Calling all ladies in their 20's

Hey Jendon,

My kids are 9,7,and 6 there are 2 girls and 1 boy right in the middle. Im glad that I found this, and with people my age, not that Im glad any of you have to be here. For me it would just be odd trying to talk to most of the ladies in my town about any of this and the 1 person I would feel comfortable passed 6 years ago. I have a ton of questions but at this time none that any of you can answer because they are questions that bring me out of the dark. Being recently diagnosed  I guess its normal to feel like you are in the dark and pushing for answers! Thanks for the welcome Jen!

Thanks Kiss! Its helping out alot finding this website and this discussion board. I knew i wasnt alone and the only 28 yr old to deal with this, and to have all of you giving me a heads up helps me to feel more in control of whats going on. In the begining my head was spinning and I was angry because I felt like I was getting answers fast enough, now I know these things take time and there is a process I have to go through. I hope all of you are doing well today and yall are in my thoughts and prayers.

Thanks Kiss  Going to meet my surgeon for the first time tomorrow, a little nervous about that but Im ready to do this and get things started! Hope all is doing well, my prayers are with you!!

NannaBaby,

that´s great! Congratulations!

I was diagnosed one week after my 28th birthday and doing chemo now ( 6 rounds TEC), still 2 to go. My next session will be on Dec 27th and I don´t want to think about it, because I don´t wanna go there any more. Of course I know that I have to... but it´s hard.

Sometimes I still feel like this whole cancer thing is not really happening to ME.

I hope that thats a good sign.  I went in for an US and ended up having an US, mammogram and biopsy on the same day, followed by an appt with the surgeon 4 days later.  The radiologist came into the room, literally within minutes of the US tech starting her scan... I really hope the lack of urgency is a good sign and maybe its just something benign.  Sending you happy thoughts!! Have a great Holiday

I've been MIA again....we went for a mini vacation to Seattle and Whistler around the middle of the month (tried skiing but my energy and strength wasn't quite up to par - still had a good time though!) and I've been busy at work the other days. Even though I'm only part time right now, I still feel like I'm full time! My free days are spent going to appointments or taking care of things that have been missed during treatments.

 MissRC - Did you get word on whether you will be taking Tamoxifen?

Kissxxoo - Welcome to the group. I'm also 29 years old. My oncologist wants me on Tamoxifen for 5 years (no negotiations), but I am planning on taking a break at 2 years (another oncologist told me that would be okay). We were already trying to have a baby since the start of 2010 with a complicated miscarriage along the way, so waiting another 5 years is far too long. When do you think you'd be wanting to try? I'm glad you caught it at stage 1, but sorry about the BRCA result. Are you planning on removing your ovaries after you're done having children? Some people who are BRCA positive or even highly hormone positive do.

Amanda - Welcome and sorry you have to be join this club that no-one ever wants to join. I was also 28 diagnosed, but no kids yet. Have you decided on your treatment/surgical plan?

 Nanna - Congrats on being 1 year cancer free! I agree, I'm going to use my surgery date as the day I became cancer free too based on what my oncologist told me. So mine will be coming up in May

Moonflower - You're almost there! And I have my moments too where I feel like I never really had cancer. 

Ntvet - Like Minimacsmom, I went in and had my ultrasound, mammo, and biopsy all on the same day. I was diagnosed the next day and saw the surgeon the day after that.  Hoping everything is okay for you.

 AFM - I'm getting my new nipple on Dec 30th! After that, I'll just have the tattooing to do and then continue on Tamoxifen for the next 22 or so months before taking a break to have a baby.

To everyone, I hope you have a wonderful holiday. I know that when you're in the thick of treatments, that isn't necessarily easy (I was going through chemo for my molar pregnancy last December-Feb), but I think the only thing we can do is try to enjoy the company of family and friends and be thankful for how far we've come considering the year we've all had. Also saying a prayer for the ones we've lost along the way (including LibraryJenn). 

KK, i will be on tamoxifen as well once chemo is completed in January.  My Onc said stopping is not ideal, but being so young it is a different circumstance.  it will be in about a year and a half two years that we try for children.  We have to plan a wedding first and i will have to wait at least one year from Chemo.  I will have my ovaries removed when i am done having children, i had alwayed prepared myself from that since my grandmother dies of ovarian cancer, no one in my family has ever had breast cancer, just ovarian.  I guess at this point i am glad it was breast instead of ovarian because i may still be able to have children at this point and was able to detect my cancer at an early stage...

