Calling all ladies in their 20's

Amandabiv - Good Luck!

Hrello girls,

I started chemotherapy am glad coz i feel well i can lgo out n see my friends feeling so normal no side effects i hvnt lost my hair yet but on the verge but i bought an awesome wig i still look so beutiful n have some date plans wish ur enjoying ur days as well Live with cancer as a part of u Be polite it will as well We can beat it am sure my prayers to you I wish we all get well soon coz a lot of bautiful things are waiting for us girls on their 20s mwah 

Hi ladies - checking in.

For those of you getting chemo, I recommend discussing with your doctor before having any alcohol. My doctor didn't want me drinking at all during my chemo (though he made an exception one time for a special event). 

Rosaa - I agree with MMM. It's great that you feel energetic enough to be out with friends, but be sure to listen to your body as fatigue and other symptoms can be cumulative. Also, be careful to not get sick as this is cold/flu season and you definitely don't need to deal with that on top of everything else!

Amanda - Thinking of you and hoping your surgery went well yesterday.

MissRC - I think I might go wigless in about 2 months too! Or shall I say scarfless since I haven't been wearing my wigs at all!

I'm going to try to post a few pictures of me with my hair regrowth so that those of you who are currently getting chemo will have an idea what to expect. Just need to figure it out

I am home from surgery and man do I feel so much better being at home! I am very sore but for the most part its all ok! I have looked in the mirror which is something I shouldnt have done so soon but oh well it to shall pass!! Hoping everyone has a great day!

Hey girls

 after reading all ur posts m thinking tht i should have mastectomy rather lumpectomy my docotr is favouring a lumpectomy right now but we should first see the chemo results then decide wat better suits me i dnt mind to lose this shitty breast that wanted to kill me n replace it with a protheisis one All I neeed now is to get well n carrying on my life from where i stopped BC wont win its battle We re young and our desire for life will kill it my docotr told me that i will be ok soon just i need patience for the long treatement process I will consider this year as a break from all the matters in my life and as a test that i must pass BC learned me a lot of things I used to be someone selfish and careless I used to hate myself and to cry over lost things over an hassole that i thpught he loved me enough BC taught me that there are a lot of things more important than love and relationships and that when I fall down I still have my lovely people around my family and my real  friends for my xbf I used to be a pretty fashionnable girl that was a part from his luxurous and prestigeous lifestyle NOW am useless when I told him about my illness I thought that he would stand by me he just said a few words like he is so sorry to hear that and walked away Oh Life teaches a lot of things!!!! Incredible if I were at this situation I would have stopped everything and stood by him I dnt know why I want to share this with you all may be because I feel that we re a family now sharing the same thing and that you can understand how I feel more than everybody else I see hope and strength through my parents support I feel again a child they treat me so and am so happy to realize how much they do care about me I will overcome this nightmare and I will go for y cabin crew position again but with a new way of thinking and an ardent love to life and a strong faith in God  

Dear Amanda

thank you for your encouragement I really need it I have some news for u girls for reconstruction I read an article that says that surgeons have foud a new way of getting us a natural and biological breast through taking the fat from our stomach or leg and reconstructing our breast it s so good and the breast will be a normal one and can even increase in weight if we add weight so we ll be the same as before i want to share this with you and please ask your surgeons about it my surgeon has already talked to me about it and I agreed wish you all happy days and good shape love u all my family  

MiniMacs

Thank you I really want to share some positive ideas wiith you all because we really need it to be able to beat this awful monster even though I go through  disappointments and depression like you all yest I spent the night crying thinking i will be dead soon even if my surgeon says that i will get well soon whenever I remamber the word Cancer tears come out inconsciously am trying to find a new meanings to my life and m getting closer to God through prayers when I see pity in pple eyes I get crasy even  staff at the hospital i can even imagnine that they re saying poor pretty girl this breaks my heart  I feel as if am punished or smthing I keep on imagining that m fine and m trying to prepare myself from the wordt to come with chemo yest i found some falling hair n I got crasy even my family they cannot comfort me how much I miss the precense of a guy that I love I feel lonely  but i feel so much anger when I remeber my xbf reaction this makes me stronger and eager to get back better than before n show him that my life didnt stop out of cancer and that am a survivor and a great person as wel may be this anger will be the driving key to my quick heal 

I know quite well that I have to focus on my health first and that my faith in God will help through all this 

hey Melanie

I lost all my hair in my second chemo i still hav 6 rounds and i feel desperate did you finish your treatement ? how long it took you? did u do mastectomy? am asking all those question my case is similar to urs though m grade 2 stage2 IDC can u give me further infos thank you

I read that a young girl died out of BC after a long battle this makes me feel desperate and  I feel that i will die soon as well (((((((((( Help!!!!!!!!!!!

