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Hi ladies, you are all so wonderful to hang on with me out here in cyberspace! I guess I should have just waited until my 6 month check in January. The appt was so frustrating - I had a different doc (unexpected) and she checked me over but was in a huge hurry. She also had ice cold hands, was rough and a terrible bedside manner.Lovely, eh?!
There is a slight change on my nipple and she said oh that isn't cancer, that's an angio something or other? I need to follow up on that a little. I asked her if that could be causing the burning sensations, twinges, pain, etc and she said, exasperated "I don't know." At the end, she said "I will schedule another (big sigh) diagnostic mammo for you in December but I expect it won't show anything." I said well I have a dense breast shouldn't I get an ultrasound and she said no, I see no need.
Then, she says, "I don't know what to tell women with these phantom symptoms other than it's not cancer. What else can I say?" and rushed off without saying goodbye. I thought she was coming back, you know how they come back in with your record, put the order in the system, etc. I got dressed and sat there and waited for a few minutes, then realized no, she was not coming back, that was it! I was not happy, but what can you do?? I'll get the diagnostic mammo again, I guess. I did forget about the good side, it's been a year so need to do it anyway. It is easy to get hyperfocused on one side and forget the other.
As I sit here I can feel the white burning sensation and some pain. It's not debilitating, it's just ever present. This is the new normal for that breast, I suppose. The only thing I can say is that I am trying to take care of me, so if something is wrong, I won't beat myself up.
You are all wonderful, thanks for the virtual hug. I know you understand how this feels, thanks for being here.
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Oh carpe-I'm so sorry you got a doctor like that. I was hoping you'd get a caring, careful doc who listened to your worries and take you seriously. Maybe another doc would have come to the same conclusion, but she sure needs to learn something about how to reassure patients. Its not clear to me either why she shrugged off the idea of an ultrasound. I'm so sorry, carpe.
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Wow, that was a horrible appointment. I mean really, WTF?!!? I am at a loss for words...And why won't they give you an US for your dense breast?!? Ugh! She had no business acting that way. I'm so frustrated for you! You need another hug for sure. And a virtual smack on the back of the head of that doc.
I hope you get a much better person to deal with during your diagnostic mammo. Double Ugh!
I'm sorry carpe...
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Thanks Leaf and GreenSeaTurtle, I appreciate that you share my frustration argh. A smack in the back of the head for the doc, indeed! I have to schedule my diagnostics tomorrow so we'll see how it goes. Sometimes I want to just give up and say F it, I'll do my self exams and stop this madness. But then the "what if" thoughts take over. Sigh. I keep hearing about these whole body MRI scans on the radio, I wonder if that woudl be a smart thing to do, checks the breasts et al! Gotta check that out, maybe can use my annual bonus money from work.
Hugs to all of you, you are so wonderful to be here with me.
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WOW! No US for dense breast??? Hugs to you. It's not easy to deal with a stupid doc. Maybe you can find a smarter doc?
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Flash, you made me laugh!! I need a better doc, for sure. Mine retired in August and I'm trying new one out now....this one gets an F. ;-)
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I agree that Doc deserves an F. It's always frustrating when you go to the doctor thinking they are actually caring for you and they seem disinterested. Sending you a big HUG!!!!
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Thanks, Janet! :-) You are all so wonderful.
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