My last weekend before going back to work.

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NeedtobeSTRONG
NeedtobeSTRONG Member Posts: 101
edited June 2014 in Stage III Breast Cancer

Getting so nervous have not worked since October. Mostly nervous about the looks I feel like I will get. I am not going to wear the wig. (was not for me) I may even got without a hat since the hair is coming in. But mostly nervous as this is the first big stepp back into life as I knew it. Hoping is goes well. I have gotten used to being a little laid back and not always on the go. Was enjoying my quiet cup of coffee after putting the kids on the bus.

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  • Karina121293
    Karina121293 Member Posts: 370
    edited April 2012

    Hi Strong, I used to be a part-time lecturer as my second job before the diagnosis. I took a break while on treatment, but ended up leaving it altogether. When the new academic year started in September last year, I was still wearing my wig and could not face entering the auditorium with all the changes in my appearance. I was doing the job more for pleasure, but 9 am start did not seem too much of a pleasure after the active treatment fatigue. Thankfully, my main job is at my own pace. I can even work from home, so it was a blessing through the cancer journey and the long winter. I am trying to attend every day now, just to feel normal. 

    I know what you mean with the quiet coffee. But once you break the habit for couple of days, you will get used to the new schedule. I find myself more organized generally, when I go to work every day and it helps greatly with depression.

    Even if your hair is still very short, give some shape with hair gel, complete the looks with a nice make up and pretty outfits and you will look beautiful and feel confident. I ditched my wig, when my hair was only 1cm long, trimmed for a better shape and looked good and got lots of compliments. 

    Wish you good luck. Have a pleasant week-end and enjoy your work. You will overcome!!!!  

    Hugs,

    Karina 

  • Moderators
    Moderators Member Posts: 25,912
    edited April 2012

    Best of luck to you NeedtobeSTRONG! We know it must be tough, but we are here, cheering you on!

    --Your Mods

  • Racy
    Racy Member Posts: 2,651
    edited April 2012

    Hi Strong, I understand your nerves and agree with Karina that you will probably feel stronger mentally and emotionally once you are back in the routine of work.



    If you are lucky enough to like your workplace and colleagues, you will probably be overwhelmed with the kindness that people will extend to you and they won't give you funny looks.



    Do you have a work friend with whom you could arrange to go in and help you settle in and check in with you during the first day? That support might help ease your nerves.



    I found preparing to go back to work was like preparing to start a new job or going back to school at the start of the year. Have everything polished and organised, maybe a new outfit, and allow sufficient time to groom yourself so that you look your best. This will give you confidence.



    Good luck!

  • GirlPowerDebbie
    GirlPowerDebbie Member Posts: 213
    edited April 2012

    You have all my support! 

    I worked at home during chemo - 5 months away from the office except for a few brief visits.  I am very, very blessed to have the type of job I could do that (sales), and bosses who supported me in my battle.  When I returned to the office I did not jump back in 8-5 ... I took my time in the morning, getting there about 9 and usually leaving by 3.  I was back at the office just a month or 6 weeks and then started radiation, so I was leaving every day at 3:15 for that appt every day.  After 10 weeks I am pretty much back to 8:30 to 5. 

    Everybody at work was so kind and helpful when I returned.  I am still wearing my (very beautiful) wig ... I live in NE Ohio and I would be freezing without something on my head.  My hair is only about 1/2" long, not enough to keep me warm yet.  

    I will say, however, that some folks tip-toed around me at first (what, they think they will catch it from me?) and having the wig gave me some cancer invisibility.  What I mean is, it allowed me to get down to business and not have people focusing on my bald head.  Some people are just odd about the whole cancer thing. 

    Having to get up, cute and out the door every day really helped distract me from thinking about cancer 24/7.  You don't block it out of course, it is always there ... but I am busy at work, and it does not dominate my thoughts.  This is good for me. 

    Good luck!

  • nurseronda10
    nurseronda10 Member Posts: 209
    edited April 2012

    Strong -I was off 6 months too and was very nervous going back.  I work 12 hour night shifts and was afraid I would be too weak to do it.  It took several weeks to get all my strength back.  I went back to work with a hemoglobin of 7.7 (refused a blood transfusion, I know, I'm stubborn).  The people I work with are great and would jump up and answer the call lights and tell me to sit.  I did fine and you will too!  I did wear my wig.  It looked so much like my real hair but shorter.  The previous year, a coworker went through the same thing, so I felt this helped matters.  I don't know why.  I guess I didn't feel so much like the lone ranger.  Best of Luck!!

