MIDDLE-AGED WOMEN 40-60ish
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I hate doctors who like to order tests. I guess that's all doctors lol. I especially hate doctors who tell you tests are nothing without ever having experienced it. How on earth do they know if it's nothing or not.
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I hate those US, too.
Eph, I think I rememebr your avatar when it was just the back of your smooth head, don't i? We need to see those eyebrows! My eyebrows were also heavy before chemo but didn't come back in as even or thick. I have thought of tatooing the basic shape.
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Eli~ I agree, all the aches and pains that come along with aging stink! I have never been hard on my body, but the bursitis makes me feel like I had been a football player.
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I knew I could count on all of you to relate to the moody feelings I have, and the so-called "aging gracefully" baloney. It's tough, ain't it?
Momine, OH, I KNOW! (Laughing ruefully.)

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There is an expression in Italian that my father says all the time. I can't write in italian but it translates to "Old age is pitiful." DB#2 said it once, at his barber's, who's from Italy. The barber said something back in italian. It was the other part of the saying, which my father never let us know existed. "But it's better than the alternative."
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Yes, I was inspired by Paulding's smooth head with marker drawings by her day care kids. My avatar was my smooth head with no drawings for the longest time. The picture now was summer '10 when I met Gilly who went thru chemo the same time as Lisa & I. There are no eyebrows in the current avatar. I will attempt to remedy that!
I have a "do-nothing" day! Those don't come along often. I'm going to go scrapbook-later ladies.
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madpeacock so sorry you got the letter hoping everything turns out OK with the ultrasound.
Eli I know what you mean about getting older and the aches and pains we have to deal with.
I went to the MO on Friday had my Zometa treatment and all went well and have had no SE's. Talked about my neck issue continuing to hurt and now having to take pain meds at night. He read my MRI results an said I have sever arthritis in my neck along with a pinched nerve. He said with my old neck injury (break) it is not going to get any better. I asked him why I have gone all these years and never had any problems with it and he looked at me and said AGE! Not what I wanted to hear at 49. He also said that with all my issues it would be best not to do anything to my neck unless I get to a point of not being able to stand the pain even with meds. Suggested I commit to stretching 5 minutes every morning and evening and thinks it will help if I will do it. Otherwise, tynenol and pain meds. He did not even want me to consider cortisone shots unless the pain gets unbearable. So I'm kinda stuck. I asked him about my nausea I have had for three weeks and he said it is because of the meds I am taking for my neck. Can't do without them at this point so he gave me something I can take PRN for the nausea. Think i'll consider the stretches to see if I can get some relief and off these meds.
On another note I told him I at decided on the BMX and that insurance approved me for March 26th. he said that I made a very wise decision. He said he was glad that I had decided to move forward with it. Up to this point he has been pretty neutral in giving me all the information but he really wanted me to make the decision. But I'm glad to know that it was the decision he was hoping I would make.
Having a blast with my new grandbabies and my other granddaughter. She decorated DH Bday cake. She is 5 and it was hoot watching her having fun. She said it is the prettiest Bday cake every and is better than anything she has ever had for her BDAY!! haha
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Oh EPH and Marlegal,
I have been even more sadistic in the quest for hair removal!!! I have an epilady, I like to refer to as the torchure machine. I have to say I have gotten more accutomed to it with time and it really is only uncomfy on the bikini area now... If you're not familiar with it, it looks like an electric razor, but pulls out the hairs as you run it along the surface
I actually bought the TRIA home lazar system last June, which although costly and time consuming was working well until BC and anxiety reared it's ugly head:> Will have to get back to it soon!!!
It is an age old battle of woman vs. hair:>
Carolyn
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I have worn out two epiladies and am on a different brand now. I have considered tria. Although I was virtually bald during chemo, the three weeks in between tx was enough to get stubble again.
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Hello Ladies!! Pardon me for being derelict in my PP responsibilities. I had to take a vacation from BC for awhile. December was a year since I finished chemo, and Jan was my one year anniversary of my DBMX. Being unemployed, I had nothing but time to dwell on all my "issues" and I just got overwhelmed thinking about BC. I had to take a break. Pheww--I feel better now.
So I know I have missed so much. And I feel horrible, but there is no way I am going to read back to Dec. Bad me. but I did miss everyone. And realized that this is still the only place I can go that "understands" me. So what did I miss?
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Sherry, shame on your doc for dis-allowing cortisone shots!!! Why the hell not!! At LEAST have him refer you to a pain clinic!! Chronic pain can make you not heal as well.... shame, shame on him!!!!
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cmb, A couple surgeries, some B9's, a few Newbies, and Eph's holiday tryst with Antonio B. There, all up to speed.
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Elimar! LOL Here I thought Banderas was loyal to the wifey.
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That's right, and don't worry. Antonio and Eph only played strip-Scrabble. She's no hussy!
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Thanks for the help on "that" thread e, the mods have stepped in now.
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Barbe, No prob. I guess whether or not you broke it down perfectly was in the eye of the beholder, but I understood your concept and meaning from the get-go.
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Oh, damn! Here I thought trysting and thrusting went together

