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Hey all I have a question I finished my last round of chemo on the third of this month and it has been three weeks and I feel zonked. The tiredness just overtake me I spend days in the house because I just don't feel like moving. It has made me depressed also like I am giving up on myself but I only feel like I can do what I can do. Please tell me I am not alone. I just need to know that this will not last long.

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  • mrsnjband
    mrsnjband Member Posts: 1,409
    edited January 2012

    You are not alone.  Been there done that.  How long it last varies, just give yourself some time and do what you can.  So don't be too hard on yourself, give your body time to recoup.  Hang in there. NJ

  • Leah_S
    Leah_S Member Posts: 8,458
    edited January 2012

    Blayze, I think a lot of us figure, "Chemo is over! Now I'll feel fine!" Nope. Those healing, difficult drugs are still in us and it takes a LONG time until we feel better. Slowly, slowly, you'll get there.

    Congratulations on finishing!

    Leah

  • Blayze7
    Blayze7 Member Posts: 35
    edited January 2012

    Thanks a lot Leah and NJ I say this because my family looks at me and think okay chemo finished so back to the regularly scheduled program. My best friend is upset with me because I don't come out often and even asked me if I am using this as a crutch. I was a little offended but seeing me so different than I was before makes everyone feel that way. My hair is growing on my head but my eyelashes and eyebrows are falling out. My doctor said it will be awhile so I just take one day at a time. I don't think anybody wants to accept the fact that there is a new normal and that I Angelique G Roberts will not be the same as before.

  • Faye33
    Faye33 Member Posts: 180
    edited January 2012

    I'm pretty sure my oncologist said that I should plan at least as much time to recover from the chemo as I spent taking chemo.  I took 5 months of chemo, so she said plan another 5-7 months to feel very tired.  I can honestly say I think it took me longer then that even.  I still tire much easier then I used to, but I am much better then I was a year ago.

    Take it easy and hopefully your friends and family can understand.

  • dlb823
    dlb823 Member Posts: 9,430
    edited January 2012

    Blayze, I could barely climb a flight of stairs after TCx4!  It took me weeks -- months -- to get my muscle strength back.  And the emotional part is a whole other thing.  Something that helped me a lot though, was walking.  Just being outdoors and having time alone to process what I'd been through.  I know it's probably pretty chilly now in NJ, but if you can just start by walking around the block a few times and build from there, it might help you feel better sooner.   (((Hugs)))   Deanna

  • pumela115
    pumela115 Member Posts: 231
    edited January 2012

    Blayze7,  My last chemo was Jan. 13th 2011 and i still don't have my energy back all the way. I feel alot better than when i was doing chemo, but not 100%. Give yourself time, nobody gets it unless they have been through it, i've noticed. This is the time for you to be selfish. Take care of you, take all the time you need. I don't think we will ever be the same, but we will have a new normal. Your doctor is right, just one day at a time! It will get better.  Best of luck!!

     Pam 

  • linnyhopp
    linnyhopp Member Posts: 567
    edited January 2012

    I will be having my 4th of 6 chemo treatments tomorrow and saw the MO today.  I asked him how long it will be until I feel more like myself after finishing all 6 treatments and he told me at least 2 to 3 months to get better energy back.  I know for me the fatigue is worse each time and of course the third week, just when I start to feel better...wham!  But, I am going to try and tell myself it will all be worth it and keep plugging along, because after all that's the choice and decision I have made.  Hope you start to feel wonderful really soon!  I hope your family realizes what a toll this all takes on your body.  As so many women who have already finished treatment will tell you...you are not alone...we are in this fight together!  Linda

  • Racy
    Racy Member Posts: 2,651
    edited January 2012

    I agree with the other ladies. My muscles definitely suffered and I only started to feel like myself once I had a decent amount of hair. Take things at a pace that you feel comfortable with. Set small goals and take satisfaction in achieving them. Continue to get help with chores if you can.



    I highly recommend an antidepressant to lift your mood. This will support you to get up and out which in turn will further help in your physical and emotional recovery.

  • vivirasselena
    vivirasselena Member Posts: 278
    edited January 2012

    Oh my gosh!  you're describing me to a tee after I finished my chemo! I agree with Racy, 100%...it's not only our physical self that has been battered, but our psychological self as well, if anyone needs an antidepressant after what we've been through....well, it's US!  for sure!

    Set VERY SMALL goals......write them out the night before.....and mark them off.  Give yourself a big ole break......you've been through the fires of hell.

    It gets better, girl.  It really does.  Just give yourself a big fat break and be where you are.

    BTW.....the chemo will stay in your body for a year...yep, a year.  That stuff is no joke. 

  • mpeaches
    mpeaches Member Posts: 155
    edited January 2012

    My oncologist had a really useful, for me at any rate, suggestion. I'm very impatient with myself, and wanted to feel better NOW!  He suggested I compare how I was feeling month to month.  As in - I feel better THIS month than I did last, rather than day to day.  I hope that makes sense!

    TRY to be patient, rest, take care of yourself.  It's hard when our families, friends and co-workers think that because chemo is over that we're supposed to be back to where we were before hand, and it just does NOT work that way!

    Purrs,

    Jenn

  • panamajayne
    panamajayne Member Posts: 136
    edited February 2012

    you are not alone and neither am I ......damnit.

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