I am alone ...

Germanfrench
Germanfrench Member Posts: 21
edited June 2014 in Advocacy

Ladys .. i am 63 years old and on immigrant from Germany. after 5 years my husband hav abendet me.. i loost my work in Germany, my healtcare... now i have not any hope wat i can du. I dont can work... my english ist not very well ... and i am for many work to old. I dont can going back... but i dont have on livingplace, .. i have nathing.... over now 3 years i must fiting with this man wat have triting me than a slav .. i never hav a bett,.. he have sending me of the roof to clining this, have giv me to the wedding in workinginstrument that i can better work in the backyard ... ( i dont like to talk more over this .. it is very painfull ...)

now i am very lonley and not anybady can understud me in the USA... i am alon with my cancer an with my fair...and i dont can explain my self....i dont can writing well in english and also i dont can speak very well .... on long long history with this agly man.... wat like to killing me ... only for money. this i dont can understud .. but LIVE is so importend .. and i have fighting so mutch...

i like to faund women wat can talk with me and can give me little HOPE .. nor more.

Marie 

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  • kathleen1966
    kathleen1966 Member Posts: 793
    edited January 2012

    Well it sounds like your husband was horrible to you so it is good that he has left?  I think your English is pretty good.  I wish I could direct you to the right area for help.  But I have NO idea what to tell you.  Do you have a Gilda's Club near you?  Where are you located?  Gilda's club is a good place to go for support. I didn't understand the part about the roof and the working instrument. Are you saying you have no-where to live?  There has to be some-one on here that speaks German who you can connect with in America.  Hopefully they will respond soon....

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  • exbrnxgrl
    exbrnxgrl Member Posts: 12,424
    edited January 2012

    Hi Marie,

    I'm so sorry that you are in this situation. What languages do you speak/write? If you let us know , maybe someone who speaks your language will respond and it will be easier for you to chat. I wish you the best and hope you find some support. Do your doctors or medical center have social workers or support groups?

    Caryn

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  • makingway
    makingway Member Posts: 799
    edited January 2012

    There is a shelter that you could call. They might find a safe home for you.

    706-885-1525
    24 Hour Crisis Line 

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  • Moderators
    Moderators Member Posts: 25,912
    edited January 2012

    Germanfrench, I'm sorry you find yourself in this situation. There are resources and organizations that can help!

    Please read the section of the main Breastcancer.org site called Financial Issues to start, as well as the section Paying for Your Care.

    It sounds as though you're living in the USA? Is there a German-speaking community where you live? Maybe someone who speaks your native language at your church or other place of worship? Your hospital social worker or cancer center nurse navigator may be able to suggest other local support agencies.

    Judith and the Mods

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  • Mary-Lou
    Mary-Lou Member Posts: 2,230
    edited January 2012

    You do very well writing. I still could understand.

     I'm not much help. I speak English, but I'm in the south. So I speak kinda down home style.

    In my first marriage I was abused. I drove to the Police Dept. and they took me to a women's shelter. Best thing I ever did. Second best thing was marring my new husband and knowing what love really is. Cancer or not.

    There is life out there. I wish you the very best. Keep it touch and let us know what you need. Someone will help I'm sure.

    ((((HUGS)))))

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  • Mary-Lou
    Mary-Lou Member Posts: 2,230
    edited January 2012
    Thanks Judith and the Mods SmileI love that you care.
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  • thefuzzylemon
    thefuzzylemon Member Posts: 2,630
    edited January 2012

    You sound absolutely lovely! What if you tried one step at a time? You have friends right here...sisters who do love you and will stay by you! Next...check with Your doc and the social worker at the hospital...tell them everything you want!! Just start asking and know that everything you need is yours...

    now...shake both of them bastards out of your head!!! Ex Sandy

    Cancer have got to get out of Your head so you can take care of you!!

    Hang in there sweetie...

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  • Christine86
    Christine86 Member Posts: 55
    edited January 2012

    Hey honey. I am so sorry for everything you have gone through. The way your ex treated you was pretty heartless and I honestly believe you're better off without him. 

    As for your English, you did pretty well for us to understand you but I know it's hard in the working world. I know it's easy to feel alone in your situation but we understand where you're coming from and we are here for you.

    Hang in there honey. You seem strong. 

