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  • cmbear
    cmbear Member Posts: 1,086
    edited March 2012

    MOT-welcome to our sorority, hopefully we can help with any questions you might have and occasionally we'll take your mind off of BC for awhile. We'll all be along with you tomorrow holding your hand and ready for (((hugs))).

    Eli-welcome back to the cyber world. And I love the tulips! I had red tulips for my my wedding flower--and I know what you mean--I was lucky they survived the ceremony!! 

    I have an appt this week with my primary to go over my bloodwork. When BC started for me, it sent my thyroid into a tailspin and also my cholesterol. Now that my thyroid is in control,and 10 months of tamox, my cholestorol seems to be back to its usual low self. I'll find out for sure this week. Next week, I get to see my MO for my clearance for recon. Start of a whole new process. Hoo-boy, can't wait !!

  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 8,543
    edited March 2012

    MOT - Welcome!  Sorry you have BC but sure glad you found us.  Ask all the questions you want to.  You will find a lot of good information and support here.

  • Dianarose
    Dianarose Member Posts: 2,407
    edited March 2012

    Mot-welcome. These ladies are wonderful.

    Jo-I love your picture. Every time I see it I just think that you look like someone who just is full of fun and doesn't take any crap.

    Yesterday I was so down in the dumps about this whole lymph node involvement. One minute I am angry and the next I am crying. The doctors all said the cancer was stink'n small and not agressive. My 12 yr old is having a tough time. I just found out that he was so rude to a sub at school on Friday that the VP had to remove him from class. He kept asking me yesterday if I was going to die and wouldn't leave my side all weekend. I guess I will have to get the school counselor involved.

  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited March 2012

    Glad to be back having my tea with the Middie this morning.  How could I forget that my boys are "late risers" and present no computer competition in the morning hours? 

    Welcome, MOT!  If you get a chance, let us know what you found out on your biopsy.  Otherwise, good luck with surgery tomorrow, and we'll be here when you get back.  This group represents most of the surgeries and treatments out there, so once you know your own game plan, you will meet others who have been thru' it.

    cmb,  meant to say welcome back to you too. 

    p.s. Dianarose,  Yes, let the school know what you are going thru'.  It never hurts to give them a heads up that they could see some different behavior from him. 

  • walker2222
    walker2222 Member Posts: 558
    edited March 2012

    Dianarose - my son had just turned 14 when I was diagnosed and I informed his teachers what was going on at home, they were very supportive.  So please do inform your school about the changes at home.  I will pray for you as you give reassurance to your son.  It is important to be as upfront with the kids as you are comfortable with and what information you want to share.  Tell him the steps you have to take and what happens.  My son kinda freaked on the hair loss but as soon as he got used to it he was fine with it.  He knew I was going to be sick for a while but that it would get better. He gave me reassurances on my down days.

    MOT welcome, this is a great bunch of gals.

  • Sherryc
    Sherryc Member Posts: 5,938
    edited March 2012

    Mot welcome to the club but sorry you have to be here.  Please ask any questions you have and keep us updated. We will be in your pocket for your LX tomorrow.

    Claire-guess we need a pocket party for you too.

    Dianarose please do talk to the school.  At least they will know why things are happening and can help your son on their end.

    Walker we have our surviviors dinner tonight.  DH has to work late so my Mom is going with me. Our Relay is this Friday.

  • Ceeztheday
    Ceeztheday Member Posts: 403
    edited March 2012

    Hi ladies. Went to my appointment with my Medical Oncologist today (every three months). He said "bloodwork looks great, see you in three months." Exactly what I wanted to hear!

  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited March 2012
    Ceeztheday...........................
  • odie16
    odie16 Member Posts: 1,882
    edited March 2012

    Welcome Mot. Sorry you have to join us but am sure you will find comfort & knowledge here.

    Ceeztheday - Great news. Congrats! 

    Dianerose - You little man sounds so sweet. Please talk to the school so they can better understand & help him thru this time.

