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Eli my MO did it this year because I made him feel bad that he draws my blood every three months and did not want to get stuck again. At my MO they do my bloodwork first in the lab then you go see the Dr. The lab told me next time just get the order from my GYN who normally does it yearly and just bring it in with me and they can draw it for her with the same stick. This year I had been on tamox about 4 months when I had my cholesteral checked and my ratio had lower. I always have overal high, but my good chol is really high and my bad is low so my ratio is great. This time my good was a little lower and my bad was a little higher. I am really hoping that was a fluke and not going to continue to change. I already eat oatmeal every day for breakfast and work out all the time. However my Dad died at 49 of a heart attach so I do have the genes.
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Barbe......good luck! I hope that you get the results before a week. Waiting sucks.
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Sherryc, I remember you told me about your GYN doing that before. When I asked mine if he could do the same, he thought it would creat some kind of billing problem, not to mention putting work on another doctors lab and employees, so he didn't go for it.
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Barbe....waiting a week stinks. Hoping and praying for good results for you....
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Welcome newbies! Vent away, cry, scream, laugh, it's all good here. Great news Janis and Claire. Barbe-Your waiting with friends, so vent as needed girl.
I'm the girl in front with the skirt above her knees. I always like the younger clothes. Too bad they don't make me look young! My PCP does my blood work. I go in next Monday for that. Hope my cholesterol is even lower this time and my A1C. Diet is a 4 letter word to me so I don't even think of it as something I have to do, I just try to eat right. Oatmeal, YUM, I like mine with raisins and walnut pieces and splenda. I use water rather than milk (don't like milk, YUCK!) Kitty
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Hmm, if that is the picture from work I missed that one. I would be the one in my jammies, oops I meant scrubs.
Becca
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Eli I cant find my spot in the pic. It musta been taken while I was out sick one day, lol! I can safely say Im not the chic in a dress!
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I have never worn a suit in my life. All the ladies look great, but I am a jeans and t-shirt kind of person. Clearly I was not a part of this semi formal group pic. Maybe I was in the bathroom with Barbe. You know how we have to go in pairs!

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Is that me in the back with the blue top and long red hair? Must be an old picture, since my hair's short now... though I'm growing it long again, so maybe it's a photo from the future??
Hugs to all!
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LOL Janis. I remember when a dude at work asked me what a mammogram was like. I said lets go put your sack in that vice over there and let tightn it down a far as it will go. Needless to say never was I asked again.
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I always call it a Slam-O-Gram. Just seems to be more descriptive!

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I had a new nurse yesterday. She's going down her list of questions and she asks if I have had surgery. "Yes, a double mastectomy in January. Her next question--you can't make this up--have you had a mammogram in the last year?? Uh--hello???
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OMG Claire, Im shocked!
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Welcome to this site and this thread, newbies!
We understand the roller coaster of emotions that go along with cancer. Vent all you need to, feel how you feel and express it openly. I used to be worried about "political correctness." I'm tired of that now so, I just say how I feel and what is on my mind.
Speaking of the mind and emotions, I want to encourage anyone who is feeling depressed to see a counselor and try medication. My counseling sessions and meds have helped me so much! I've been on that downward spiral into the depression pit and it's a dark place. When you fight cancer, you need and deserve help in the face of depression.
Elimar--I love your quote about cancer! It is so true, too...."cancer is so random, so unfair and fights so dirty..." Words of truth, girl. Words of truth.
On to the photo-- I'm the blonde in the very back wearing a red top (jacket?). I love to be in the back row for group pictures--I try to hide my "wide-load" hips!