  • sespebadger
    sespebadger Member Posts: 249
    edited April 2012

    I was self-conscious a long time thinking I looked different....but when I look now at photos taken after chemo, I think I looked fine. I bought new earrings at Cost Plus. I did trim my hair quite a bit as it came in because it seemed to come in unevenly. I remember getting compliments about it.

    I also found being back at work THE BEST distraction to get my mind off of cancer. I didn't have all my energy back. When people would want to stand around and talk about something, I would suggest we go somewhere where we could sit down. I still do that and I'm 18 months out from treatment!! 

     Good luck!!

  • NeedtobeSTRONG
    NeedtobeSTRONG Member Posts: 101
    edited April 2012

    thanks so much for the support everyone! I actually LOVE my job and have amazing coworkers. I was actually paid a full salary because they donated time to me. They are a wonderful group of people. I work with adults with disabilities and of course I am worried about them feeling funny about my new look or feeling funny asking questions. But looking so foward to seeing everyone I have not seen in months. I really Conan not wait to look for a nursing job since I have had my license since July. But baby step baby steps lol. Need to ease my way back to life.

  • Wrongchick
    Wrongchick Member Posts: 36
    edited April 2012

      Best of luck with the return--be gentle with yourself as you make yet another transition into the new normal that is life post-DX.  The insight and compassion you had to cultivate during your  treatment will certainly be a gift to the adults you serve.  And your co-workers seem like an awesome community.  That's got to be good for the immune system, right? :)

  • jennyboog
    jennyboog Member Posts: 1,322
    edited April 2012

    I just recently went back to work myself after being out over a year.  I was so nervous and didn't know if I could handle it.  My first day all I could think was....what are you thinking?  I must be crazy, I had it good.  It's was a little weird but I have no regrets and it's been good for me.  I don't have as much time to think about BC and I so needed that :)  I hope you feel the same, good luck and let us know how it goes.

  • pupfoster1
    pupfoster1 Member Posts: 1,484
    edited April 2012

    It will probably be a bit weird for the first week or so and then all will settle back in.  I only work part time, so my "week" dragged on for weeks as I saw people for the first time, some of them not knowing where I had been or what I had been going through.  It was pretty obvious once I stopped wearing the wig (which I didn't like either, but since I was only working PT, I wore it for a while). 

    Hang in there, take breath deep and jump back in.  Depending on how big your workplace is you may experience some weird reactions/comments.  I had some comments I know were meant to be from a caring place, but came out ALL wrong.  

    Let us know how it went!

    Love,

    Sharon 

  • NeedtobeSTRONG
    NeedtobeSTRONG Member Posts: 101
    edited April 2012

    my first day back was SO GREAT! I have the best coworkers. They had flowers at my desk a big box of joe, and some great snacks. I felt so normal today I could cry just thinking of it. I did opt to go with no hat or wig. I felt wonderful. Okay crying now as I write this. I never could imagine feeling so great! To all of you ladies just beginning this journey..... It really does get better each and every day! Keep putting one foot in front of the other and smile!

  • Racy
    Racy Member Posts: 2,651
    edited April 2012

    Glad to hear it went well on your first day back, NeedtobeSTRONG. Best wishes to you.

  • Momof2inME
    Momof2inME Member Posts: 683
    edited April 2012

    So happy for you that your first day back went well. The rest of your week will be even better!!!

  • jennyboog
    jennyboog Member Posts: 1,322
    edited April 2012

    So glad to hear day 1 went so well....you got some great co-workers!

  • pupfoster1
    pupfoster1 Member Posts: 1,484
    edited April 2012
  • Karina121293
    Karina121293 Member Posts: 370
    edited April 2012

    So happy for you !!!! Isn't it great to feel one more time the love and care of people around you. Enjoy !!! You deserve it !!!!!! 

  • LaurenM730
    LaurenM730 Member Posts: 366
    edited April 2012

    Im so glad your first day back was great.  I was in the same situation on monday.  My first day back after BMX, so I obviously looked different too.  I was so nervous all weekend, like my stomach was turning.  I tried on 100 different outfits.  But it was just fine - I have amazing coworkers, who I of course, call friends as well.  No one looked, or at least not obviously.  I think people were honestly glad to see me, no matter what I look like.

    I hope today is just as good for you.  You deserve to feel this way.  Happy 2nd day back!

    Lauren

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