Crap!

Aw wrsmith so sorry to see you going through this again.  The waiting is horrible. I'm with you, crap crap crap.

Here's hoping for the best.

I am on my first (and hopefully last) go around.  I went super agressive with BMX and immediate reconstruction, although I had only one lump, with all the goods signs.  I don't want to be back.

Good luck and keep us posted.

I'm with Titan.

Once you are in the "high risk" population, you get first class service.  Even if it turns up to be nothing.  And if it turns up to be something, you will be taken care of immediately.  Just take a deep breath and know you will likely get better treatment faster than a rookie.  That also means that you may need to make your choices quickly, but not in a moment of panic.  Never in a moment of panic.  Okay?  Breathe deeply.  Again.  Again.  Now decide what to ask the doc if you do have an issue again.  Make a list, my friend.  Be prepared. 

A lot of people think that their breasts are their enemy if a tumor turns up, especially if it is not the first, but unless you have advanced disease or a BRCA gene, the removal and reconstruction can be much more invasive and life-altering than a lumpectomy, so if that is your choice, be sure it is well thought out.

We are all sending out our best hopes for you!

Just so you know wrsmithx2, I had a needle aspiration a few months ago, and it was clear.  Not everything docs do to be sure there is no problem means there is a problem.  And until you know, you will be worried, but it does often turn up right.  Your DH is at your side.  What a good man he must be.  Some women here lose their partners when they get sick, and sometimes those men try to come back when the hard work is over, but it is too late for them.

wrsmithx2 - what a crappy, crappy thing to have to go through right now. You are in my thoughts. Will you be having further testing, such as an MRI, CT, or PET scan? Please keep us posted!



It is so hard on the husbands. Mine is a "fixer" as well - he is always asking me and my doctor what can we do to FIX this? Not necessarily cure it, but how can we stop this SE,or that SE. They feel helpless when there just isn't anything to be done but go through the process, and in your case, a second awful time.



I too hope this is a huge false alarm. Best to you.



Susan

Adding my prayers to the list.

Ugh, how awful.  The waiting game is the worst.  Hang in there...hopefully tomorrow they can get enough tissue to tell you everything is b9!

Please know that we are waiting with you and that you are not alone.!  Big hug to you!  Hopefully they will take the time and get enough tissue to make a determination...

wrsmith2x,

If you have to wait, give yourself a pass this weekend, okay?  Spend a day doing what you like to do.  If you have to do holiday stuff, involve the DH.  He needs to feel involved and needed.  It's important to preserve that bond if he is a good man.  The menfolk like to find a fix, but when they can't they can become frustrated.  So give him something constructive to do that makes a difference for the holidays or your family or for you.  Let him achieve something wonderful for you that will make him proud.  He can wash you car or set up a tree or go grocery shopping or wrap gifts or do the laundry.  He probably won't care what it is so long as he feels he is contributing to making things right.

wrsmith2x, we're all wishing the best for you. Waiting doesn't get easier, but you're not waiting alone.

Your Mods

A huge OH NO!  I can relate to how you must be feeling, having been diagnosed for the 2nd time with TNBC in Feb. (1st was 9 years ago) .  Like yours, my tumor was in the same breast in the same spot as the first time.  It is so unfair that you have to go through this all over again....my heart goes out to you.  And ditto on getting rid of both breasts after the 2nd diagnosis -- that's exactly what I did.  Really happy to have them gone....troublemakers!  Hang in there.

Wow..wrsmith..I really expected this to just a "bump" in the road..this totally sucks...really....deep breath..ok...time for the girls to go and I don't blame you for doing this...we will help you get through this..and to move on...again...