Adult children and friends avoiding me since diagnosis

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  • wildrumara
    wildrumara Member Posts: 450
    edited December 2011

    After being diagnosed in August, I had a remarkable group of people I would call "acquaintances" rally around me.....moms from my son's hockey team, and a neighborhood group, who have been making meals the week after my chemo treatments.....my husband's extended family (whom we weren't particular close to) showered me with gifts!   I received cards from many who are in my life today and cards from people from long ago. My husband's mom and my mom have been here for me every step of the way.....they help with the three kids and the laundry once a week, which has been awesome.  But, somewhere deep down inside of me, I can't get over my siblings reactions??  Pretty much non-existent.  They have lived out of town for years and we are not particular close in begin with,  but we certainly weren't estranged....just not real close; therefores, I didn't expect much, but I have heard from each of them one time......that's it.  I am not in any way truly bothered by this.....I am just surprised.  I'm not a huge phone person, but I do text, and e-mail, and they all know this.....and really, that's all I would expect.  An email or text occasionally....... Not happening.  One thing I have learned from this experience is how wonderful a card, a text, an e-mail mean to me.  I will pay this forward for sure some day......I know that.  I wasn't much a card sender before this but I will definitely start sending cards

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  • Kaara
    Kaara Member Posts: 3,647
    edited December 2011

    I let a few close friends and family members know about my disease and they have passed the word on to others.  I am hearing from people that I had lost track of years ago, wishing me well and sending prayers.  It is really comforting to know that people care.  On the other hand, some of the people that I thought would be very concerned haven't even bothered to contact me.  It is what it is.

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited April 2012

    5 months since my diagnosis and still no visit from my youngest son. My oldest has taken time to fly out and visit in between deployments with his wife. My youngest lives 3 hrs away with his wife. Excuse after excuse..I promise mom I will come.. then the weekend rolls around and they have other plans. O they can't afford the gas, then take a week trip to vegas. I finally let him know how I felt.. he turned it back on me into a huge fight. I just kept saying it was how I feel- he just kept yelling at me. So done with the immature self centered behavior.

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