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  • marlegal
    marlegal Member Posts: 2,264
    edited February 2012

    Sherry, you win hands down. But...I get to see all my peeps this weekend ... dd and future sil coming for idnner tomorrow, then other dd and sil coming with my grandpuppy whom I adore on sunday for a quick visit on their way home from sil's parents. i love weekends :)

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  • Hauntie
    Hauntie Member Posts: 483
    edited February 2012

    Haven't checked in in a while. Hope all is well with everyone. Unlike fmakj, I am NOT going back to read the multitude of posts I've missed - no time. I only have the time to be on here now because I woke up at 3 a.m. and couldn't fall back to sleep.

    I'm having arthroscopic knee surgery on Tuesday, so I'll be home most of next week. The following week is school vacation, so I have that week off as well. I'm hoping to check in more frequently, at least during the next couple of weeks.

    I miss you gals.

    Lynda

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited February 2012

    Hi Hauntie,  Sorry insomnia was getting the better of you last night.  Maybe some pre-surgery anxiety thrown in too?   Good Luck on Tues. and you're welcome to spend some of your recuperation time here.  Will you be on crutches for a while?

    To all expecting visitors this weekend...enjoy!  It has been interesting that some of you became first-time Grandma's since you joined here.  The excitement could definitely be felt.  Not quite there yet myself...don't rush me. 

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited February 2012

    I'm not ranting here, but I do have some commentary...

    With B/C, we all try to find that place of "new normal."  Well, on a good day, I can even find my "old normal" from before B/C.  However, what bugs me are the middle-aged aches and pains (things like osteo-arthritis, etc.) and random health issues that are just signs of the body's degeneration.  Aging.  There's no reversing the hands of time.  Sometimes it is depressing to think that my current "normal" can't come near the health I enjoyed in my 30's.  Most days, I don't mind being middle-aged, but I am having one of those days where it is making me mopey.  

    I know the mood will pass.  Just writing it down for those that can relate.

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  • madpeacock
    madpeacock Member Posts: 369
    edited February 2012

    Well, I'm bummed. 

    Went for my diagnostic mammo on the "bad" side on Tuesday. I'm six months out from diagnosis. Had to wait for the radiologist to read it, and the tech came back and told me that all they saw were postsurgical/postradiation changes, as to be expected. So, I left thinking, whew! All was well!

    Got a letter from the imaging center yesterday that says my mammo "shows the need for further evaluation" and I need an ultrasound. Great. This is exactly how this whole mess started the first time. And of course my BS office is closed on Friday afternoons so I couldn't even call and get the US scheduled.

    I'm sure they just need to get a closer look at the fluid, lumps, and bumps from all the biopsies, surgery, rads, etc., but it still bugs me - a lot.  I'm not scared about it, strangely enough - just really annoyed that I have to think about all this again.

    Elimar - I know how you feel. I just want to move on and enjoy my life, but "they" won't let me! 

    Really windy and cold this weekend here - winter came back. Off to run errands and do normal things.  And maybe sulk a little bit.

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited February 2012
    madp,  I hear ya.  At least it does not involve more squishing.  I kind of like the ultrasound procedure (if the gel is warmed up, naturally!)  But you can't feel too "normal" when you have that appt. looming ahead of you, I know.  I guess the upside (when they tell you all is well) is that you will know they scrutinized you thoroughly.  All's well that ends well!
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  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 8,543
    edited February 2012

    Eli - I know too well those middle aged aches and pains.  Just when I thought I was leveling out and really getting back to some sense of normal, I am now having to deal with a probable pinching nerve in my spine.  I had an MRI on Thurs - which I had a panic attack - results to come on Tues.  I sure hope this is an easy fix.  I am trying to focus on doing some recon on my severely dimpled BC boob - leftovers from the lumpectomy.  I swear, if it is not one thing, it is another. 

    madpeacock.  Like Elimar said, at least it is not squishing this time.  I am crossing my fingers for B( results - let's just hope this is to clarify the lumps, bumps, and fluid from first surgery. 

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited February 2012

    jo,  That is what makes me disgruntled sometimes...the seeming inability to make headway with these ongoing middle-aged health issues!  Bleeeech!

    P.S.  And I am writing this from a perspective of someone who comes up "healthy on paper" most of the time.

