100,000+ habits of effective sisters! Sweating the small stuff!

We all need to reserve the right to filter information both in and out, to suit our personal needs.

Myself, i will ask you all about you, and REALLY CARE, but if someone asks about me, that's off- limits.  I am very private, and will only share what I think may help.

BTW, spent many years behind a bar, which I see as part pour-a-drink, part care-about-your-troubles, and part day-care.  And I think what made me successful was that I REALLY DID care about my "people."

People interest me, however, I am in a place where I need to have more interest in ME and less in "people."

I also think this is just a fiunction of age...

not too many of us left fuzzy, we need to stick together. 

I am not very good at sharing my experience, although i realize now that 1. I have PLENTY, and 2. I am not the sap i once was.  I am amazed at the things some folks share either sitting at the bar, or waiting at dance class, or at the playground, or WHEREVER.  I am just not like that, sometimes longing to tell people EXACTLY what I think, but knowing I have to sit next to them next week at dance/skate class. 

I guess what I'm saying is if someone asks how I'm doin', the answer is fine. 

But I confess to being fascinated with how everyone else is doing...

Fuzzy-  Is there anyplace inside you that says I survived chemo so I can survive this.  I have a quaking fear of heights and stairs without risers.  I know why I have it, my father and grandfather used to pretend to throw me off high places when I was a kid.  Even knowing why didn't help me deal with it.  Recently I climed the steps in an old narrow lighthouse.  I've done it twice.  Pre chemo I could barely make it and thought I would throw up and cry and I did freeze.  Post chemo I kept saying to myself I did chemo I can do this.  I said that over and over agian.  While I did have some uneasyness my fear level was about a 3 out of 10.  REMEBER YOU'VE DONE CHEMO YOU CAN DO ANYTHING 

Thanks for sharing Fuzz.  I am almost two years since diagnosis and I see you are at a year.  I was still feeling pretty shaky at a year.  I was still reeling from all the bad news I had received.  Still physically unwell.  Still scared sh*tless.  

Perhaps your swimming story is your strength story.  I am struck by the fact that you were in such a beautiful happy place and then saved from drowning in a way we read about in books. What a moment of beauty to come out of your Uncle's stupidity.  The universe was looking out for you then. The universe will look out for you on that plane. 

Flower essences, esp Bach's Rescue Remedy. Or Five Flower is American variation.  Specific to fears is aspen and rock rose for terror, and cherry plum for losing control.  Can use every few minutes, a drop at time, even put drops in your water.  Can use for weeks before leaving, all the time when flying. And yes, you survived somuch already.

Yes, they are merely essences of plants and trees, so there are no reactions and no chance to OD on them.  One reason I chose them to work with is I cannot maake a mistake.  You can order them online and most health stores have them, I think even the drugstore might have the basic Rescue Remedy. 

Have used them for pets and family and self for decades. 

The combination of Rescue Remedy would be quite practicle for this setting but....

If you want to make your own mixture, you might choose the Rock Rose, Cherry Plum, Aspen, Schlanthrus  (balance during and after flight, I recall that getting off the plane left me feeling uncertain, like being in a hospital for several days then let loose feels off kilter).  All these together would be very calming.  You can start taking this days before the trip, just add a few drops to water and sip during day, some on pillow at night. If you buy all four, you place 5 drops of each into one dropper bottle that has been filled w spring water or RO water.  May want to add a 1/2 teaspoon of vinegar for preservative, but you will be using it quickly enough so as not to need it.  Most of the time, alcohol like brandy is used, but you wouldn't want to take that on the plane I suppose.  

Also, you might want some lavender oil, just a drop in a carrier lotion or oil for calming.  This is good for highly excitable children too.