hours a night; the anxiety is at a manageable level.