Have any of you found love after your diagnosis and treatment?

Take care of yourself this weekend sweetbean!! SO glad you got through this first part!  xo

Thank you my bc sisters for your support.  It means alot.  

I hear you klynnz. Can you tell us more a about feeling broken?  I know it is hard.  I feel like an alcoholic ( I don't drink) ie, one day at a time not thinking of Franklin and resisting the urge to try to contact him.  So tempting. 

We all have a similar story, and have to learn to avoid getting sucked into these awful situations. Allow us to find someone that deserves us and has earned it and stop settling. It's so hard not to, I know I do it, I have this fantasy person in my head and want the happily ever after so bad that I'm willing to start letting the real me down and become a door mat. That's why I'm working on myself, and not looking at dating right now. I need to be a stronger person and more confident in myself to stand up to losers and be able to tell them to take a hike.

It's normal. Are you using something like glaxol base ... put some on. If possible keep the skin exposed to the air to try to get it to heal. Let doctor know tomorrow before next rads.

I've also been sucked in ... giving relationships too much time .... if they don't work 100% from the get go, then they won't work. I always thought things would get better but they never do. Wasted way too much time.  

Sorry, I have no experience with that. My doctors won't do implants following radiation

I already called and she said it was fine.  Do you have any advice on helping heal?

Thanks, kiley!  How long did it take for your incision to heal?

Denise, I think you are very smart and very strong. A good role model. If you took him back, he would do the same thing again. 

Sweetbean, it took several months to heal, but that was due to extensive surgery.  I think most people heal faster with implant surery.  My friend, in New Jersey, took about a month, but she did not have rads.  It just takes some time to heal were all a little different, It will be okay sweetbean.  Keep your dr. posted on the drainage.  Hugs, Kiley

I keep making my mother look at the incision (she's a trooper).  She said it looks better.  

The bandage was dry this morning - it must be healing!!!  I'm very happy - whoo hooo!!!!  Going to buy an amazing bra this morning!

So this guy I've seen a few times keeps jumping in and out of my life - tell me what you guys think.  After enjoying an activity together and it's time to part ways, he says stuff like, "call me sometime", or "I'm so busy right now but we'll try to work it out (getting together)".  He's never made any kind of promise about when and where we'll meet again, a week or so goes by and I'm thinking he's not interested in me, and then POOF, he calls and wants to get together.  Maybe he's just taking the slow boat, maybe he's stringing me along, maybe he can fit me in only occasionally, maybe I'm thinking too hard about it.  Since he's so rarely available, I never call him and when he does call I act chatty, happy , busy but never push for a "next date".  Problem is I really like him lots.  Hmmmm  Guess all I can do is take one day at a time!

sweetbean, so glad you're healing up!

Rakulynda, have you ever told this guy no? Tell him you have plans or don't feel like getting together. He isn't wanting a relationship and it appears to him you're ok with his games?

kward,

No, it isn't infected.  I'm still on antibiotics, plus it is just a clear fluid.  My PS said it is normal.  I tend to have more drainage when I am up - last night, it didn't drain at all, for instance.  I still have the steristrips on both incisions, so I can't really see what's going on.  I just keep changing the dressing - but again, it isn't very much.  I'm just obssesive.  Right now, i am worried about them dropping and fluffing and being even.  This exchange process is waaaay more stressful than I thought it would be.  *sigh* 

Rakulynda, in my opinion, it sounds like he does enjoy your company as he keeps coming back. Do I remember correctly that he has always said he had little time? Did you ask him why? Also, does his profile say what he is looking for such as dating, casual, long term? If it says dating or casual, that is what you guys are doing, but if it says long term and he hasn't explained his busy life, you may want to ask. How long has this been going on? Again, this depends on what he says he is looking for.



Then you need to ask yourself what are you looking for and how fast does it need to happen? Even when I do get ready to date, I'm a single mom with very little babysitters so dating will be default be slow moving (think snail pace) not because I wouldn't be interested but because life is complicated sometime.



If you feel he's been honest so far, just enjoy his company when you can while you continue to date others. Enjoy life, its all we got!