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  • Eph3_12
    Eph3_12 Member Posts: 4,781
    edited February 2012

    Well, I relate to the middle aged health issues whole heartedly. But it's always better to be above ground! 

    Had my normal hair trim appt yesterday.  I've been discussing my eyebrow situation with my haircutter for several months now.  Since chemo, my eyebrows never did come back in like they were before (altho all other hair has made a tremendous come-back) and the brows that were there were sporadic & so white they weren't visible.  It's bugged the hell out of me because my face doesn't look "finished".  I've never been a make-up person & tho I took the "Look Good Feel Beautiful" class sponsered by ACS, I never got the hang of drawing eyebrows.  So yesterday, I had some extra time before my haircut, so I went in early, she & I discussed it & I did it!  I am no longer a waxing virgin! She waxed my non-existant, widely scattered brow hair & lightly dyed the remaining row or 2.  I have eyebrows.  I was so excited.  Met up with my mom & DD later--neither said anything.  I finally pointed it out to them; they seemed to think that my unhappiness re: the brows was all me & that no one else noticed!  Oh Well!

    My main thing that I learned from the whole experience is HOW THE HELL CAN THOSE OF YOU WHO DO BIKINI WAXING DO IT!!!!?????!!!!!!??????  Tears sprang involuntarily out of my eyes when she was ripping that wax off! Ouch!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  

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  • carol6026
    carol6026 Member Posts: 45
    edited February 2012

    Sorry ladies, have not been on in months. Slipped into a deep depression, after having te removed and all the complications. I am ready now to move on to the next step and have the te put back in. Hoping it is better the second time around. Hope all are doing well and god bless.

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited February 2012

    carol6026,  I congratulate you for reaching your one year out milestone, but so sorry you could not have moved further along with your recon. already.  May your patience be rewarded.

    That's what we were mentioning today, that feeling of going two steps forward, one step back; or worse...one step forward, two steps back.  I want to be done with nagging and lingering complaints, and be free of them for a while.  As a middle-aged woman, is that asking too much?

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  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 8,543
    edited February 2012

    Eli - I am with you and no it is not too much to ask.

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited February 2012

    Hi Ladies, Am home recovering from a partial MX. 4 hr surgery and 1 night in the hosp. Drain is not to bad, but the burning in my upper back on the surg side is bad if I move. I believe this is from teh node removal.. Waiting on the final path to see if any more sugery is needed.. but surgeon was confident..

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited February 2012
    Hey, Lori48!  Have been waiting for you to check in.  Would not be surprised if the pain is coming from the node removal.  The nerves in that area can get aggitated and refer pain down the arm or around to the back.  Sorry to say it can last for days, maybe even a couple weeks, but if it causes too much trouble or does not seem to improve over time, let your doc know.  Will hope you are all done with surgery and get to move another step forward.
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  • marlegal
    marlegal Member Posts: 2,264
    edited February 2012

    Eph, I had to laugh at your post. I have frequently wondered about the bikini wax issue!! I get my eyebrows waxed every couple months so I've kind of gotten used t the feeling but no way in he** can I imagine getting a bikini wax! Luckily for me, there's not  much chance I'll ever be in a bikini again so it's kind of a moot point, but still :)

    Middle aged aches/pains/problems ... I think what I hate most is the fact that the creaking knees and aching back remind me that I am NOT 25 anymore. I swear, mentally I can be in my twenties in a heartbeat, so that smack of reality I get with bad joints just ticks me off no end!

    Lory, I hope things go well for you this time around, and I'm glad you're back on the boards. Depression is one of the most debilating illnesses around and stll so misunderstood. Hugs to you.

    Madp, I would be bummed about that too. I've had a couple times where they wanted a follow-up u/s but they always told me that right away while I was still there, so I'd just go in immediately and get it done. No fair sending you home with a good report and then sending a letter. There should be rules about this dammit!!! Looking forward to hearing your sigh of relief when they tell you everything is fine.

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  • Lumpynme
    Lumpynme Member Posts: 747
    edited February 2012

    i was thinking a few days ago that i really am in pretty good shape at 58 (forget about BC for a minute!) til it dawned on me that 58 is almost 60-crap! i am NOT that old!!!!!!! i don't FEEL 58....

    sorry-no relevance to much-just had to pipe in..having one of those days where i have no control over what is coming outta my mouth!

