Help - oncologist recommendations for Charlottesville VA please?

Hi everyone. I don't know if this is the right place to post this or not but let's give it a try...

A good friend of a friend of mine lives in Charlottesville VA and has BC. It seems to me that she is receiving substandard care and I would like recommendations if anyone has any (I am in Ohio so would have no idea) for a different surgeon/oncologist for this young woman.

Here's part of what she writes: "A very close friend of mine, age 38, recently found out that she has breast cancer -- a sizable tumor is growing in her right breast. Today we went to the surgeon to talk about her options. She asked to see the MRI that shows the tumor, but he initially refused, saying "You wouldn't understand what you were looking at." Umm, well, we will if you point to it and say THAT IS THE TUMOR. So he sighs a mighty sigh and shows us the MRI and, indeed, THERE IS THE TUMOR. It's a big motherf*cker, and it's clearly distorting the muscle of the chest wall.

So my friend asked if she could have a print out or a digital copy of the tumor, and he says "What, are you scrapbooking it or something?"

She says no, but that she'd like it for her records.

He says "You don't want a picture of it. You want to just go on, live your life,forget you ever had cancer."

She responds that she would just like a copy for her own records.

He says he can't give her one and besides, she doesn't want one."

Now, to me this sort of behavior from a doctor is unacceptable and I cannot believe that he told her she could not receive a copy of her own medical report!!!. My friend thinks so too but HER friend is so shell-shocked right now that she can't make the decision to look for another doc.

Does anyone have any suggestions for that area of the US?

Thanks in advance...

Lona