    Count me in for the pocket parties... I am to see my BS Wednesday for my 6 month check-up.

    Hope everyone has a great Tuesday!

  • Paula66
    Paula66 Member Posts: 1,728
    edited March 2012

    Welcome Mot.  So sorry we have to meet like this.  The gals around here are super.  Post anything that you think of.  Someone here will be able to help you thru it. 

    Dianarose please call the school and let them know what is going on.  I sometimes wished I did.  I wasn't thinking that he would have a hard time.  I know that several teachers go to my church and I had assume  the word was out in that way. His English class even sent me a card signed by his classmates.  I was trying to keep this as low key as possible and didn't even think of how this was affecting my kids. My son is so much like his dad and guards his feelings, so if he was upset he didn't show it around me.  

  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 8,543
    edited March 2012

    Odie - I am joining the pocket party on Wed.  You are going to do great.

  • azdixie
    azdixie Member Posts: 2
    edited March 2012
  • Dianarose
    Dianarose Member Posts: 2,407
    edited March 2012

    Count me in for the pocket party. I am drowning my sorrows in a hot fudge sundae. It 's wonderful.

    I did email the school and let them know what is going on with my son. He is very emotional and my ex doesn't help. He told my son, William, good the /b#%^& has cancer again, so my son is angry as well as scared.

    I tried to attach a photo of my son that my brother emailed me, but I have no idea how to. Elimar I need your help with this.

  • seabeal
    seabeal Member Posts: 121
    edited March 2012

    Please someone! My hands are shaking all day and so bad that I don't think I could even start an IV if I had to, it takes all my concentration just to write patient notes. After I got the news 2 weeks ago that there were more tumors and the original one was resized from under 2 cm to 5 cm I have barely been able to stop this shaking. Asked my surgeon for a mild sedative since I can't eat or sleep (and now shaking) but he declined saying I needed to maintain my edge so I could handle the difficult times to come and continue to nurse. My God, I don't want to be korked and I would never take before going to work, I just need to get a handle. Although I still need to lose some weight (I was losing before this happened) I've lost almost 10 pounds in the past two weeks without even trying (guess I should just be grateful)

    I have my first appointment with the onco tomorrow so maybe things will start getting better. Hope hes the "one" as I just want to get this thing started so I can get it over with. 

  • Dianarose
    Dianarose Member Posts: 2,407
    edited March 2012

    Seabeal- dear God, they should give you something to be able to calm down some. My regular doc prescribed me something. I didn't even have to see her. I just called her and she called me in a prescription. Try your primary doc.

    You wil be in my prayers tonight.

  • Ceeztheday
    Ceeztheday Member Posts: 403
    edited March 2012

    seabeal- My heart is breaking for you. You are so right that getting started, so that you can get it over with, is a big important step. Hugs.

  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 8,543
    edited March 2012

    seabeal - Someone should give you something to help calm you down.  Speak with your MO and let him know how this is affecting your life.  You are in my thoughts and prayers.  HUGS!!

  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited March 2012

    seabeal,  It sems like the MO or your primary care doc could come up with some anti-anxiety med. that would still allow you to nurse.  Bypass the surgeon and ask one of those docs.  I don't know why some of the docs are so oblivious to our panic about B/C. 

    Dianarose, For your own original photos, you need a hosting site to upload the pics onto.  I use Photobucket, but others with Facebook are able to share from that site too.

  • seabeal
    seabeal Member Posts: 121
    edited March 2012

    Thank you everyone. I didn't know if I was just being needy yet I can't seem to direct my thoughts away from everything going on. Now I know I can talk to my MO or primary who is a super great physician, she's also a woman who is very emphatic with her patients.

  • YaYa5
    YaYa5 Member Posts: 667
    edited March 2012
    seabeal, bless your heart.  i'm so sorry you're dealing with all this.  i can certainly understand the anxiety and i hope you find a dr. who will help you.  anxiety is so difficult, especially on top of everything else.  good luck tomorrow.  please le us know how it goes.  we're all here for you.
  • Valjean
    Valjean Member Posts: 1,898
    edited March 2012

    Have to get to bed a bit earlier tonight as I have an early blood draw tomorrow morning for my 6-month MO appt April 4th.