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Funny Claire, I bet that gives you lots of confidence in the new nurse huh?
I missed getting in the picture, I was out riding my mule.
1/2 way thru the week, I hope those who have had tests are good & I'm keeping fingers crossed for those still going in this week. I'll bring along some of my new favorite (healthy) treat, apples smothered with honey & cinnamin...or maybe some mint chocolate chip ice cream to the PPs
I'm beginning to feel better just reading up on all your posts. I was a bit grumpy today thinking about upcoming surgery. What a pain in the butt.... Thanks girls!
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Five pages back...how? I just blinked and you all wrote 5 pages worth!!! Hugs and all best wishes to those still undergoing testing this week. Fitting into so many pockets is going to be great for my diet
I was during chemo during the holidays my year of tx and while it sucked, it had its up sides too. It was the first year we just stayed home with our own children instead of travelling around to family member's houses and some new traditions were born. I'm glad it was so long ago that the bad parts fade into my memory and that's what I wish for all of you. Oh, by the way, I need volunteers to find out what those on my gift list want ... any takers? I don't mind buying/shopping I just have no idea what to get, i.e. my own kids ... daughters 33 and 34. One married, one engaged. Why do I see so many shoulders raising and heads going from one side to the other??? Come on friends!!! LOL -
Claire........Good thing I wasn't drinking anything when I read your post! LOLOLOL....oh my! She went to University of Stoopid!
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I'm just doing stockings this year. My stockings are about $50 worth of stuff and the kids miss them. Now I have to do spouses too! I always get socks for the guys and they are so pitifully thankful!! Why don't guys buy their own socks?
Last year I did a gift for each plus a house gift, but now I have 3 grandsons (only 2 last year) so it's going to get expensive if I don't cut it down. I'm old enough to know that my gifts aren't the highlight of their Christmas, I just want to make it fun. My son (30!) LOVES when I wrap everything that goes into the stockings. That's the hardest part!!! New toothbrush, deck of cards, crossword puzzle book, special edition magazine, socks, lip chapsticks, lip gloss, mitts, bath scrubbies, etc. They have a ball.
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noodle6, So glad you did not show up for the photo, if you had one of those mules with you. A mule always acts up and tries to be the center of attention in group shots. I don't know why.
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Because they're asses?
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Hahahahahahahahahahahaha...Ha...Ha...HA! Half-asses!
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Here is a little eye candy (fits into any diet) I wanted to post last week but hadn't figured out how yet

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Question ladies- Do you count your cancerversary from dx or from the surgery that gave you clear margins?
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Well, I haven't worn that fuschia shirt since about Aug, but today I feel like the far right gal!
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Ceez, I count mine from the day of DX as there was only seven days between DX and surgery. It doesn't really matter, it's a personal coice.
Mmmmm I think you can just see me at the back on the right.....maybe.
Love n hugs. Chrissy
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Wow....took my team 5 weeks. Felt like forever.
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Noodle love the eye candy and love that movie too! I could watch it over and over.
I count mine at the time the cancer was removed. Like Chrissy says its just a personal choice.
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Hi Ladies,
I have a question--3 weeks out from the BMX and I have done only online shopping for the holidays, mostly for the kids. I am just not up to going out, walking, driving yet. Now, each day, a new email comes in from a class mom, etc. etc. asking for grab bag gifts, help with parties, etc. and the whole host of other holiday activities that we all do. I am so wiped, I am actually dreading each new phone call and email. How do you all explain or respond (sometimes to people who do not know about the bc) or politely decline invitations to help, etc.?
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Victoria - how you handle it is kind of a personal thing. I usually LOVED to do all of that helping with holiday activities stuff, so I was bummed when I missed out on some things dealing with treatments a couple of years ago. On the other hand, I have a friend who was generally overcommited to all of that "helping at the school" stuff, and she was unapologetic about using her cancer to make a break from it. She said, "If you're dealt the cancer card, you should play it."
If you don't feel up to doing these things and you don't want to explain why, you can just be vague - most people won't force details out of you. Sometimes, doing a bit of these kinds of things can be a nice distraction, if you enjoy it and you get energy from helping out in this way. If it sucks the energy out of you on a normal day OR your doctors have cautioned you about staying away from germs, don't feel guilty: this is a time when you have to focus on yourself and do things to help yourself heal and move forward. If that process includes skipping out on all of the holiday overkill this year, so be it. Sometimes it seems like a few of us do it all - don't feel guilty about sharing the "fun" this year if you need to. I did try to get my husband to do some of the things I usually did; let's just say he has other strengths.
I tended to tell people about the bc if it was going to prevent me from doing something. Everyone understands that it's a huge game changer. But in addition, I wanted to tell people to (1) help dispell myths such as "I don't have to worry about breast cancer because it's not in my family, and (2) I got such great help from the aforementioned friend who was diagnosed a year before me that I want to make sure someone else has the opportunity to use me as a source of help.
Just wanted to let you all know that yesterday I celebrated a Tamoxiversary: I completed three fun-filled years of Tamoxification, and tonight's dosing will begin the first of my two remaining years. Please, no celebrations. Tamoxifen is not particularly helpful with my libido, so partially clothed men aren't much of a treat. Also, if I have too much sugar or high-fat food or alcohol, I have to endure a festival of flashing. Most of my side effects have moderated, which may be good or bad; I feel better, but does this mean my body is secretly accessing estrogen it has hidden somewhere? I don't like Tamoxifen, but I DO like having something I can take that feels protective.
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Victoria I find honesty is the best policy. However if you do not want to share the BC, you might just have to be vague and explain that you are "under the weather" and just not able to help this time around. I do not think you need to go into a long detailed explanation no matter what you choose to tell them. Simply put....you would love to help out, but are unable this time but please ask again next year. I think most people will understand this.
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