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited February 2012

    Exactly, marlegal!  My mental age and my physical age have a great wide chasm between them, and the leap to reality is always jarring.

                                            

                                             (Use imagination to picture mid-age woman instead.)

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  • Ceeztheday
    Ceeztheday Member Posts: 403
    edited February 2012

    Of interest...





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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited February 2012
    Ceeztheday,  Despite the headline that sounds like it came straight from an informercial, the article and technology were interesting.   Probably will be a while before it filters down to the average patient.  I wonder what kind of cost is attached to it?
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  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited February 2012

    Joni, you NEED a new avatar now!!!!!

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  • KittyGirl2011
    KittyGirl2011 Member Posts: 537
    edited February 2012

    madpeacock, sorry to hear about your first good news then not so good news.  Bummer!  Makes me wonder about mine coming up on Feb 15 too.  I feel like I'm back to my "normal" and didn't really feel concerned but now you got me wondering if its just bravado.  Undecided  I really don't want to feel depressed or anxious but it seems to be creeping in on me.  I guess I'll just have to wait till then.  I REALLY hate the waiting!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Elimar, I really know what you mean.  So many things I love to do and the body just won't cooperate anymore like it used too.  Frustrating to the max!!!  Kitty

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  • madpeacock
    madpeacock Member Posts: 369
    edited February 2012

    Okay, I sulked for a while, but then some neighbors I had not seen for a while invited us over for soup and drinks. That was fun. I made a chicken/chorizo chowder and cornbread and they made minestrone. Lots of chatting - they both lost parents within DAYS of each other recently, so a rough patch for them, but they were ready to just relax and have some fun for a change. Just what I needed. Suppposed to watch "The Help" but we talked too long and never got to it. 

    Bikini wax? Uh...no.

    I may not be 25 any more, but on the other hand, I am only 49 and look and feel younger! 

    Time for bed - it's cold and time to go burrow! Laughing 

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  • madpeacock
    madpeacock Member Posts: 369
    edited February 2012
    Kitty - think we posted at the same time! Yeah, I was fine until a day or two before and then I was grumpy.  THen I was fine since they told me all was well. Almost didn't open the letter Friday because I thought it was a standard "thanks for coming" letter. Oh well. Will call Monday and get it scheduled and go from there. 
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  • Kay_G
    Kay_G Member Posts: 3,345
    edited February 2012

    Sorry about that mad peacock. I agree with marlegal, not fair at all! I'm sure you'll get benign results soon. Janice, I am going for mammogram on the 15th as well. So far not nervous, I am much more nervous about that transvaginal US a couple of weeks later. It's always something I guess.

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  • Hauntie
    Hauntie Member Posts: 483
    edited February 2012

    Mad peacock - Hoping your next good news is all GOOD!

    For those of you facing mammograms, I have one word - XANAX. It was years, before I would go for mine without taking one first. The anxiety just before and the waiting for the results was just too much to deal with. I used to always have my mammos on the same day as an MD apt, so I could get the results right away and have some place to be talked off the ledge if the news was bad.

    One of the best things about the PMX this summer - no more mammograms for me!!!

    Kay - Re the TV ultrasound? If you've never had one before, it's pretty quick and painless. Hoping for all good news for you, too.

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  • Momine
    Momine Member Posts: 7,859
    edited February 2012

    Elimar, same here. The worst is when I find myselfnflirting lightly with some nice guy, only to realize that I could be his mom.

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  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 8,543
    edited February 2012

    Kay - I insisted on a transvaginal US last year when I went for my PAP.  It is really quick and painless.  The good thing about this one is no waiting for results.  MY GYN had me look at the screen and told me what it was showing.  

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  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited February 2012

    My transvaginal US brought me to my knees!!! "We" were trying to find my only ovary and she dug around so hard I almost passed out!!! There hadn't been much action there for a while but still....!!!!!!

    Kitty, that looks like a pirate kitty....ARRRRRRRRR!!!!

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  • mumito
    mumito Member Posts: 4,562
    edited February 2012
    I hate those US as well but my Gyno likes to order them.Yell
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  • BarbaraA
    BarbaraA Member Posts: 7,378
    edited February 2012

    {{Carol}}

    Eli, I just turned 60 but my brain thinks I am 40. Go figure. Brain, please tell my body it is 40, OK?

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