I am sad today, but....
Ok my friends, I thought of starting this thread that wouldn't be a rant. Wouldn't be a whine (well, not exactly) and would be a way of venting and support.
The rules of engagement:
You must write a post about something that makes you sad, all of a sudden. Not depression-related. Just the "once in a while" sadness that sometimes strikes from the smallest thing.
And right after that, you have to write what would be the positive aspect of the thing that makes you sad.
I will start.
I am sad. I was cleaning the drawers in our chest drawer in the bedroom. Lodged between some bed-sheets, I found some condoms - definitely more than a couple years old. They are from the time I was slim and slender, with pretty boobs, making love like crazy to my boyfriend. They became obsolete once I got pushed into chemical menopause. In a way it was more than looking at my "before" photos. It was like looking at an important chunk of my femininity that I lost forever.
The good part: no more spendng so much money on condoms. And better feeling. I'll be slim and slender again, one of these days!
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Thanks for starting this thread! Sometimes out of nowhere, I miss my mom, who we lost in
2003. What a wonderful loving, smart beautiful woman. Positive aspect? Well, she is in heaven experiencing perfect peace and knowing how much I love her. xo
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Wow, how timely. I literally just came home from shopping. I stopped in a little Christmas Thrift shop. My sister was with me. We lost my mother in January, 2011. Every year for as long as I can remember, my mother has given me a Christmas music box or water globe for the holidays. I have quite the collection. In this thrift store there was a beautiful Multi-tiered Christmas water globe. My sister saw it first and said "Hey, do you still collect water globes?".
I just matter of factly said "yes, mom get's me a new one every year." I was not sad, didn't even hit me that mom is not here to do that this year.
We went about our shopping and checked out. Then she had to run back in as she forgot something. She came out with the water globe in her arms and I broke down in tears.
My sister is physically and mentally disabled, but not severe, she is fully functional, but needs watching over. Before my mother passed, she made me promise that I would take care of my sister, and I do all that I can.
I broke down in tears because, when she came out of the store with the globe in her arms, I realized that, for a moment, I had not thought about Mom being gone this Christmas.
Then it hit me that (and here's the positive aspect) my sister is also taking care of me and probably made my mother the same promise.
I love family and I have a wonderful one.
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