    Wanted to send seabeal special warm hugs & to let you know you are in my thoughts. Please let us know how tomorrow goes, we will be with you; hope you have BIG pockets, hon!

  • 3jaysmom
    3jaysmom Member Posts: 4,266
    edited March 2012

    hi guys, im WAY too old to be middle age, but i have to stop by once in awhile to check on you "younger ladies'.. i can't believe it, i'll be 62 next birthday, whic is coming way too soon...

      someone had told me elimar was broke down, and wanted to make sure she was back.. she's the "guiding" force to this thread, which i loved to come to.. but, ld age is a biatch,, in many ways..hahaha 3jays... welcome to all the newer ladies..you're in good hands here....3jays

  • Momine
    Momine Member Posts: 7,859
    edited March 2012

    Seabeal, I am sorry but your comment about being needy actually made me laugh and your surgeon is being an idiot about this, in my humble opinion. No, you are not being needy. You are going through a really scary, rotten thing. I had a psych friend write me a  xanax script right after DX, and I am not a pill person. In the end, I did not use it very much, but just knowing that I could take one at bedtime and not wake up in terror at 3 AM was enough to help me through.

    When I talked to my surgeon and onc about it, they both told me that it is completely normal to be totally freaked out the first weeks after dx and that I should do whatever I need to do to get to the other side of it. My surgeon said that if I still had grave problems a month down the line, I should holler so he could get me a psychologist to help.

    So, a huge hug to you my friend, and go get yourself some "oooommmmm" pills at first light. 

  • Dianarose
    Dianarose Member Posts: 2,407
    edited March 2012

    Stacie- when I told my MO about my stress level she prescribed YOGA- Like that was going to make me all better...I don't think it can be achieved if you can't stop shaking. I really think they forget we are human beings. I don't always take the pills that I did get because sometimes Nurse Bacardi does the trick just to take the edge off.

    We are all hugging you tight so you won't be able to shake.Kiss

  • lisamarie68
    lisamarie68 Member Posts: 1,235
    edited March 2012

    Seal, I am praying for you . My do on doctor also would not give me anything .. only on day of my procedure . anyway I am with you . I wish I could grab on and give ya a big hug .. Thinking good thoughts for ur day :)

  • Dianarose
    Dianarose Member Posts: 2,407
    edited March 2012

    Elimar- I am computer dumb. How do I take a photo from facebook and get it here. Humor me please.

  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited March 2012

    Dianarose, that is the easiest way to get a photo here! Even I can do it.

    Go to the FB pic and right click on it. You will have the option to "copy", so copy it. Then come here to a blank post box (what I'm typing in now) and click on the green "tree" icon just to the left of the yellow smiley face on the icon bar. Click into the "image url" box, then right click and "paste". Your pic should show up in the box!! Good luck.

    Everyone kept saying "tree" icon to me, but it just looks like a green box to me...

  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited March 2012

    Anxiety... Hardly anyone will remember this post from early, early in this thread, but it is in my top ten posts (and I can't remember the other nine.)   A woman was having anxiety right after Dx (as you do) and she went to her pastor who counseled her to find a calming activity, like A LABYRINTH! 

                                           

    But of course!   Who needs Xanax when what you really need is to roam a while in your neighborhood labyrinth.  I can't remember where that poster was from, but how many of us even have a labyrinth at our disposal?  Maybe a corn maze in October, but labyrinth...now that is just a literal classic!  Who wouldn't want to spend hours just wandering those perplexing twists and turns?  Watch out for the pesky Minotaur!

  • Momine
    Momine Member Posts: 7,859
    edited March 2012
  • Dianarose
    Dianarose Member Posts: 2,407
    edited March 2012

    Barbe- Ok, that worked, but how do I make it smaller. When I previewed it, it was huge.

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