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Happy Valentines to My Special Pink Sisters Love you all ! Thanks for being there for me!Thinking of all of you wishing you a Blessed Day & week! Prayers & {{{hugs}}}
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Not a big fan of this day, but I do love all you gals just the same!
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Hope everyone has a special Valentine's Day and someone makes YOU feel special!
Last week my DH surprised me with dance lessons - just for fun. This is from the guy with two left feet, no rhythm, and tone deaf. He can move like Roger Federer on the tennis court, but on the dance floor - not so much. So, tonight is lesson #2. Our instructor is this tiny, petite girl from Bulgaria who moves with such grace and makes me feel like a water buffalo. I'm tall and slim, but have broad shoulders, etc., so...
A friend's mother passed unexpectedly yesterday, so we'll go by the funeral home on the way to dance tonight. She had BC years ago, but had so many other health problems that I don't even know what caused her death.
My ultrasound is tomorrow morning to find out what they saw on the mammo last week, so I would really appreciate anyone who can jump in my pockets tomorrow!! There will be candy!! Not feeling too good about this, but we'll see what we see.
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My real Valentine to you all is the pic at the top, but this was to funny to pass up. Copy away.
(Rating: PG. No actual dog-butt being shown.)
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madp, Candy? O.K., I'm in. Seriously, hope they find it's something with a soft (creme-filled) center, like a bon-bon. That wasn't really serious, was it?
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Madp, I'll hold your hand while you hold mine tomorrow morning. I have my first mamo since diagnosis and I'm a little anxious about the results since hearing your switched up news. I don't know if I will get results right away so it's the waiting game again. UGH! Kitty

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Gotta admit...took me a minute to find the "heart" in the cat butt picture. Was wondering if e finally lost it.
Momine, in my world trysting and thrusting still go together. Who told you otherwise? They were lying.
I will be in anyones pocket that needs it!! I SWEAR that is what helped me sail through my recent surgery. Honestly!!
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claire glad to have you back. Been wondering where you were.
Barb really it is OK, I understand what he is saying and he is not the first Dr to tell me this. I broke my neck in 1995. Had four breaks in 3 vertebrae (C5, C6 &C7) and they fused two of them(6 &7) with plates and screws. I also have a bulging disk between C5 & C6. And a pinched nerve somewhere in there. They want me to use pain pills first and when it gets to a point that no longer works then we will probably try cortisone shots. My MO is also in to alternative health care so he has encouraged me to use acupuncture and Chiropractor as well. The good news is I think the Chiropractor is working and I was able to stop taking the hydrocodone over the weekend and just take Tylenol.
Madpeacock and kittygirl I'll be in your pockets
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Sherry, are you taking advantage of accupuncture as well? That could possibly help.... I would think a Chiropractor would be terrified of working on your neck!!
Cortisone shots aren't the worst thing you could use. Why are they so against them? What about nerve blocks? I had them and they worked for a bit. Then there are epidurals you could get. I've had 2 in my neck and 3 in my lower spine. I just can't understand a doc that prefers pain meds over a more permanent treatment.
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Claire, very nice to have you back! I have a mammo tomorrow too, but will definitely be in your pocket for the us mad peacock.
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I was 43 when I was first diagnosed with DCIS and LCIS. Now I will be 51 in a week and was just diagnosed with an invasive cancer on the other breast. I still am having a hard time believing this is happening. I didn't feel sick or have any other symptoms. I still have a 12 yr old at home and am a single mom so it is hard. I just lost my dad at Christmas and he was my best support system. I have been feeling so alone and isolated. I am glad I found this site even if it's just to read so I don't feel like I am the only one out there going through this. Everyone says, "you will be fine. You are strong." Too be honest, some days I just want to cry in my beer (if I actually drank beer)
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Welcome, Dianarose! I'm sure you have vivid memories or your first round with B/C, so there really was no need to repeat again, was there? Bummer. I guess you know the drill, but let us know if you have any questions this time around. Did you have lumpectomy the first time? Will you have that again, or now go with Mx? Sorry your dad has passed. Lots of B/C Sisters here, tho', and some are not first timers either. You are not alone.
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