why are the muslim ladies so quiet??

Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakhatu,

I have not posted in awhile but I plan to be more active, insha Allaah, so please let us keep in touch. What treatment plan are you using? My dx was April 19, 2009 IDC 1.5 cm Stage 1, Grade 2, 3 Neg Nodes,  ER/PR+, Her2-.

I had a Lumpectomy, no chemo, no rads, no tamox and decided to use alternative methods. So far so good according to my latest Breast Therm in September, alhamdullilah.

How are you doing Sister and how is your family coping? Do you have support in your community?

Regarding your question "Why are the Muslim ladies so quiet?" I  have explored this and found a few reasons. Many cultural barriers also shame and  fear seems to be paralyzing  for some. With more awareness, education and trust in Allaah,  I know that we can be more open and supportive.

I will be posting more,  insha Allaah and I hope that more Sisters will do the same.

Eff~

"And We send down from the Quran that which is a healing and a mercy to those who believe..." (Quran 17:82)

Assalamu alaiki,  

Sorry for the late response. I was visiting with a lovely group of women on another thread but unfortunately some didn't like the way the conversations were going and kept getting people banned. Hopefully the situation will be resolved or the deleters will mature, whichever comes first.

Moving on, I was born and raised in America, lived in Lebanon for 8 years, returned to the States and am I planning, praying and hoping to return to Lebanon as soon as possible. It's a beautiful country, life is simple at least for me, great family, delicious, healthy food. The only concern I have is regarding treatment for bc but while writing this post I looked up my old ob gyn online so I will send her a message and hopefully she will reply with encouraging news.

Ya, Sis, may Allaah make it easy on you, give you a quick and speedy recovery and make this a shifa'a for you on yaum al qiyamma, ameen.  I had a few panic attacks since my dx  and a really dark, dark day but, alhamdullilah I was able to get to a better place.

Please keep in touch Sis. I am planning to start posting more, recipes, resources, suggestions, etc... insha Allaah and please do the same.

Eff~

 Rasulullah (pbuh) used to recite the following dua:

"O Allah, I seek refuge in You from the heart that does not have the fear (of Allah), from the dua that is not responded, from the nafs that is never satisfied, and from the knowledge that does not bring benefit."
Tirmizee, Daawat 69, (3478)

Hi Eff

I admire your courage and persistance.

Hope you come back to "see" us soon, Eff!

 السلام عليكم اخواتى       انا سمية سودانية مقيمة فى الامارات    بما انكن مسلمات  اتوقع ان يكون لبعضكن معرفة باللغة العربية وبالتالى يمكن للاخوات اللاتى يجدن صعوبة فى التواصل باللغة الانجليزية المشاركة والاستفادة من المشاركات الاخرى فمريضات السرطان لسن فقط فى امريكا      ارجو الاستجابة ولكن الحب والدعاء

Hi ladies, Asalaam Alaykum! I am a muslim sister who was recently diagnosed with BC at 37 yrs, I have 2 small kids aged 4.5 & almost 3 so you can imagine my emotions when i was diagnosed. I have no family history of BC. I had a lumpectomy on 5/24 and scheuled to start 4-6 cycles of TC chemo in July then rads then Tamoxifen. I am glad I found you sisters and I ahope we can be able to support eachother. Can someone please send me PM dua's to read during this difficult time? I do my prayers and some duas but I wont mind to get soem more.  BTW, anyone here from the New England area?

Thank You. 

Salam everyone,



Great to stumble upon this link. Being a muslim, I've felt a little isolated since my diagnosis. Im 40, 2 small kids 6 & 4. Had a double mast a month ago. Allah blessed me and lymph nodes were clear, so no chemo, but have to be on tamoxifen. Anyone here had experience with tamox?



Snoopy73, I moved from boston 3 years ago to houston, hope you connect with others in the area. I wish i could connect with other muslims in this situation here too. Thanks.

Thanks Snoopy73. Its unfortunate that muslim ladies are not very open, maybe because of cultural taboos asssociated with talking about breast cancer? How is Tamoxifen working out for you? I'm supposed to start on it, but am apprehensive about the side effects. Right now 5 weeks into a BMX with reconstruction, and starting to feel a lilttle better.

Salaam my friends,

I am not Muslim but lived in a Muslim country for two years after college. I agree that cultural taboos play a part in why there is not a more open discussion of bc in the Islamic community but it is only within the last 30 years or so, in my opinion, that we have become much more open to talking about it in general. My grandmother passed away from bc in the mid 60's and it was very hush hush. When asking my father for details he was very unclear because although he was an adult at the time, they really didn't talk about it. So, you are the trailblazers, dear sisters. Keep it up and , inshallah, this serious issue will become more open in your community.

Caryn

Hello Dingomama, sorry for the late response... I have not been online since before the holidays, i had family around, then they left and i had the cold and was in bed for a few days:-( anyway, i am well and back on my feet (kind of:-) this is my 2nd motnh on tamoxifen, and so far i cant see any SEs. All the best to you!!

Salam ConfusedZee

I am not muslim but my husband and children are. How did your appointment go? i pray you got good news and things are fine. From my experience mammo and ultrasound can give false results and I would opt for a PET CT scan which I have found to be a much more accurate diagnostic tool.

Stay strong and take comfort from your faith

Umm Faisal