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  • Hindsfeet
    Hindsfeet Member Posts: 2,456
    edited January 2012

    There are a lot of women who here who are supportive and kind. Feel free to pm us if you don't feel comfortable telling us where you live. Hopefully someone here can help you find the help you need. Not knowing exactly where you are or your needs, I wouldn't know where to began without knowing more.

    (((hugs))) Evebarry

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  • sheila888
    sheila888 Member Posts: 25,634
    edited January 2012

    Germanfrench.......Don't worry about your English i understood it. I have some issues with my english too.

    I was also an immigrant from Istanbul-Turkey. Came to this country on 1971. i knew my husband from my home country. We came here got married.....plenty of emotional abuse....2 daughters i have which they are adults now. one is 34 and the other one is 31.

    He left me right after i had my second baby for another woman. It was so painful

    It was such a long time ago. i'm grateful he left. i'm about your age.

    We will all be your friends here.

    We care for our sisters in need.

    Big hugs from NY ♥

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  • Germanfrench
    Germanfrench Member Posts: 21
    edited January 2012

    thanks many for you all ... you are helping me and i can found out thinks over your tips.

    thanks for the gifts .... you are friends.!!! and sisters.

    i will talk with my doc here an i will see that he can helping me with in socialworker .. I was not knowing that i can have this ...

    I living in Florida - Pensacola

    Thanks for you helping and i will reading more. in this forum 

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  • Germanfrench
    Germanfrench Member Posts: 21
    edited January 2012

    hello shyla .. thanks for all your words. this helping me ... and i was many times in the tuerkey. I know Istanbul, Ankara, Malatja.. and also Bedia Akartuerk is on long time on friend of me...

    I like to talk with you more.

    me Mail adress is (Edited by BCO Mods to protect this member's privacy. We strongly advise against posting personal email addresses in public; save that for PMs with people you know and trust.)

    Marie 

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  • Layla2525
    Layla2525 Member Posts: 827
    edited January 2012

    Dear Germanfrenc, You are not alone...you are here with us on this site. Check with the patient coordinator at your hospital or doctor...they can help you find someone who speaks your language or if there is a large university nearby ...there may be students studying your language who would love to talk with you all day in your language and perhaps your guardian angel will find you someone who speaks your language and is going thru this same illness.  I know sometimes when I least expect it, I find someone to help me.  I too sometimes feel very alone with this illness but thats not real....we are never really alone.

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  • vivirasselena
    vivirasselena Member Posts: 278
    edited January 2012
    Ich habe eine Google-Suche für deutsche Gesellschaften in Ihrer Nähe (Pensacola) kam ich mit
    Hansa Club, Inc, sind sie ein "deutsch-amerikanische" Gesellschaft. Ich bin sicher, sie würden ein großartiger Ort zu starten, um Ihnen helfen, eine fließend zweisprachig Gehilfin es in Florida. Von dort aus Sie die Netzwerkeinstellungen und entweder durch eine Kirche oder der American Cancer Society kann es finden Sie Unterstützung in Ihrer Muttersprache.
    Du bist nicht allein. Wir werden Sie in jeder Weise können wir helfen.
    Wir sind alle in einem Boot.
    (Ich tat dies mit "Google Translate" damit ich weiß, es ist nicht perfekt Übersetzung, sollte aber helfen.
    Blessings
    michele
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  • tracie23
    tracie23 Member Posts: 598
    edited January 2012

    Marie, If you don't mind me asking , what state are you in?

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  • vivirasselena
    vivirasselena Member Posts: 278
    edited January 2012

    She's in Florida, Tracie....Pensacola.

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  • Galsal
    Galsal Member Posts: 1,886
    edited January 2012

    Sehr gut vivirasselena!  Du bist ein schone Damen.  Okay, so my german isn't so good any longer.  It's been several decades since I've used while stationed in Germany.  I've not doubt you understand what I wrote, despite the poor context and grammer.

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  • newfmama
    newfmama Member Posts: 107
    edited January 2012

    Dear Marie, you are not alone if you can visit this forum.  There are hundreds/thousands of loving, caring women here to encourage, support and befriend you.  I hope you will reach out to your doctor to see if there are resources in your immediate area.  The American Cancer Society may also be able to assist.  There must be a local chapter near your hometown.

    Please know I will keep you in my prayers and be happy to communicate with you (even though I don't know German).