Hello

For me I still dont know whether its HER2 - OR + my tests havnt got ready yet my doctor told me it ll take some time tht s y am scared all I knw is the biopsy result that showd IDC stage2 grade2 with no lumpth nodes involvement and it didnt spread to my body as well good news at least and am through chemo coz my tumor size is 8cm the dctor wants to shrink it before surgery all this scares me a lot

Sorry I've been MIA ladies!

Rosaa - I agree with Nanna that it's best to cut out added sugar whenever possible, eat a good amount of fruits and vegetables (sugars from those don't count in my book since it's not added!), whole grains and other fiber rich foods, and eat moderate amounts of meat and try to avoid processed foods. And I agree with MMM too about limiting soy (I haven't cut it out completely, but I do try to avoid it) and eating hormone free foods (I buy as much as possible organic as well). 

As for the relationships thing, I think BC can really put them to the test. You find out who isn't worth spending your time with and who is. I had a strong relationship with my husband before the cancer, but we have since gotten even closer. I am really thankful because I know not everyone is that lucky. I have also had friends step up and others disappoint, so it is really a learning experience. 

And I also wanted to say that it's okay to feel down at times during this process. It's especially hard when others our age don't make it. At stage 2 though, the odds are definitely in your favor, so try to remember that. You also have an opportunity to change things in your life for the better (be it diet, exercise, relationships, work, etc). I'm learning to let the little things go and to try to make the most of my life. It's not easy as I see others around me having babies and all I have is a baby in heaven (miscarried in 2010) and a multi-year wait while I take Tamoxifen, but I am trying to keep myself busy doing other things I enjoy.

Nanna - I chipped a tooth during chemo just while eating bread (and it was soft - dipped in soup)! Interesting that you also have chipped teeth. 

Amanda - How are you feeling a few weeks post surgery? Did you get your drains out? I agree that we shouldn't let doctors make the surgical decision for us as long as both options are on the table. As for the deformity, I had a different experience when I looked in the mirror for the first time. I thought it would look worse, but they did put in a tissue expander at the same time as my mastectomy and filled it a little bit so I had something there when I woke up. Is that what you have? If you're getting reconstruction, think of it all as a work in progress. Just know it will look better and better over time. Other than my new boob flattening out (like my real one does) when I lie down (it just sticks up hehe), you really can't tell under clothes that I've had a mastectomy. Hang in there!

Melanie Ann - I've had a different experience with the hair growing back post chemo. It's been nearly 4 months since my last chemo and I have about an inch as well. It started coming in about 6 weeks post chemo. So far it's similar to the hair I had before...we'll see if it stays that way. I guess everyone is different, but I would have expected more than an inch after 11 months. Have you trimmed it at all? I have been eating a lot of fruits and vegetables and I know that eggs are also excellent for hair growth. As for the eyebrows, they thinned out for me after chemo, but then they came back really quickly as well. 

Melanie_Ann: I just finished the same chemotherapy as yours an will start 7 weeks of radiation on feb, 6. My onc told me, that my hair should grow after 6-7 so I´m still waiting. My last chemo session is now 10 days ago (but I still have brows and lashes, not as many as before, but enough). Can you please tell me when they put you an Tamoxifen? They want me to start in 2-3 week from now and I´m a little bit scared.

Rosaa: I think we all know this moments of panic during chemotherapy and how much negative news can influence our thoughts. But please remember: you are rosaa an no one else. you had no positive nodes and you cancer has grade 2, so you really have a good chances to stay healthy after all the treatment you get! Bad moments are normal along the way..I had a lot of them and I can understand that it makes you sad that your boyfriend left. But now you know who deserves you and who does not. And its better to know about this now than to spend years with a man, who runs away, because he is scared and not strong enough.

kk11: Congrats :-) But you are still on tamoxifen? I always thouhgt, that the period does not come back when I have to take tam....I also get zoladex for 2 years. I hope I can still have children after this. It´s so sad...a friend of mine is pregnant and I got cancer. Of course I´m happy for her, but it is not easy to handle.