Tired of being treated with immodesty

amontro- You are definitely not wrong for feeling that way.  I'm a pretty modest person anyway but it feels like BC strips us (no pun on words) of all that.  All of our lives we're told to cover that part of our anatomy up but now that we've had BC we're not supposed to care about all the people we've had to expose ourselves to?  I think a lot of medical personnel just become immune to it but there are situations, like yours, where they could take extra care and be more sensitive.  I would try to bring it to the attention of whoever is in charge at that facility.  Sounds like they need a wake up call.  I've started requesting female techs for all my appointments where possible.  They may not be more sensitive (though they usually are) but it makes it all a little less uncomfortable.  Sorry that happened to you.  (((hugs)))

I agree with Sharon. And more importantly I think you need to speak up. If no one says anything then the docs/nurses won't know there's a problem. And if no one says anything the techs might not even realize they're doing it.



I have to say I've never had this problem (although they've probably been bowled over by my immodesty lol). I had a BMX no recon and my rads team still made sure to tell me when a male was going to be present (the physicist was male). As a matter of fact they always let me know when anyone else was entering the room (my RO, the sub RO when she was out)

amontro...speak up. Don't let these techies get away with that behavior.

I went for an ultrasound for my heart. I have BMX, no recon., There were 2 machines operating, it was busy. One male tech, one female tech. I went up to the young secretary that was running the show, and asked, quietly and pleasantly, could I please see the female operator. Bit of huffing and puffing, not too much...she conferred with a couple of young doctors who were flitting about, and came back at me with  'we don't do this sort of thing, you have to take what comes'  So I stood up, and said 'well, I'm won't be sitting here waiting to 'see what comes', and would like to see your immediate superior'  With that she said, as if to calm me, 'just sit down, dear, I'll see what I can do'

Calling me 'dear' makes me see red, but I kept my cool this once !! Within 5 minutes I was put in, with the female tech !! Couldn't that have been arranged when I had first asked, and explained why. I think some of these youngsters just enjoy a bit of authority. I have learned to stand my ground with them.

Isabella. 

I lost my modesty after my second kid.  I got used to breastfeeding in public - although that did not do me much good. 

My story - I was getting measured for my tatoos for radiation when I realized that the male technican was my son's football coach.  It was an interesting conversation.

I spoke to a guy who had heart surgery.  He said he got used to showing everything when he was in treatment.  It seems like it is part of the territory.

I WAS very modest, but now feel the way same Jancie does.  I got poked, prodded, and looked at by so many Dr.'s, nurses's, and technician's that eventually it did stop bothering me.  I was a little disturbed the day there was a guy doing my radiation, and I became tired of the RO asking me if he could look at my breast during rads, because that's all he did-looked.  I stopped seeing him when my treatment was over.  After all that, it doesn't bother me now when I do have to bare it all.  Now the other end, that would be a different story