    Hugs,

    Deborah

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited January 2012

    Germanfrench - Niemand sollte durch diese ohne gute Unterstützung zu gehen. Hoffentlich gibt es lokale Unterstützung Gruppen, die Sie mit eingreifen kann.

    In Bezug auf Sprache betrifft, Google bei http://translate.google.com/# übersetzen sollen Ihnen helfen, auf dem Brett. Sie können in Deutsch zu schreiben und es wird Ihnen sagen die Engländer, oder Sie können die Kommentare / Antworten in Englisch zu kopieren und es wird Ihnen sagen die deutsche.

    For those (like me) who don't speak German, above was a translation of:

    Germanfrench...No one should have to go through this without good support. Hopefully there are local support groups you can engage with.

    Regarding language concerns, Google translate at http://translate.google.com/# should help you to communicate on the board, You can write in German and it will tell you the English, or you can copy the comments/replies in english and it will tell you the German.

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  • dlb823
    dlb823 Member Posts: 9,430
    edited January 2012

    Another easy-to-use translator website is:   http://babelfish.yahoo.com/        Deanna

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  • Galsal
    Galsal Member Posts: 1,886
    edited January 2012

    The best thing Marie ever did was to contact a site like this and surround herself with caring people!

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  • Moderators
    Moderators Member Posts: 25,912
    edited January 2012

    Sollten Wir ein Deutsch sprechende Gruppe anfangen? Es mag sein, dass es genügend Frauen gibt? Wir haben eine Gruppe, die Französisch sprechen.  Sagen Sie uns bescheid. Grüsse von Uns.  

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  • Moderators
    Moderators Member Posts: 25,912
    edited January 2012

    Sollten Wir ein Deutsch sprechende Gruppe anfangen? Es mag sein, dass es genügend Frauen gibt!? Wir haben auch eine Gruppe, die Französisch sprechen. Sagen Sie uns bescheid ob Wir das probieren sollten.

    Liebe Grüße von BCO

    p.s. Just asking if we should start a German-speaking group here to help her. There may be more German speakers than we know.

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  • sheila888
    sheila888 Member Posts: 25,634
    edited January 2012

    Germanfrench my friend where are you?

    We worried that you are not posting.

    We love you and you are never alone. you have so many sisters here who understand what you are going through.

    Please come and post something.

    HUGS♥

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  • vivirasselena
    vivirasselena Member Posts: 278
    edited January 2012

    Actually, I don't speak ANY German, I just used Google.  I DO, however speak Spanish fluently!

    I hope German French is okay.  What a tough spot to be in...I'd take her in if she were here in the ATL

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  • Galsal
    Galsal Member Posts: 1,886
    edited January 2012
    I know...figured that out as read further down.  Have used the translator for Spanish before myself.  Tongue out
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  • Anita333
    Anita333 Member Posts: 45
    edited January 2012

    Hallo Marie,

    Ich wuensche Ihnen viel Glueck und nur das beste. Die Frauen hier sind sehr hilfbereit und antworten jede Frage die man hat. Schreiben Sie uns wie es Ihnen geht.

    Haben Sie mal die Deutsche Forum gesehen? Vieleicht werden Sie dort auch unterstuezung bekommen.

    http://mitbrustkrebsleben.community4um.de/index.php?sid=41b4c7bcb1a27ac543b566a389945b6f 

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  • Heidihill
    Heidihill Member Posts: 5,476
    edited January 2012

    Marie, du kannst mir eine Privat-Nachricht (Private Messages, oben) schicken, wenn du Hilfe brauchst oder mit jemand sprechen willst. Ich verstehe die Sprache sehr gut, mache aber viel grammatische Fehler.

    Moderators, wieso nicht? Wäre interessant.

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  • mks16
    mks16 Member Posts: 415
    edited January 2012

    Ich wuerde auch daran interessiert. Mein Deutsch ist auch nicht mehr das beste, ich bin aber dort geboren and vermisse Deutschland.

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  • Suzybelle
    Suzybelle Member Posts: 920
    edited January 2012

    My governor has pardoned a ton of criminals for who knows why, but my BC sisters (and moderators) have restored my faith in humanity.  Thank you, ladies, for being so caring.

    Germanfrench, so sorry you are having a hard time - I second the idea of contacting the police dept.  They can get you in touch with a shelter to help you short term and get you some long term help as well.

    Best of luck to you -

    Suzanne

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