Clothing advice for the flat chested?

I had a umx without recon.  I frequently go out flat on just the one side (and I am a size D on the remaining side).  A vest or scarf...and no one notices.  I am very fond of my vests.  I think that vests and scarves will be useful no matter what changes come over the next few months, so probably won't be a waste of money. 

On another note, I have a wonderful used clothing store nearby that is always my first stop so that I save on money.  I used it a lot as I lost 50 pounds slowly, so I could buy clothes that I knew I would only fit into for short periods.  Spending with less guilt...:)  You might consider seeking out something like that!

I've been going flat since my 2/10/12 bmx.  I'm layering and going with prints on the overshirt.  Either a tank or shelf-bra cami underneath and a button-down blouse over it.  Was at the thrift store (read, cheap cheap resale shop) today to pick up a few more short-sleeve button-down blouses.  This is Fla after all.  I mentioned something while checking out about I like using this store when I'm going to be a size for only a short period of time.  The cashier said "why, are you going to gain weight".  I very slightly opened the blouse a bit more and she was surprised, said she'd not even noticed it at all.

So, there's a idea for you.  I've read that scarves, busy prints, vests are all good.

Wear tops with some kind of detail at the top.  It will distract the eye. Wearing layers helps too. Try clothes on, it might look good on the rack but terrible on you.  After awhile I had a better idea what would & wouldn't look good on me.  You never know for sure what size to get either. I wore anywhere from a small to a large.  I went flat for 3 years and most people didn't notice unless I pointed it out.

Dresses were harder to find but definitely had to try them on.  

I recently decided to do reconstruction & thankfully I can still wear everything that I have.   

Have fun shopping! NJ 

Before I decided to do delayed reconstruction, I was gloriously flatchested for two years.

It took me about 6 months to realize that most people were not looking at my flat chest and I became more confident. 

Any tops that were  cut to outline the breasts (i.e.; high empire waists, halter tops with a seam under the breasts, etc) just made the flatness more obvious.  I wore welling fitting "tee" shirt tops and blouses that button down the front and didn't have darts for the bust area.

As other posters have said, prints worked well. I personally do not like scarfs around my neck and never wore any and since I live in Florida where the temperatures can be warm, I never layered with vests.

I am very tall and before my BM almost two years ago I was quite small breasted and folks used to always mistake me for a man.

They still do (...sigh...) and now it's worse since chemo because my new hair will take a long time to grow out, so I just gave in and went to the tall men's store and bought a few shirts. If they have double front pockets, that seems to serve as good camo and people I meet don't seem to notice. I also try to buy prints because that also helps folks not notice.

At least they fit me. I have not tried on one single women's item of clothing that does. It's a perpetual source of sadness for me, but I cannot stand the weight of the forms or the feelings of the bras so have little choice but to go flat.

I think halter tops are the most flattering (excuse the pun). These styles in a colourful print or even black look great and sexy. If you don't like sleeveless just put on a light jacket. Baggy just looks like you are trying to cover up something.

One look that works well, in my opinion, is a tank/sleeveless T in a dark color, topped with a thin, floaty white or light-colored shirt of some kind. I got some things like that last summer for chemo (to shelter me from sun), but find that they work well post-BMX as well. When I couldn't wear bras, it also worked to tack some light forms into the tank directly.

But you have already gotten a lot of good suggestions. Prints work, stripes work, busy colors work. 

I bought my chemo wardrobe in H&M, so what I spent was minimal. But I highly recommend buying some things for where you are right now, because it can help you feel better. 

I really appreciated all of the photos...I do like and enjoy the idea of a tank top with something flowing on top, and I choose to do this myself often.

I am also the queen of scarves when it is cold outside and can drape them, and wear even some very fancy ones. But my favorite piece of winter clothing is from Kohls, a cowl neck light weight sweater, and the cowl covers the whole front, it is very big and deep and I feel quite secure in it.

Thanks so much all!

I'm definitely dressing differently now. I try to always wear earrings when I go out, esp. if the rest of my outfit is on the gender-neutral side. I also find myself looking for tops that are embellished in front. It doesn't have to be ruffles or lace, just some kind of detail like embroidery or pleating. I also love the drapey cowl necks, although I have to be careful not to get ones that droop down too far in front. I'm adding more tunic tops to my wardrobe, as they nicely disguise a not-so-little tummy. Being flat on top tends to accentuate my gut, making it look bigger than it already is, so the tunics are an option for days when I just don't feel like layering. But o/w, tanks and camis peeking out from under your top are a great option. And I'll echo the others here when I say most people just don't notice! Give them some feminine visual cues and most will never look any further than that.

Dear Wrong Chick,

First of all, I want you to go out shopping - for a spring lip gloss that will brighten up your face while you finish Taxol.

I don't think this is an issue of "flat vs chest" as much as a "creating a fab new look going forward".  I had minimal changes to my body, but my long hair is a thing of the past.  And you know what!!!  I look fabulous.  But I did have to re-imagine my whole look, and there are certain things that no longer work balance-wise. 

Probably not this afternoon, but you will need to try on tops and find out what really works.  What looks good will also depend on the rest of your shape, and I don't have enough info to advise.  I would go for help here and find someone who can bring you stuff to try on.

Your body may not change that much going forward.  I take anastrazole, and I exercise.  My body is not hat different from ten years ago, or even my 20s (other than I am more sculpted).

There are tons of options out there.  I would start with neutral black slacks that fit and go shopping.  I am suspecting very different brands of clothing and very different cuts. Plus colors that do something for you.

I will leave you with an exercise.  Try to imagine a stylish woman with short hair, a cute top over a silk cami and with nicely-fitted trousers and a dazzling smile.  That is YOU in six months time.

I have given you the canvas......it's now up to you to fill in the details.  Have fun, and do use your friends plus any other help you can enlist.  Someone who has been flat chested all her life will probably have figured a lot of this out.  This can be really fun and exciting. - Claire

Thank you for the boscov's link! yes, I can see where these tops would work.

As i can, I am trying to buy things that look better, but I am often left with plain tight fitting tops, because that is what I had. Pullovers that mold my figure. I feel horrible in them. For the first time I am thinking maybe 3 of those boscovv's tops wearing them all the time would be better than a bunch of clothes I look terrible in. I feel flat and unattractive, my husband is retired and I feel badly around the house.

I did get my hair cut short and it feels fabulous! I am slowly finding my way......

Ok, how to loop a scarf?  just loop it loose so it comes down across the missing breast places?

crystalphm - IMO the Boscovs site has lovely One World tops but still expensive unless they are running a sale.  Compare also to EBAY prices and another similar brand named Sublimation.

Also some of these tops have a deep V front which fits as large (I'm small breasts).  So I'd go for a higher neck option and love the flutter or wider sleeve options as more flattering.  Have fun with the prints and drape of the material - - very colorful and flattering. 

http://www.ebay.com/sch/i.html?_nkw=sublimation+top&_sacat=15724&_sop=10&_odkw=sublimationtop&_osacat=15724&_trksid=p3286.c0.m270.l1311

http://www.ebay.com/sch/i.html?_nkw=one+world+top&_sacat=15724&_sop=10&_odkw=sublimation+top&_osacat=15724&_trksid=p3286.c0.m270.l1313