Going for my third treatment this week and then i have just one left!!! Thank goodness cause the side effects are getting worse with each treatment...my muscles feel like i have been to P90X or something lol

Hello everyone,

I am new to this message board thing but thought I would give it a shot to come on and say hi. I was 29 when I got diagnosed this year. I had a mascetomy in June, 4 months of chemo done and tomorrow I finish my last session of radiotherapy (my god I never thought I would say that when they gave me the timetable!!). I am still on Herceptin and just started Tamoxifen so am on that path already. Reconstruction will be in 12 months time. Initially I was a bit bummed about having to wait for so long but now I couldnt think of anything worse than spending anymore time in hospital I need a break away from it.  At the moment I am really stressing about my hair not growing back. I have felt so terrible about the way I look and it was the only thing that was getting me through chemo was that when it was over it would mean my hair would be coming back. I finished chemo 2 months ago. Tiny, fair, blondey, fuzz bits are starting to come through but I just thought I would have more by now. Does anyone have a timescale as to when they first went scarfless? I am happy with the military look so any sort of covering will do. Would be nice to return to work not looking like I am still on chemo by wearing a scarf. I am finding being patient waiting for it to grow is impossible. I have been so good the last 8 months being patient that being patient just a "little bit longer" is driving me crazy. Hope to hear from someone soon who has been in the same "cant wait any longer for my hair to grow back" boat xxxx

HPP: Congrats on being through Chem and Rads!  What a milestone!  I can't wait to join you

 Shensley:  Sorry you had to join us too but there are lots of young mommies on the forums with lots of great advice.  My son was 15 mo old when I was DX and he is 17 mo old now.  Let me tell you he has his fair share of tantrums now, more so than before BUT he is doing fine in general.  He mostly hates the fact that mommy has to be gone so much and then I couldn't interact as much with him post surgery.  A family friend and child psych told me that there will be behavioral differences due to all the fast changes, but this process won't "damage him".  As long as he is loved and cared for by people who love him he will be fine.  Change is very different from the neglect that causes most problems with children.  I hope this helps, its comforted me.  I just make a concerted effort to spend really good time with him when I feel really good.  And we don't give into his tantrums, we don't just let him have whatever because the process sucks for him to   He can talk some so we make him use his words and say please instead of the easy point and scream.  I hope that your stage comes out really low and you don't have to go through all the chemo/rads crazy, but feel free to pm me anytime!

I hope that everyone had a great Christmas and Happy New Year! Let's hope that 2012 is a better year for all of us! 

kk11: I am still waiting to hear if I have to take Tamoxifin. I should know in Jan.

Amanda - Good luck on the 11th. What surgery are you having again? My personal experience is that time really flew by this year during treatment. There were of course days that felt really long, especially when you're not feeling good or are in pain, but overall it went quickly. It's also a bit more peaceful once you've made all the decisions and are able to get the ball rolling!

 MissRC - Will be looking forward to an update from you this month regarding the Tamoxifen. If they say you should, do you know if you will take it the recommended 5 years or take a break?

Rosaa my prayers are with you!! I havent started chemo yet got to have surgery first then will start chemo Im fairly new here myself so I know how u feel!!

kk11 - i am so happy i went for a second opinion and found this doctor! He is amazing and really cares about me as a person not just a tumor.  He talked about my relationship and depression and so many other aspects of this disease that my first onc didnt even bring up.  I drive an hour for treatment just cause i am so happy with my medical team

Hello again My bioposy showed infiltrating ductal carcinoma on stage two with no metastate or evolution all my body is ok the doctor told me it will be manageable and that this type of cancer is frequent my plan is FEC and Taxol or taximifére then surgery thenn radiotherapy wish me the best of luck n keep me posted with ur sucees stories it makes me feel releived and gives me courage and faith

Rosaa - So sorry to hear about the diagnosis. I also had stage 2. It's hard to wrap your head around all of this, but you will get through it. We are here for you!

 SKD - Awesome that your oncologist gave you the OK to take a break from Tamoxifen to have a baby!  My oncologist is totally against it, but I have met with others that aren't opposed, so we are planning on taking a break closer to the 2 year mark (been on it for nearly 3 months now). I wish my oncologist was more okay with it, because it sucks going against doctors advice, but then in the end it's our body and our life that's impacted.

 MissRC - You and I are on a similar path it seems, except I'm not getting radiation (good margins and no positive lymph nodes - would have had this if I had a lumpectomy). I was diagnosed April 19th, mastectomy on May 25th, port surgery on June 28th, chemo from June 28th-October 4th, implant swapout on November 4th, and nipple reconstruction December 30th. How long is your hair now? I am amazed at how mine is coming in. I barely had anything for 2 months following chemo but in the last month, I've had some amazing growth! How is the part time work going? I also went back part time (actually in August while I was still going through chemo because I didn't want to have to pay COBRA) and am working my way up to full time. I'm up to 3 days a week now and will probably try to move to 4 days a week by the end of the month.