Need advice, MIL stage 4 now getting hospice

I agree with Lisa.  Put it as a good idea to visit now while she is feeling as well as possible and will be most able to enjoy your visit. 

Best wishes to you all ... this is hard on everybody. 

My mom is a stage 4 metastasis with recurring brain tumors. she is now receiving hospice for about 2 1/2 weeks now. we brought her home as she wanted and are getting help for her through home care services and hospice.i wish i could say something encouraging but as she has declined so swiftly this past month i fail to be optimistic...she put up a great fight and now i hope she will let herself relax and stop worrying about all her children. she lost her ability to respond yesterday and is unable to eat or drink.its hard to watch her struggle so hard to open her eyes or to speak. as my brother just came to see her yesterday he was still able to communicate with her. it just came on so fast. don't wait to say the things you want to say you may not get the chance and yes visit as much as you can . i don't know how i will ever be able to say good bye in my heart but for mom... i don't want her suffering to continue to save me that final pain. she has always been more concerned for others and now all we can see is her holding on through extreme suffering because of her worry for us. i waited to say those most important things(do to my own weakness) till today and though she couldnt speak to me in return i know she herd me. i wish i could have brought myself to have done this earlier, but we can only do what we can do. but i cant stress enough when a patient has gotten to the point of hospice it can go quickly or slowly but it will always seem to go too fast so don't wait! hospice isn't brought up lightly it is end of life care. my brother and i live quite a distance from her my sisters are local and extended family live a few hours away.and i can say i would much rather spend time with her before her decline than be there to wait for the last breath. i understand the difficulties of long distance visits but when faced with the reality of things would be will to drive every weekend after the work week to spend with her. unfortunately the visits have always been much shorter that i wanted but, single mom only one income with 2 children at home and raising my grand child i cant devote every moment to mom. but the family shouild be thankfull for the opportunity to be with her while she can still appreciate it. so i say make the calls. its really not about everyone else so much as it is about your mom inlaw.did she has she made a preferrance known. watch out for those mom s its hard to get them to say what they would want for themselves as they are always putting everyone else first... cancer is a horid disease! to all those suffering or those who support those who are suffering my heart goes out to you all. wow a little long winded but sometimes you just have to get it off your chest. 

Blessings to you and your family. You seem like such a kind and wonderful DIL. She was lucky to have you. get some rest for you and your husband. You could all use it.